Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Music Review: Frank Ocean & Jhene Aiko

This week's music review consists of something old and something new. The two artists, Frank Ocean and Jhene Aiko, are quite similar. Both projects are great in their own right. Both projects are full of soulful lyrics and tracks. Both Ocean and Aiko are singer/songwriters. Both reside in LA. Both have unique voices. And, last but not least, both have a story to tell that is at first thought unique to them. I was thoroughly impressed with both "Channel Orange" and "Sailing Souls." Let's discuss them.

From the first time I heard of Frank Ocean, I was a fan. Back then he was known as Lonnie Breaux. He was from my hometown. When he released "Novacane," his name became known worldwide. His mixtape was in constant rotation for months. It's just really good r&b. Soulful melodies and lyrics run rampant on both of his projects. His debut "Channel Orange" was one I was waiting for. He lived up to the hype. There are some truly great tracks on his debut. What I love the most is the fact that it just flows. I do not have to skip around. I can press play on #1 and play it all the way through. The constant theme of love and heartbreak is obvious. It's one that everyone can relate to. Ocean is an awesome writer, a good singer and a wonderful artist. His art makes me happy.

I was late getting on the Jhene Aiko train. Her voice is one I've known for a while. I hadn't heard her "Sailing Souls" before last week. I was sold on it from the first listen. Her voice is very light and sweet. But, I really enjoy it. I like her lyrics and her subject matter. She seems to be a lot older than she really is. There isn't one track that I dislike. Aiko really put her heart into this project. She is currently signed to Def Jam and is said to be working on her debut "Souled Out." I cannot wait to hear this as well. Hope you guys enjoy this little bit of old and new music.

Monday, July 30, 2012

Rant: Dude, Shut Up!

After seeing this Jamie Rohrs character give interview after interview, I've come to one conclusion. He is a punk. Being in a dark theater and a maniac is shooting people may make one panic. I do not understand how a father could place his 4 month old baby boy on the floor. Or leave his then girlfriend and her 4 year old daughter in the theater. Or jump over a balcony and flee the theater. Or get in his car and leave the scene without his family. Why is he giving interviews and crying as if he's a hero?? He is scum. And, that proposal at the hospital seems suspect. His fiancee is a fool for accepting. If a man loves me then leaving me in harm's way would not be an option. I really want Rohrs to stop showing his face and talking. I cannot even wrap my mind around the fact that this woman accepted his proposal. Just sad all the way around. In my opinion, Rohrs is a coward. And, who wants to marry a coward? Not me!

Sunday, July 29, 2012

N.O. Bounce

New Orleans is known for many things. Music being one of the top ones. Music in the N.O. means one thing to me: Bounce. Bounce music is hard to describe. But, it's a feeling. I am speaking more to the Bounce music of the 90's. I do not really care for this new age Bounce music. Maybe it's because it's so drastically different. Either way, I was feeling nostalgic last week and decided to look up this old tracks. Listening to these songs instantly brighten my mood. I started remembering so many things when I heard specific songs. I was in my own musical euphoria!

These songs literally framed my teenage years. From the age of 12 to about 21, this was my life. Even now, if I here any of the songs below, I have to dance. I cannot help it. They bring back so many good memories. So many dances, parties, clubs, and bar nights. I really had a great time growing up. So carefree and fun. My friends and I always had the most fun when we got together and went out. We were the party, always. The N.O. Bounce scene has drastically changed and it doesn't seem as fun as it was when I was a kid. I am loving YouTube for the simple fact that I was able to find so many of my favorite tracks. If you're from the NO and are of a certain age, these songs will be everything to you. If you aren't from the N.O., take a walk down memory lane with me. Enjoy!!

Saturday, July 28, 2012

It's My 2nd (Blog) Birthday!!!

Two years!! Wow!! I am so excited about this. Today marks the second birthday of my blog. I have poured my heart and soul into my words here. It has not always been easy but it has always been worth it. I have posted over 600 blogs on various topics. All of them meant something to me. All of them made me feel something. This blog has helped me through a few rough patches in my life. It has been my salvation in a way. I can only imagine what I will write about next. I just know that I will do it here on my little piece of the world wide web. Writing has been my passion since I was in the 4th grade. Being able to create in such a way as this has given me happiness I cannot even describe.

Every day, so far, this year I have been able to stick to my daily blogging goal. Hell, there were even some days that I posted two blogs a day. This is a huge accomplishment for me. I think that personal blogs are much harder to maintain than entertainment/gossip blogs. I write about music, poetry, literature, politics, television amongst other things. Then, there is the overwhelming helping of my own life that I lay bare here. I am so appreciative for all of the people who have visited my blog, read my stories, and commented. You make this worthwhile for me. Knowing that someone, some where, is reading my words makes my soul happy. I will forever chase that feeling. So, happy birthday to me and my blog!! See you next year as we turn three!!

Friday, July 27, 2012

Places I Must Visit: Paris, France

Paris, France has been depicted as one of the most beautiful cities in the world. It seems to be the destination spot of many people, myself included. I want to go there. From the national monuments to the local restaurants, everything about the city seems magical. It appears to be a city that you can't help but love. I love movies and books about Paris. It is so far removed from my daily life. I'm quite enthralled with Paris. I loved the last two episodes of "Sex & the City" for that reason alone. Paris is definitely top five on my list.

ParĂ­s is the city of love. I want to go there and be deeply in love. I want to walk around the city holding my Love's hand. I want to sit at the outdoor cafe's and sip cappuccinos and take in the sights. I want to explore every inch of the Lourve. Museums are so interesting to me. I want to sit in the grass next to him in front of the Eiffel Tower. I want to see the city all lit up at night. I want to drink French wine and get drunk I am this city. I want to eat rich French food. I want to have a variety of cheeses, breads & grapes for brunch. I want to speak French with the locals. I need to fully immerse myself into this city for days. This is why Paris is a place I have to visit.

Thursday, July 26, 2012

Residual Effects

There have been many situations where I find my inner reaction to not be the best. But what can you do when someone has hurt your feelings and too much time has passes? This person may believe that the situation has been squashed. In reality, you're still the injured party. You still get upset when you think back on things. Your feelings are still hurt. It could be a case where you have to man/woman up and deal. Your own emotions may make you hold on to the pain. Which is never good. But it is the way you feel.

I am not good at dealing with feelings that take me outside of my comfort zone. I hate to deal. I cry a lot. I literally cry at the mere thought of the situation. That's how hurt I can be about it. I don't like leaving things unresolved. But every situation in life does not warrant closure. Some times it's just better to move forward. I don't like people to know that their actions have a lingering effect on me.

So, in an effort to deal, I push my feelings down deep. I try my best to not think about the wrong that was done to me. I'm very good at moving on in the sense that no one will ever know what I'm feeling. I know I can sensitive to some things. There are times when I just keep my mouth closed and process things internally. That works well for me. I do not like having residual emotions concerning any situation. I like things settled. That's all I can do. I settle things in my own way. It's the only option that doesn't hurt any one else. I just deal with my own feelings. Some, I'm better at this than others. I do get things solved.

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Classic Music: No Doubt "Tragic Kingdom"

No Doubt has been my group from the moment I first heard "Just A Girl." I really dug the fact that the band was fronted by a woman. Gwen was awesome even back then. I just knew that I had to have "Tragic Kingdom" when it came out. The singles were perfect. No Doubt was just a little rock group from California but I connected with them. I have been referred to as a "valley girl" before so this should be no real surprise. The group has gone on to release more cds. Gwen even had a very successful solo career. They are getting ready to release new music soon. I'm excited that my group is getting back together. The fact that I can still listen to their debut cd in 2012 means a lot. It is classic in every sense of the word to me. Enjoy my favorite tracks below!

Tuesday, July 24, 2012

In The News

There has been so many things going on in the news lately. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in CNN and the like. None of its good for my blood pressure. I am a recovering news junkie. I try not to take in too much because I get so upset. So, I just want to touch on a few topics quickly.

* James Holmes is an evil mass murderer. He shot 70 people in a dark theater for no reason. I do not care about his mental state. I do not care why he did it. There is no reason he can give to make his heinous crime ok. I also hate the way the media is covering this. It's like they want him to be mentally unstable. If he were a Arab or Muslim, he would've been labeled a terrorist from the first report. If Holmes were any other race other than white, this story would be slanted in a total different direction. Also, the fact that a man who was caught in head to toe protective gear and guns is constantly being referred to as a suspect drives me insane. A suspect really? He is guilty as surely that I'm a woman. He is the perpetrator. He is the murderer. He is guilty. I'm disgusted. And, incredibly sad for the people who lost their lives and were injured.

* The whole Penn State/Sansusky/Joe Paterno scandal has been one of the sickest things I've ever heard of. I'm not sad that the school & its football program were so severely punished. It's never ok to harm kids and to cover it up. Everyone who helped hid this scandal deserves to be punished. I'm sorry I don't feel sorry for the program. Penn State made a great amount of money via their football program. The victims deserve to be compensated for their pain, silence and their years.

* The Westboro Church has no morals. These "Christians" will boycott any and every thing as long as there is a television camera there. What is the point if showing up in Aurora, Colorado to protest? I do not get there agenda at all.

There are other political things that have me riled up. But they deserve their own blog post. The above mentioned items are the ones most pressing on my mind. I'm sure there will be more about these things. The Holmes case is just starting. It will be headline news for a while. It will be national news. Ok, my wrap up is done.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Rant: I Think I'm...

Writing truly makes me happy. That said, I think I've reached a breaking point. Finding topics has become harder in the last month. I only like to wrote about issues that concern me and that I feel deeply about. I do not just write for the sake of blogging. I need to write. I've committed myself to blogging every day. So far, I've been able to accomplish this. It's the end of July and I haven't missed a day. I've even posted a few extra times this year. It has been truly hard work.

Some of my friends think that blogging is easy. It isn't. Some don't get why this is so important to me. It's me finally doing what my heart wants. All throughout school, writing has been my thing. I'm going to try to not fall off my writing goal. I cannot let myself down. I'm doing this for me. I have to write to better my craft. I'm writing myself into being a better writer. I guess this is just me putting myself on notice. I'm just ranting about feeling burnt out. I'll sleep on it and get through it. There will be more writing to come in this space. Don't mind me, I'm just in between thoughts.

“I hate writing, I love having written.” ― Dorothy Parker

Sunday, July 22, 2012

Does Age Matter When Dating?

We've all heard the saying "age ain't nothing but a number" but is it? Do you agree with that? When it comes to dating (assuming everyone is of legal age), does age really matter?? It is an age old question. My answer has changed drastically since I was 16. I preferred guys my age in high school. That was the norm.. I wasn't into older guys until college. I've realized that age isn't as important as maturity level. That is the determining factor.

I have dated younger (twice), my age (most of the time) and older (a few times). What I have realized is age really doesn't matter. Younger guys can be more mature than guys my age. Older guys can be much more immature than they should be. I know its been said that women mature faster than men. I think that is a case by case situation as well. Maturity never presents itself in the same way. I prefer to be able to have conversations with a man on a myriad of topics. A mature man who is fully aware of the world around him makes me smile.

Many factors should be considered when it comes to dating. The attraction comes first. During the initial conversations, other factors will be fleshed out. Age comes up as well as occupation and kids. All of the pieces matter. I think the answer to the age old question depends on the person. I'm totally opposed to dating younger. Older seems to suit me much better. I think its because I am an old soul. You're only as old or young as you feel. I know what works for me and what I prefer. What about you guys? Weigh in!

Saturday, July 21, 2012

My Soul Has A Mate...Maybe

Soul mate - (noun) "A person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond." Soul mates is an idea, a notion that I've always believed in. My definition of the term has changed over the years. As children, we are fed the fairytales of Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty and the ever present Prince Charming. The story always ends with everyone living happily ever after. These couples are deemed soul mates. A conversation last night sparked the issue of soul mates. Are we only allowed one true soul mate? Have you met your soul mate? I wonder how many people are actively pursuing their soul mates and how many have had the pleasure of meeting and marrying theirs.

I used to naively believe that there was only one true soul mate. That one person who was meant for you. Thankfully, there is wisdom associated with age. I've changed my stance on the issue. I think we meet people who possess the soul mate qualities at different points in life. It mainly has to do with what you are open to in life. If I had meet my soul mate at 22, I would have completely messed it up. I was not looking for a life long commitment at 22. I was fresh out of college, looking for a job and hanging out with my friends. I was not open to a soul mate then. My thoughts and beliefs begin to change and mature around the age of 30. I had been told that this would happen. A light bulb came on.

I decided that I wanted to love someone, truly love them with everything in me. And, I wanted a man who would/could love me in the same way. I had never experienced that before. I had never wanted to. I prayed about it and then I went on with my life. There is a great quote that speaks to this point in my life. It is "...when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it." ("The Alchemist" Paulo Coelho) If you are lucky, you will find your soul mate at the perfect time. I was realistic in my wants, in my prayers. I was not a little girl wishing for a Prince Charming. The idea of him never did anything for me. If you're lucky, you will get your soul mate for life. It's what life is made of.

Friday, July 20, 2012

I Won!

As a kid, I always won contests. Always. At school, on the radio, and via the local newspaper. I have attended so many concerts for free due to me winning contests. I was just a winner. I hardly ever enter Twitter/Tumblr/Facebook contests. Mainly because the contest require so much from you. They want you to "like" the Facebook pages, follow them on Twitter and Tumblr, and repost about the contest. The reality is that I like to follow only the people and companies I like. So, I usually never give the contests a second glance. But, there were two in the last few weeks that really caught my eye. So, I went against my first mind and entered both. Imagine my surprise when I WON the first one!!!

The first contest was sponsored by Sassy Nation. This contest was tailored for someone like me. The prize was a Carol's Daughter's 1-2-3 Transitioning Kit. I am indeed a transitioning woman. I have wanted to try products from CD for a while now. I just don't like to order hair products online. Because if I don't like it or it doesn't work for me, returns & exchanges can be a hassle. I am currently awaiting my prize in the mail. I can't wait to get my hands on these products. I've heard great things about this kit. I just want to try them on my own transitioning hair.

I am hoping that this winning streak extends to the second contest I entered. It has to do with a free trip and concert tickets. I am wishing, hoping and praying that it does. Because the trip is to a city I've never been to but have always wanted to visit. The concert would just be the icing on the cake for a fan like me. I came across this contest via Twitter. A simple retweet brought it into my life. I still have a few weeks before a winner is chosen on that one though. Who knows, it could work. I guess now my faith is restored in the online contests. I can't wait to enter another one. Fingers crossed that I can win. What do you think about contests? Is it all about good luck?

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Are Haters Real?

I abhor the word "haters." It's overused and never used in the right context. People have sunk their teeth into this idea of having haters as if it's a great thing. I refuse to believe that every day normal people have throngs of these imaginary haters. The real question is "Are you for real?" Why would someone just chose you to hate on? Why? I do not get it. People cannot be this brain dead. I just have to giggle about it. Haters are something that people aspire to have. For what reason, I do not know.

Let me be clear here, hating is not something that must people do. If I just DO NOT like some person/place/thing, it means I just don't like it. That is not hating. That's me stating my opinion. And, we all know I have no issue expressing that. There are rappers that I think are beyond wack. I do not really engage in conversations about them because I do not like them at all. That's my prerogative. It's my personal belief that those who claim to have haters are just delusional. Because the reality is, what do you have that people should covet? I have heard the most ridiculous conversations about haters. I just laugh now. I think it's ridiculous. People need to find some thing else to fixate on. I cannot even take the idea seriously. For those of you who do adhere to that belief, identify yourselves so I'll know how to proceed. For those that do not, I salute you. To my "haters" (hahahaha) have fun!

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Rant: Who's Un-American?

Mitt Romney and his team spent all day yesterday claiming that our current President is "un- American. " Really? Is it me or is this not a reboot of McCain in 2008? Back then, the GOP slandered President Obama with the claims that he was a Muslim and that he wasn't born here. That would mean that he wasn't an American. Has the Republican party ran out of ideas? It appears that they are just going to recycle the same mud from the last election. Newsflash to them: it didn't work then and it won't work now. It makes Romney & the Republican party look out of touch and racist. They need a new platform because this one is just stupid. How more American can the President be? Born and raised here and he has ascended to the highest office in the land. He pursued the American Dream. He came from nothing to acquire something. Is that not American of him? I love politics but I hate the mud slinging that comes along with it. Campaign on the facts. Just the facts. The people will decide what is fact and what is fiction. Un-American my ass!

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Ladies Love Lyrics: Raheem Devaughn "Soulmate"

Raheem Devaughn has been a favorite of mine for a while. I feel as if hus greatness has not been noticed by the masses. His voice makes me very happy. As soon as his name was suggested to me, I knew what song to choose. "Soulmate" is the perfect track. The lyrics are just about everything. It's one of those perfect love songs. If you've never had the pleasure of heating this song, please indulge below. Let Raheem sing to your soul.

"Oooo baby this is a wonderful day baby
Today my dreams come true my soulmate-

Never knew a lady like you
distinct on the earth
When we met on my life
I fell in love
so I am here with you on this day to say
for my love yes
your name has my heart

You're my soulmate (my soulmate)
with this ring I pledge to be with you
You're my soulmate
mmmm with this ring I pledge
(I pledge) to be with you mmm hmm

So glad you are my lady
my one and only lady
you make me feel that I have the world
My life without you is uncontrolled
girl I'll give you my world
For the rest of the days of my life
You were meant for me
you were meant for me yeah. "

Monday, July 16, 2012

Holding On

Is it healthy or even necessary to hold on to people from one's past? I know I used to be the girl who was cool with staying friends after the relationship ran its course. I think I wanted to prove how adult I was about the relationship ending. For the most part, I've had no problem with ex's staying in their respectable places in my life. I haven't had too many instances where me and a guy have had a truly bad break up. I am Facebook friends with ex's. I have only had one time where an ex came at me sideways via FB messaging. I promptly told him off and deleted him. I'm not here for that drama. I've actually gotten into more drama when an ex has a new boo. That has been the issue for me when it came to maintaining some sort of relationship with these men.

I know that not everyone I meet on this journey are meant to stay. Just like I'm not meant to stay in theirs. Why do some people hold on? Granted there are some that I geniunely miss the friendship. But, the reality is that once that line has been crossed, it's close to impossible to go back the other way. I no longer feel the need to hold on to that connection from my past. It's quite irrelevant to my life right now. I don't pick up the phone to call or text the way I used to. Hell, I have even cut out all of the mass emailing I used to do. I don't want to misrepresent myself as available to my past. I've lived it. I know what happened there, good or bad. It's a chapter in my story but it is not the whole thing. I may get a random text or two. And, any man who attempts to communicate with me already know who I am and what I'm about.

I'm not impressed anymore with the emotions of the past. I dealt with any lingering feelings in the proper and improper ways a long time ago. Before I allowed myself to move up & on, I knew in my heart that I was not holding a torch for any man. I was completely over everything in 2009. It took me a long time to actually deal with what was in my heart then. But, I did. And, I was a better woman for it. In the end, I wish no one in my past dating life any harm. If I see them, I'll speak. May even hold a conversation. Hope they know not to take anything I do as flirting at this stage. I'm not here for that. The girl that I was years ago grew up. She became a woman in her own right, at her own pace. I thought keeping lines of communication open made me seem more adult, more mature. When, in fact, it just kept me chained to my past. I learned that lesson the hard way. But, I learned it!! That was the most important part. In hindsight, I've learned that some people just do not deserve a place in my present day life. That isn't mean. It just shows that they were season or reason people and not lifetime people. No more holding on.

Sunday, July 15, 2012

In Reality...

"I hate when my boyfriend says someone in a movie is sooooo attractive and I am her complete opposite and it happens to be one of my favorite movies because now I can’t watch it without feeling outrageously insecure." - via abakesacake. I saw this statement on Tumblr. And, it made me feel a certain way. Everyone finds some celebrity attractive. We have different reasons for feeling that way. But, the reality is that those crushes aren't real. They are purely physical. We don't know anything about these celebs. We know the characters they portray, the songs they sing & the clothes they wear. None of that should have any bearing on one's real life relationships.

I have a thing for Idris Elba. That accent, that face, that chocolate skin make me smile. I liked him as Stringer Bell on "The Wire." I like his movies. His pictures are always nice. But, I do not know who personally about this man. I do not fawn over him in front of my guy. I also have a thing for Paul Walker. He is a blond, blue eyed, white man. The complete opposite of my Love. But, I like what I see in him anyway. Just like I know my guy has a soft spot for Rosario Dawson, who looks nothing like me, and Jill Scott. They do something for him. Am I threatened by it? No. Should it? Absolutely not. Why would it? I know why I love him & vice versa. A crush on a celeb means nothing.

I think that sometimes people get so caught up in the insecurities that they lose sight of the realities. I would be a fool to let that make me question my relationship. The reality is I'm me. And that's who my Love wants to be with. Just like he is the one I want. If we are so quick to make a thousand insignificant rules inside our relationship, we're doomed to fail. I'm not here to tell him what to do, how to feel or where not to look. He is a grown man dealing with a grown woman. No one here needs to be led. We're together but neither of us are suddenly blind. We both may see someone attractive. That's life. Anyone who thinks otherwise is already on a collision course with failure. I'm not here for that.

Saturday, July 14, 2012

It's That Time Again...

1: Apart from blogging, what do you like to do in your spare time? Reading and talking/laughing with my Love & hanging with my family.
2: Name a favorite of each: food, drink, color. Pasta, Strawberry Martini, Cerulean.
3: If you married rich and your spouse gave you $100,000 a week, what would you spend it on? Property...and shoes :)
4: Name a favorite of each: book, movie, tv show. "The Five People You Meet In Heaven," "Brown Sugar," The Wire.
5: If you were given the opportunity to spend 48 hours with absolutely anyone (living or dead), who would you spend it with and what would you do? My Dad & we would just talk and laugh.
6: Name a LEAST favorite of each: food, drink, color. Liver, Jack & Coke, Green.
7: What do you spend most of your money on? My hobbies which include music, reading & shoes.
8: What kind of underwear do you prefer wearing? Boyshorts.
9: Name a LEAST favorite of each: book, movie, tv show. The 50 Shades trilogy, Darkness, House.
10: If you were sat on a plane beside your favorite celebrity, what would you do? After talking myself into a clam state, I would strike up a conversation about their art. Tell him how much I appreciate his work.
11: What is the strangest thing you have in your room? (You are not allowed to explain why you own it.) A Build-A-Bear.
12: What is a weird habit you have, or people have told you have. (Weird, not bad. No nail biting or any of that nonsense.) I prefer to be in the dark.
13: What would you consider to be the biggest insult to yourself? That I'm not intelligent.
14: What are five things you absolutely have to have in your dream house? Open floor plan, spacious master suite, a closet to die for, chef's kitchen, & big backyard.
15: If you could be reincarnated as any animal, which would you chose and why? A hummingbird. Because they are little and cute and can go anywhere whenever they want.
16: Which band (current or past) would you want to go on tour* with? (*Travel with, not preform with.) New Edition.
17: Name a favorite of each: band, album, song. New Edition, "Reasonable Doubt," "Happy Feelings"
18: Why is your favorite band your favorite? I fell for them as a kid. They were adorable little brown boys who could sing. I was sold.
19: How many concerts have you attended? Which was your favorite? Least favorite? If none, who do you want to see live the most? Whew, hard question. Let's say 100 give or take a few. My favorite is a tie between the Watch the Throne tour and Essence the year Lauryn Hill performed. Least fave: was Essence the year MJB was so high and so drunk and she was awful.
20: What is one of your favorite song lyrics? (Who is it by?)"Cause your eyes are the windows to heaven. Your smile could heal a million souls. Your love completes my existence. You're the other half that makes me whole. You're the only other half that makes me whole." - Amel Larrieux "Make Me Whole"
21: Who do you love? My family, my Love, my friends.
22: What band merch do you own? If any, whose is it and when did you get it? If none, whose do you wish you owned? Outside of music, I am not into band merchandise.
23: How big is your heart? The capacity of it is gargantuan.
24: How did you learn of the band that is currently your favorite?Through my Dad.

Friday, July 13, 2012

Classic Music: Floetry "Flo'ology"

The brilliance that was Floetry is missed. This duo was simply amazing to me. The mix of spoken word and melodic sounds was genius. Their debut was everything to me. I loved it. But, their sophomore cd was their best to me. Sadly, it was also the swan song of the group. I have been missing them since. "Flo'ology" will always remind me of Bmore and the winter of 2005. It was the soundtrack to my life after Hurricane Katrina (along with Trey Songz debut cd, Young Jeezy's "TM101," and Alicia Keys "Unplugged" cd). I cannot remember a day during that time that I did not listen to it. I hated that the cd didn't get the push it needed. There was only one real single "Supastar" featuring Common. The cd was full of single worthy songs. So, of course, I have to share my favorites with you. "Flo'ology" was just about perfect.

Thursday, July 12, 2012

Places I Must Visit: Turks & Caicos

From the white sandy beaches to the clear blue waters, there is just something about the islands of Turks & Caicos. The 40 islands are located south of Miami in the Atlantic Ocean. The weather there is basically perfect from June to October. It stays between 85-90. It's the kind of weather that lends itself to days and nights spent on those beautiful beaches. In an average year, Turks & Caicos has 350 days of sunshine. The islands boast over 230 miles of beaches. All of the pictures I have ever seen of the islands are beautiful. It's been on my list for some time now. It is definitely top 5 for me. Check out this & this to get more fun facts about the islands. Turks & Caicos seems to be just about a perfect place to visit.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Can You Hear My Biological Clock Ticking?

What is it about the age of 30 that sets off ideas of what one should be doing? I will be 33 this year. I can say that with a smile on my face. It kills me that others think that they know what's best for me. I hate the "so when are you going to have a baby" conversations almost as much as the "you know you aren't getting any younger." I know exactly how old I am. I'm well read on the advantages and disadvantages of having babies later in life. I don't need to be reminded of the fact that I haven't accomplished motherhood yet.

I don't want to be commended for not having a child (and furthermore being a single mom) nor do I want to be sympathized with because I've never been pregnant. It's the ultimate catch 22. As a teen and my early 20's, I knew inherently that getting pregnant would not be in my best interest. I was not ready for a baby. I didn't want to disappoint my Mom. I never wanted to be a single mom because I watched my Mom do it. I was raised in that struggle. It was hard. I didn't think I was built for it. I've always loved babies. I have not always loved the idea of having my own.

Some people approach the topic with me in the complete wrong way. I've been told that me not having a baby yet makes me less of a woman. It seems as if other people can hear my biological clock ticking louder than I can. I definitely do want babies. Little girls and boys who look and act like me would make my heart smile. I know nothing happens until it is time. I do not have any control over this. I'm ok with that. When it happens, I'll be over the moon excited! So, do me a favor. If you can hear my biological clock ticking, do me a favor & keep that info to yourself. Please and thanks in advance. I'll leave things like procreation in the hands of my God. He's always on time.

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

The Scenario: Relationships & Food Etiquette

When it comes to cooking, for me it's all about love. I cook for my family to nourish them. That makes me happy. Food makes people happy. It fills us up in more ways than one. I know I can be possessive. I have accepted this part of me. That leads me to the scenario. A woman who is not family or friends cooking for your man. Are we for or against this? I'm so against this. I have strong feelings about a woman who isn't family cooking for my man. Women are taught from an early age that "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach." Some women may pretend to just want to be friends with a man. It's not their true intention at all. Food is a ploy to worm their way in. I've seen it happen. I won't allow it to happen to me.

A woman can cook for HIM if she wants. I will throw it out like the trash it is. No ma'am. I will not stand for that. My guy though that was funny. I laughed because it's funny but I'm serious though. It's the same as if a man was cooking for me or buying me gifts. If he is not family or life long friend, this is not acceptable behavior. Especially for a woman who is clearly taken. I called my cousin & her husband just to get their reaction. My cousin Ty said she would want to fight the woman. I laughed but understood. Her husband wondered what kind of stupid question was that. Maybe we're all possessive & territorial. But, we all can't be wrong in feeling the way we do. Is it ok for some other woman to cook for your significant other? Do you see it for the trap that it is? Let's discuss food etiquette and relationships.

Monday, July 09, 2012

July 9th is...

I do not know who comes up with this stuff. I have never ever heard of National No Bra Day. I personally think this is a holiday for the women who fall into the "itty bitty titty committee" which I haven't been a member of since I was 13. I could not in good faith go out on public braless. It would surely cause a scene. I just learned of this "holiday" via Facebook last night. I do not know any woman who's going to participate just because. The women who can go braless do it all the time. The rest of us save the braless moments for the house. I know I come out of mine as soon as I walk through the door. I hate bras. Hate them. They were designed just to torture women. Either way, today's the day we should go sans bra. Do it up! Happy July 9th, Ladies!!

Sunday, July 08, 2012

Outside (My) Movie Box: Part 8

I've been movie watching again. I spent some time catching up on a few old movies that are on dvd now. I can say that I loved all three of these movies for different reasons. I especially loved one more than the other two. So, let's discuss them.

"Man On A Ledge" was a very interesting film. I loved the fact that I didn't know exactly what was going on plot wise. I was very enthralled with the people in the crowd below the ledge. They were great background characters throughout the film. And, of course, my dude Anthony Mackie was in it. He plays a cop that has a pivotal role in the movie. I really enjoyed it. I always like cop movies. I wonder why.

I can honestly say that my only interest in "21 Jump Street" was to see my high school. I was a fan of the tv show growing up. I wasn't looking forward to this movie which was all about the comedy. I was wrong. The movie was ridiculously funny. It was the epitome of a funny buddy cop flick. It was silly and there was no real substance to the movie. That did not stop me from laughing during the entire movie. Ice Cube was insane as the caption. Channing Tatum was the perfect eye candy for me. Just a really cute movie.

Of all these movies, "Crazy, Stupid, Love." was my favorite. It is the story of a middle aged man who's wife asks for a divorce & tells him she cheated. He is stunned & floored. He begins to hang out in this bar telling everyone that his wife slept with someone else while drowning his sorrows. Enter Ryan Gosling as his life coach. The entire movie is hilarious. It's definitely a romantic comedy and I loved it. It's funny, cute, and just really good. I watched it for the first time last night. I'm sure I will be catching it again soon. I'll be back to talk more movies with you guys later. If you haven't seen these films, get into them!

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Randomly...Here I Go Again

°The above image is what I imagine my brain to look like internally on any given day. There is a soundtrack to my life streaming in my head. This image is dope to me.

° It's so hhhoootttt!!! Yes, I know it's summer but this intense heat wave is not the business. It's going to be a long, ridiculously hot summer. Which worries me because the h otter it is, the more prevalent hurricanes are in the Gulf. *le sigh*

° I have been caught up in a few books for the last week. If you have not heard of or read the "Left Behind" series, I suggest you get into them. I am only on book 4 of the 13 and I cannot put them down. These books are about what happens after the Rapture occurs. They have been amazing. I have to thank HIM for introducing me to them. Thanks Baby :)

° Reading the above books has sparked a flame in me again. I have to finish the Bible. I have read about half of it.

° Being on Twitter has allowed me to truly realize that people are stupid. Especially concerning the sexuality of Frank Ocean. Which, by the way, is none of our business. None.

° I am so spoiled. I am. I have tried to shake this affliction but have failed. Oh well :p

° I really want a puppy. I have been wanting one for years. I blame Mahogany Cherrelle for reinforcing this want. Lol.

° Sometimes I have the strangest conversations with people. I wonder what goes through people's minds when they come at me. It kinda needs to cease.

° I have been on a fruit kick lately. Strawberries, watermelon and grapes have been the staple all week.

° This is the first year in a long time that I am not attending Essence Music Fest. I'm a little bit sad about it. But, then again there were only two people I wanted to see this year: D'Angelo and Elle Varner. The lineup this year left much to be desired. I've seen everybody on the bill before at least once. Maybe next year will be better.

° I am still laughing about this. You would be too if you watched it.

° I have to be better about keeping in touch with my friends. I get really caught up in my own world a lot. I have to work on this neglect.

° Oh, I need more blogs to read/follow. If any of you know of any, let me know in the comments below. Thanks in advance!

Friday, July 06, 2012

Got Words?!?

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The above is my tag generated cloud. These are the words I use the most. I find this very telling. I never realized how much I used certain words. But, I love seeing my most commonly used words compiled in one place. It makes me more aware of what I say and how often I say it. It's no surprise that my name shows up a ridiculous amount of times. Or that the word "love" is used repeatedly. I am always talking about how much I love some things or someone. I actually love the word love and its foreign language counterparts, especially amor. I am definitely a logophile, which is a lover of words. I think all writers have to be. Words are my thing. But, it's also strange because I share so many of my words here. But,there are many more that I can't leave here. Words that aren't meant for public consumption. I have yet to figure out where those words go. They are the ones I write just for me. I guess that's my little writer secret. I need a place for those words to exist outside of my brain. I'm still searching for that one though. I also believe that I need to utilize other words more often as well. We will see. Happy Friday! “Like a worn out book I am the combination of all of my words.” - Tyler Knott Gregson

Thursday, July 05, 2012

Ladies Love Lyrics: Daley "Alone Together"

I am a new fan of Daley. His mixtape "Those Who Wait" is great to me. I just discovered him via Twitter a few days ago. All thanks to my girl Joey (check out her blog). Daley;s voice is very smooth. I just press play and let it go. You can download his free mixtape from his website. My favorite song so far has to be the collabo with Marsha Ambrosius "Alone Together." So, I wanted to share it with you guys. Listen, love and enjoy.

"A definite silence
You’re almost exactly what I need
A definite maybe
Is sure to entice my curiosity
I can't help but think that this doesn't add up
I'm trying to separate the facts from all the fiction
We’re living in a world of contradictions
And if baby you’re the truth then I’m lying next to you

You’re the desert sand, I’ll be your water
And you’re the perfect plan I never thought of
I don’t wanna do this on my own
and you shouldn’t have to be alone
I would rather be alone together
be alone together.

Well my heart’s been racing, chasing after you
You’re the sweetest dream my incredible you
You’re the star so bright, you're eyes the lightest blue
I can’t help but stare at you
So soft your lips, the wind blow in my hair, yeah
Come closer let me whisper in your ear
‘cause what will be will be every chance you give to me
You will see yeah yeah


I always keep you safe in my arms
I will guarantee that I will never break your heart
I’ll always put you first cause you deserve the world
I wanna know you
I wanna hold you baby
I wanna show you


You shouldn't have to be alone
I would rather be alone together
Be alone together baby."

Wednesday, July 04, 2012

Happy, Happy!!

Happy Independence Day!! I do not know what this day means for you. But, it has always meant family, bbq, music and fireworks for me. It's the quintessential summer holiday. It has been the kick off for Essence Music Festival in New Orleans for 17 years now. This is the first year I do not think I am attending. Whatever the day means for you and yours, I hope that everyone enjoys their holiday. I wanted to share a few songs by a group who represent summer to me. Enjoy the music. Happy 4th of July!!

Tuesday, July 03, 2012

Way To Go, BET!!

BET got it so right Sunday night. The 2012 BET Awards were very good. More than I was hoping for to be honest. From the G.O.O.D. Music opening to the Whitney tribute, I was thoroughly entertained and impressed. We, as in the Black community, take BET to task for many things as we should. This awards show was a shining example of the good BET can do. We need more shows like this. (Hint: Pay Tia Mowry and Pooch Hall to keep them on The Game). Watching the show made me smile all Sunday night. If you missed it, you missed a pretty great show.

The highlights for me were the tribute to Maze featuring Frankie Beverly. This group is inherently New Orleans to me. I have seen them in concert more times than I can count. They represent summer time in the NO for me. They remind me of my Dad. They were honored by Joe, Tyrese, Faith Evans and Tyler Perry. The Whitney Houston tribute was awesome. Monica, Brandy, Cissy and Gary Houston and Chaka Khan all did Whitney proud. Cissy moved me to tears. She was amazing to get through that. I was overly excited to see D'Angelo perform again. He was worth it. Melanie Fiona was fantastic. Nicki Minaj's performance was one of her better ones. MMG's backing track was too loud and made the performance odd. Usher performed "Climax" & I've determined that it has to just be a studio song to never be performed live. The falsetto he sings in seems too high for him. At least, he cut that stupid mohawk off his head finally. Chris Brown's performance was ok. I'm not a fan of either song he sang though. Tyga and Cash Out performance were not my faves. The show moved quickly and only suffered a few glitches. A definite win for BET in my eyes.

I absolutely loved the show though. Samuel L. Jackson was just ok as a host. I think I am used to a host being more involved in the show a la Monique & Kevin Hart. Kevin was actually there and would've been a funnier host. Thank you, Debra Lee and Stephen Hill for putting on a great show. I was impressed with almost everything. The closing performance was random and seemed out of place. But, this was the case the last two years as well. Maybe next year, the show will close on a high. I know that I will be watching next year as well. I love music so I cannot help but to watch. IT's the only show where I am guaranteed to see a little bit of everyone important in Black music. No other show spotlights our culture. For that reason alone, I will continue to be a fan.

Monday, July 02, 2012

This Reader's Review: Part VIII "Breaking Dawn," "The Four Agreements," & "The Secret"

Reading is still one hobby that I cannot shake. Nor do I want to. I think that besides actually writing, writers should be well read. I do not have a favorite genre. I just read whatever peaks my interest. I've read some of the best books based solely on the fact that I loved the cover.

I am a fan of the "Twilight" movies. I had never read any of the books before. But,
I wanted to know how the story ended. The movies have been very interesting to me. "Breaking Dawn" starts where the last movie began. So, half of the book was just a rehashing of things I knew. I didn't mind reading it though. The second half of the book was amazing. I love the story. If the movie is anything like the book, I will be a satisfied customer. Bella and Edward are so much more likable in the book. I was able to but Pattinson and Stewart out of my mind while I was reading. That made all the difference. "Breaking Dawn" was a very good read. I finished it in just a few days. Even if you've never read any of the other books, it's easy to get into it.

"The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz is an awesome book. It is essential a how to live your life manual. The book flows from the opening sentence. I love the actual four agreements that one needs to make with themselves in order to life a better life. Ruiz presents life in such a simplistic view that it makes perfect sense. If you are into books that can help you improve your life, then this is it. I really loved this book. There is a follow up book entitled "The Fifth Agreement" which I have to read also.

I am currently reading "The Secret." I know I am super late reading this one. I've been hearing about it for years. I just wasn't into self-help type books. I finally gave in and read it. I think I was expecting so much more from it. The secret isn't really a secret any more. It took me way too long to get through this book. I think I was just not into after a few chapters. The information in it wasn't new information to me. It may be a great read to others. I do like the idea of vision boards and I need to work on a new one. So there are things I will take away from this book.

I have about 20 books left on my summer reading list. Yes, I know, that's ambitious. But, then again so am I. I have to dive into the "Left Behind" series. And, that is a 13 book series about the Bible and the Rapture. I'm beyond intrigued about this. I am loving reading again. So, there will be more book reviews to come I'm sure. Hope you guys are reading as well.

Sunday, July 01, 2012

A Twist on a Disney Classic

My favorite Disney movie is "Beauty & the Beast." It has been for years. So, imagine my surprise to receive the following video. Dancer/choreographer Todrick Hall has put his own spin on the opening song from the movie. He has set Belle up in the hood. And, her morning stroll into town is a tad bit different than any of us could remember. He calls his version "Beauty and the Beat." I LOVE it. It's just so ridiculously funny. Please get into this.

And, I am posting the original version as well. It's amazing what Todrick Hall did with this song. He completely flipped it. I laughed the whole time I was watching it. Belle's walk through her neighborhood is filled with a plethora of characters. The almost Hip-Hop spin Hall puts on this song makes the video come to life. Hope you guys enjoy it as well.