Sunday, September 30, 2012

My Vernacular



We are all products of our environments. Our home towns are in us. Especially when it comes to the way we speak and the slang we use. It's always funny to me that I never realize what I say until someone points it out. It's just the way I speak. In the words of Lil Wayne, "If I had one guess, then I guess I'm just New Orleans!" My city is deeply inside of me. The way we speak, the music we like, it's all just me. When you're always surrounded with people who are from the same area as you are, you never catch it. It takes HIM to point out the little New Orleanian things I say. He finds it cute. I'm glad he does. Even if I tried, there are some things I couldn't shake if I wanted to. I am who I am. I decided to write down a few unique things that come out of my mouth. Don't blame me. It's just the N.O. in me.

° I don't say "pop" or "soda." I say "cold drink" because this is normal here.

° I say I'm "by" someone's house instead of "at."

° I "make groceries" instead of "buying food" or "food shopping."

° My favorite N.O. words have to be "baby," "beaucoup," and "

° Bounce & 2nd line music are embedded in my molecular makeup.

° I eat sno-balls, muffelettas, po-boys (dressed) & I know that I can't get them anywhere else.

° If you ask me, I'll tell you I'm from New Orleans or the N.O. or the 504. But, never N'Awlins. We don't say that.

° We have canals and neutral grounds and street cars.

I can't speak of other cities. But, I would not trade growing up here for anything. My childhood growing up in this city was magical in a sense. There is nothing better than that. I also hate that some associate the way Southerners speak with stupidity. I may talk slow but trust me I'm anything but. We have funny sayings that some call country. It's just our way of life. I'm from the Big Easy where we take things easy. No one is in a rush to live life here. Southerners are just a different breed of folks. Not better or worse, just different. I'm also fascinated with the way people from up North speak as well. They sound country to me. It's just personal perception. I have an accent...or so I've been told. I personally do not hear it. My vernacular may be a little funny. But, again, I'm just me. Just so New Orleans.

Saturday, September 29, 2012

Get Into It: Miguel's "Kaleidoscope Dream"


Lately, R&B music has delved into the euro pop dance trend. It is not something I care for at all. I prefer my R&B to be just that, soulful and deep. That's why I love when I come across music that fits that mold. Such was the case when I was listening to the preview stream of Miguel's new cd "Kaleidoscope Dream." "Adorn" is the lead single off the project. I have been in love with this song since the moment I heard it. It instantly puts me in a great move. With lyrics like "these lips can't wait to taste your lips. And these eyes can't wait see your grin." That is just sexy to me. The entire project does not disappoint either. It is full of mellow, sexy tracks that Miguel is becoming known for. This is a great cd to me.





Miguel's sophomore cd "Kaleidoscope Dream" hits stores Tuesday, October 2nd. It is a solid R&B cd. I am so glad that I got a chance to preview the cd. Although I love "Adorn," I wasn't sure if the entire project would flow the same. I am glad that I was wrong. It is easily one of my favorite R&B cds that was released this year. Miguel has slowly came into his own. I am more convinced of his talent now. I can say that I started paying more attention to him once he sang the hook on Wale's "Lotus Flower Bomb." The guy can sing period. If you are looking for a sexy, cool cd to chill out with, this is it. Get into it.




Friday, September 28, 2012

The Art of Storytelling: "Past, Present, Future"

This is part 4 in an on-going series. The rest is available here:

1) "Unexpected Meeting"
2) "All Night Conversation"
3) "Breakfast Buddies"



Kissing Yasmine in his doorway felt like old times. She always felt like home to him. She was a drug that he has yet to shake out of his system. Yasmine hand's found their way to her favorite part of him. She stroked him while kissing him. Jakob's hands guided her body further into the house. The kissing continued as the two made their way from the hallway to the sofa. Jakob absentmindedly drops his cell onto the cushion. Yasmine was now straddling Jakob. "I've missed you," she asks. Jakob sat on the sofa looking up into the eyes of the woman who has caused him so much pleasure and pain. Yasmine assuming that she had Jakob back in the palm of her hands began to take off her shirt. There she was in a baby blue lace bra smiling down at Jakob. "He can't say no to me. e's never been able to." she thinks. "Jakob, I need you. You know that you need me too," she says. His body is betraying him as usual. "I see there is one part of you that wants me as much as I want you," she continues.

Jakob knows what he has to do as Camille's smiling face crosses his mind. He looks at her and makes a judgement call. Sliding her off his lap, he says "Yas, I'm not doing this with you. We are done. Have been for a while. I don't know why you haven't gotten this." Yasmine screams "WHAT? What do you mean no? That's not even a word that we use." She is in disbelief and cannot believe what he is saying. Jakob says "Look, I'm done. Been done. As a matter of fact, hold on let me go get your stuff that you left." He goes out to the garage to fetch her boxes. Yasmine is pissed as she puts her shirt back on. She is silently cursing him out in her head. His cell rings after the door shuts. She picks it up to see a text from Camille. "Hey hope you finally slept this morning. I was called into work so I still haven't slept. Thanks for breakfast." This infuriates Yasmine even more. She calls Camille.

"Hello," answers Camille. "Who are you and why are you texting my husband?" yells Yasmine. Camille, caught completely off guard, stutters "Who is this? And, yo-your husband?" "Yes, my husband, Jakob," Yasmine replies. Camille instantly feels sick. so many thoughts running through her head as Yasmine badgers her on the phone. Camille interrupts Yasmine's tirade "Ma'am, I did not know he was married. But, rest assured that I will not be contacting him any more. I have to go." Camille somehow manages to get out before pressing end on the call. Yasmine smiles knowing that she has scared this Camille off. "Jakob is mine. Always has been, always will be. Even if he doesn't know it yet." Yasmine thinks. She erases the text from Camille off of Jak's phone. She thinks "Now, he'll never know." She laughs as he comes back in with two boxes. Jak says "These are yours and you have to go. I need to sleep." "Ok, Jak. But this is not over. I'll let you sleep but I'll be back. Could you bring the boxes out to the car for me, poor favor?" "Fine, let's go." Clearly annoyed, Jak walks her out & puts the boxes in her trunk. She says "Bye Jak. See you soon." as she drives off. Jak believes he is done with the drama that is Yasmine Lopez.

Jakob goes inside, locks up and finally goes to bed. Hours pass before he awakes. He has literally slept the day away. It's 8p.m. when he awakes. "Where is my cell?" he wonders as he searches for it. Finding it on the coffee table in the living room, he checks to see if he missed Camille's call or text. "Hmmm nothing. Maybe she is still asleep." He sends her a short text that reads "Hey Camille. Just getting up. Would love to hear your voice if you're awake." Jak goes about warming up some food as he waits for her response. He is still shaking his head at the craziness of this morning. Glad that it's over, he finishes his dinner. Still no word from Camille. He pours himself a glass of pinot noir. His phone rings and it's Camille calling. He smiles as he answers it. "Hey you" "Hi" she responds very flatly. He picks up on this quickly "What's wrong Camille?" "Why don't you tell me, Jakob? Or well at least tell me your version since your WIFE has already told me hers." Camille says. "My what?? I have never been married. What are you talking about?" he proclaims. Camille is upset and she isn't truly hearing him at this point. "I really thought I had met someone who was cool. But, I was wrong. I am only calling to give you a chance to explain yourself. If you have a wife, what was this all about?" Camille asks. Jakob is racking his brain when he comes to the conclusion: Yasmine. This had her wrote all over it. "Camille, I am not married." "The woman who called me said she was your wife. Your wife, Jak. What am I supposed to think? You know what, it's cool. Do me a favor, don't contact me anymore. Goodbye." Camille says as she ends the call.

Standing under the spray of hot water in the shower with his eyes closed, Jakob sighed deeply. He really could not believe how this day turned out. It started with so much promise. The breakfast with Camille was the perfect start of his day. "How did it all go down hill from there?" "Man, I really messed this up!" he exclaimed. The shower was supposed to calm him down. It wasn't working. He couldn't shake the feeling that his past may have just interrupted his future. Jakob keeps thinking "Yasmine showed up and I should have kicked her out. I didn't. How could I have been some dumb? I knew that she was trouble. Hell, she's always been." Jakob wondered if he would ever get through to Camille. How could he get her to believe him? She was so mad at him and he couldn't blame her. He was angry as hell. But, he had to figure out a way to make this work. He needed to make this right, make it work.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

Home Body


There once was a time when I lived for a nightclub. From the age of about 16 to the age of about 27, I was a club-hopper. Meaning I loved to be in a club, drinking and dancing. There was nothing I enjoyed more. A great DJ in a cool location was always my destination. I just loved being out and about. There was nothing better than me and my girls hitting whatever club was hot back then. I literally planned my life around when and where I was going to go out. I was that into the scene. I was also more social back then too. I am not as much these days.

I feel as if the club scene is so over. I've done it. Consistently. And, with great passion. It was my hobby. I loved every second of it. I can actually count on one hand the times I've been in a club in the last few years. There aren't very many reasons that I will go to a club. I've always invited to parties at clubs. I always decline. It's not that I don't want to celebrate with my family or friends. I just don't want to be in that environment anymore. It's not my cup of tea. The music that is popular in New Orleans clubs is not what I want to hear. I don't care for this new age bounce music or 90% of today's club themed Hip-Hop. I cannot take much of it.

Now, I prefer to stay home. I am cool with sitting at home, watching a good movie or reading a great book. I don't feel like I'm missing a thing. So, yes, I am a homebody and proud of it. I've been in too many clubs where stupid things have occurred. I know I'm safe at home. I don't have to worry about anything happening to me here. I don't mind going to a bar or a lounge for a drink or catching dinner or a movie with friends. I guess that comes with age. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to deal with a club full of people. Staying home is relaxing to me. when you've spent the better part of your 20's partying, your 30's are for resting. So that's what I'll do.

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

Rant: Pay The Refs!!!


I am a sports chick. I love my basketball and my football. After the long lockout of the NBA last season, I was looking forward to a drama free NFL season. Commissioner Goodell decided that I would not have that. First, there was the New Orleans Saints "Bounty-gate." Then came the fallout form that. My home team lost its coach and one great player for the entire season. Next, the Saints owner Tom Benson held out all summer messing with Drew Brees' contract. And, finally, there is this referee situation. The refs are basically on strike. We are left with a bunch of "replacement refs" who clearly do not know what the hell they are doing. The bogus calls that I've seen in the last 3 weeks have been appalling.


But, nothing takes the cake more than the final call during Monday Night Football game between the Packers and the Seahawks. Anyone watching that game could tell that Green Bay had possession of the ball all the way to the ground. Even the replacement refs are confused. One ref ruled that it wasn't a touchdown, another ref ruled it a touchdown for the Seahawks. How can two refs standing nearly side by side see two totally different things and still come to a conclusive decision. I am still shocked. I do not know what the refs were looking at but surely it was not what I and everyone saw. That one call set Twitter ablaze. No one thought it was a touchdown. No one. These refs are messing with the integrity of the sport. Even worse, that call cost the Packers the game. The NFL upheld the ruling which further lets me know that Goodell is an idiot. How can he not be? If this is what the rest of the season will hold, I am out. I am not here for officials messing up the game. Pay the real refs so we can get back to playing the game already.


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Tuesday, September 25, 2012

New Music: Artists To Watch


In the last few weeks, I have been consistently listening to the following new artists. All of these ladies seem to have that "it" factor. I love that most of them are not only singers but songwriters as well. All of the following songs have been in constant rotation. I love that none of these ladies sound alike. Each has their own sound and direction. Music, especially R&B, has been missing something lately. I like that this music makes me feel the way R&B songs did in the 90's. Whenever I come across new artists that I dig, I love to share it with anyone I can. It makes me happy to introduce new artists to my people. So, here they go, get into them. You won't be disappointed. There is something here for everyone. Enjoy.

1) Mylah "Ever" This song is reminiscent of Prince and Vanity. It has that electric pop feel to it. It's just feel good music. I listen to it every morning. It puts me in a good mood. Her debut cd is forthcoming. It's tentatively being titled "Siren" which I think is a very hot title. Ever since she redid Kanye's "Say You Will" and Kelis' "Get Along With You," I've been a fan. She has been working towards this and I, for one, cannot wait to hear what she does. Her first single lets me know that her debut will not be cookie cutter R&B.



2) RaVaughn "Me and You (Love Thang)" She is Ne-yo's artist. That lets me know that her material will be awesome. I am always here for anything that Ne-yo has his hands in. This is off of her EP "Love Always...The Introduction." I happen to dig every song on it. But, there is just something about this track. The music, the lyrics and overall feel are all my type of music. RaVaughn is definitely one to watch.



3) Rita Ora "Been Lying" She is ROC Nation's latest overseas sensation. She is on the brink of US stardom as well. This song will be on her debut cd "Ora." I have love this song since the first time I heard it. I will say that her singles haven't been my faves but other dope tracks will be found on the cd.



4) Bridget Kelly "Special Delivery" Another ROC Nation signee that I love. BK has been on my radar since she was on tour with Jay-Z singing the AKeys part of "Empire State of Mind." She released a EP that I loved. This serves as her first single from her debut cd. I cannot wait to hear what else she has in store. Her voice does it for me.



5) Lianne La Havas "Empty" In the last few years, the influx of European singers have been great. Lianne is clearly one of the best. I had the hardest time picking just one song. I like everything on her debut cd "Is Your Love Big Enough?" Her voice is so smooth. I love it.

Monday, September 24, 2012

Fan or Stan? Which One Are You?

I would call myself an uber fan of a few folks. Someone, I won't call any names *cough* HIM *cough* called me a "stan" the other day. Who is a stan, sir? So, I sat with that and thought about it. I've concluded that there are two times of stans: the ones who absolutely love these artists/celebs and those who go overboard with the admiration. If I were to be completely honest, I would say that I fall into the first category. The following three people are my favorites. I am a fan of their work, their artistry, their politics, their intelligence and what they stand for. If that makes a stan, then I am one proudly. I like what/who I like. If you've been following this blog, it should not be a surprise who is on my list.

*Jay Z* He is by far my favorite rapper turned business man. In my eyes, the guy can do no wrong. I love his music because he is such a lyricist. I think he's super smart and very funny. He's a Sagittarius like myself so I get his humor. In concert, he put on a hell of a show. As a connoisseur of great music, I appreciate his attention to detail. He's very precise in the things that he does. I am clearly a fan.



*Beyonce'* Since the release of her first solo cd, I've been a fan. I love the tone of her voice. Her songs are either really light and fun (the club tracks) or deep love songs (that I love). Her music makes me happy. As a woman who loves a great concert, Beyonce' lives up to that and more. I've seen her a few times and I've never been disappointed. I will support her music because I like her. Case closed.


*President Barack Obama* Since first laying eyes on the President at the 2004 DNC, I was intrigued with him. I began to follow what he was doing. I've been impressed since then. Yes, I am more than ecstatic that he is the first Black President. But, I like him as a politician and as a person. He inspires me. His family inspires me. The Speech and Debate kid in me loves the orator in him. He was a man with a dream then. I believed him. He still has my vote.

So, there it is. That's my "stan" list. I cannot think of a better group of people to "stan" for. I know that none of them walk on water or are God. They are just humans. I am not delusional in any of this. I like what they do. I'm excited to see them give interviews or perform or whatever. They are my favorites. Do any of you guys stan for any artist? If so, who? Let's discuss.

Sunday, September 23, 2012

Get Into It: Relax & Sleep

There are times when I have the most difficult time falling asleep. I've been told it's because I'm always thinking so many things that my body & brain has a hard time relaxing. I'm not into sleep aids. I'm also weary of any medicine that could possibly become addictive. I like to be in control. So I avoid excessive medicine taking for that reason. I've found a few things that help me fall asleep. The latest help I've discovered is actual an android app.
It's called "Relax & Sleep." It's an app that has different calming sounds to help one fall asleep. The sounds range from rain to animals to city sounds. I am partial to the ocean - soft beach - summer rain mixture. The sound of water is beyond calming to me. You can also mark your favorite sounds & this moves them to the top of the list for accessibility. There are a bunch of water related sounds & I happen to like them all. This app also has a sleep timer on it. This is a plus for me because once I'm asleep, it will turn off on its own. I like that I can mix & match sounds to find the combination best for me. The volume is adjustable as well. It's a free app in the Google Play Store on Android phones. So, go ahead & get into it. I'm sure you'll sleep much better. Zzzzzz.

Saturday, September 22, 2012

Outside (My) Movie Box: Part 9

It's that time again. My movie watching usually entails me watching movies years after others. As you guys know, I've been expanding my movie palette. Watching movies I normally would not has been the norm for a while now. This time is no different. This experience was cued by watching a new release earlier this year. "The Avengers" opened my eyes to a surprising fact. The comic book movies that I'd been avoiding could actually be great. While I loved everything about "The Avengers," there was one character that stood out to me. He was Tony Stark also known as Iron Man. I loved his narcissistic, sarcastic nature. He was hilarious in a way that I wasn't expecting. The sarcastic tone of his personality stood out to me because it is also one I possess. After watching it, I knew I had to see what Tony Stark was all about. So, I finally gave in and watched "Iron Man" this past week. My expectations were high but obtainable.


Both movies were awesome. I loved the background info of the first movie. It was my introduction to who Stark was. AS a character, he was amazing before he became Iron Man. Become Iron Man just made his character that much more lovable to me. I loved the action scenes and the plot of the second movie. It was exciting and entertaining. I'm also glad I watched IM2 because now I know where the Nick Fury and Black Widow characters came from. Also, I got to know a little bit about the S.H.I.E.L.D. group as well. Tony Stark is my hands down favorite still. I think I even like him more. There is an "Iron Man 3" in the works and I cannot wait. More Tony Stark? Yes, please. It also doesn't hurt that Robert Downey Jr. is sexy. I like eye candy as well. I was already looking forward to "The Avengers 2" but now I cannot wait to see what happens next. I know that I will def watch IM & IM2 again. I enjoyed both.

Friday, September 21, 2012

What I Know

...about relationships, I actually learned through trial and error. I spent years listening to my Mom, Aunts, cousins, friends, and articles. What I realized is that too much input makes the outcome bad. I had to cut off all the voices outside and listen to my heart. In that moment, I grew. I do not know it all. I just know what I want and need. I know what I will and won't accept. Some times, I read some things that really make me shake my head. This article made me laugh. A friend of mine pointed me to it via Facebook. This "list" is ridiculous. My initial thoughts on the list are bolded below. Take a look at this nonsense.

1)He spoils you. (Is this a bad thing?? Since when??)

2)He advises you often. (What's wrong with this? We all need advice from time to time.)
3)You don't feel happy without sex. (Sex is great., wonderful, fantastic. But, if your only happiness comes from it, there is a problem. I agree.
4)You're gaining weight. (Weight gain in a happy relationship tends to happen. It's a scientific fact.)
5)You are losing weight. (What if you've started working out with your mate? Losing weight would be the results. I call bs on this.)
6)You feel distant from your friends. (In a new relationship, it is normal to get caught up in the relationship. There will be some distance because you are investing in the new relationship.)
7)You feel distant from your parents. (This is just weird. If a relationship causes you to turn away from your parents, run. Fast. This is def not healthy & I agree.)
8)You're not sleeping well. (Well, if the reason you're losing sleep is because of great all night conversations and sex, I do not see what the problem is.)
9)You check your phone often.(I am always checking my phone because I am always anticipating the next great text from HIM or phone call.)
10)You're reading every relationship article. (Women do this whether in a relationship or not. Whether it's good or not.)
11)You're talking to everyone about it. (What? If you are happy in your relationship, you tend to talk about it. You want others to know. Why wouldn't I talk about it.)
12)You're dressing bland. (A relationship wouldn't do this to me.)
13)You/he feels lazy. (I agree with this one.)
14)You feel relieved around his friends/family. (This one is just weird. I don't get it.)
15)You're always together. (I agree with this one. Couples need lives outside of the relationship.)
I've read alot of relationship articles over the years. It's habit at this point. I mean, I live for Cosmo magazine. There was more than one thing wrong with this one. I sometimes feel with articles n online magazines are done at the last minute and for shock value. This one in particular, seems silly on so many levels. I do not know the author. But, she clearly has issues with relationships. This list is ridiculous to me. Maybe I'm over reacting. Maybe I just don't get it. I just thing articles like this lead women on the wrong path. We are bombarded with relationship fixers and standards on tv, online and in print. The reality is what works for one couple may not work for another. That is life. We are all different. We need different things in relationship. There is no other instruction manual available better than the Bible in my opinion. I no longer take relationship advice from my friends or family. I definitely do no take it from articles or books. I follow my heart. Most of us do. I think we all know what's best for us. Let's dish.

Thursday, September 20, 2012

The Art of Storytelling: "Breakfast Buddies"

This is part 3 in an on-going series. The rest is available here:

1) "Unexpected Meeting"
2) "All Night Conversation"





"There he is. He's even cute when sleep deprived," Camille thought as she smiled at Jakob. "Good morning, Cami," he said while reaching in for a hug. "Good morning, Jak," she replied. "She feels so good in my arms and she smells like vanilla" Jak thought. His stomach rumbled & they both laughed.

"Well hopefully you're as hungry as I am." Camille was still laughing but shook her head to agree. They sat & began small talk. He caresses her hand & takes into his while talking. She feels the butterflies at that moment. The waiter came to take their orders. "I want a caramel brúlee latte, the breakfast special with scrambled eggs. Oh and no butter on my pancakes please." Camille explained to the waiter. Jak was watching her the whole time. He completed his order all while still holding her hand.

Breakfast was a hit for the two of them. Neither could believe that they had so much in common. Plans were made for the next week before leaving breakfast. Camille yawned & covered her mouth. "Ooh excuse me. I think this no sleeping thing is catching up to me." She said. "I know what you mean. Get some rest. We'll talk later," Jak said. A hug ended the breakfast date. It was a good hug. The kind that you feel long after it was over. They both did. She kissed his smooth brown cheek. "Super soft lips," he thought. "He smells intoxicating," she thought. "We'll talk later tonight ok? Jak questioned. "Oh we will. Bye, Jak." "Bye Cami."

Camille thought about him all the way home. "His voice was like silk. The way he said my name made my stomach flutter. His voice was nice, not too light, not too heavy. He had the cutest, most infectious laugh. Oh God. I was a smitten kitten. Already. In less than 24 hours. This is too much, too fast." she pondered as she drifted off to sleep as soon as her head hot the pillow.

Across town, she was in the thoughts of Jakob. He could not help smiling about the last day of his life. "I def wasn't looking for anyone, especially after the last time. But, Cami is special. I can tell already. She's sweet. Can't wait to get to know her better. Hell, I can't wait to hear her voice again." he thought.

As he was going to sleep, his doorbell chimed loudly. Consistently. Annoyed, he jumped up to go answer it. "Who the hell is at my door so early? And why are they laying on the doorbell?" Snatching the door open, he came face to face with Yasmine, his on-again, off-again ex. The same woman he hadn't seen in almost 7 months. "Hola Papí, miss me?" she questioned as she leans in for a kiss. He wanted to fight her but he's never been good at that. His body betrays him. He kisses her back as his hands roam the body he knows so well....

To be continued....

Wednesday, September 19, 2012

Some of My Faves



* President Barack H. Obama.
* Beyonce' Giselle Knowles-Carter.
* Shawn Corey "Jay Z" Carter.
* Fundraiser last night @ the 40/40 in NYC.
* They raised $4 million dollars for the President.
* #ILOVE

The 47%



As a political enthusiast, nothing makes me happier than a political scandal. They are even more interesting when the politician is running for office. Such was the case on Monday for Presidential hopeful Mitt Romney. It is the things politicians say amongst friends and in private that let us into their real train of thought. This website broke a huge story Monday afternoon. It was a recording of Romney speaking at a fundraiser to a group of very rich, very elite, very white group of people. His words may be his own undoing

"47% of the people will vote for the president no matter what. There are 47% who are with him, who are dependent upon government, who believe that they are victims, who believe the government has a responsibility to care for them, who believe that they are entitled to health care, to food, to housing, to you-name-it. That that’s an entitlement. And the government should give it to them. And they will vote for this president no matter what. These are people who pay no income tax. My job is not to worry about those people. I’ll never convince them they should take personal responsibility and care for their lives. Women are open to supporting me but we are having a much harder time with Hispanic voters, and if the Hispanic voting bloc becomes as committed to the Democrats as the African American voting block has in the past, why, we’re in trouble as a party and, I think, as a nation." - Romney

How do you want to be the President of the U.S. but you don't care about almost half of the citizens? It's bad enough that Romney clearly doesn't care about women, the poor, or the elderly. Now, he said put of his own mouth that these people are unemployed, government dependent and are on welfare. Oh the irony of accusing 47% of Americans of not paying taxes is not lost on me. Romney, none of us are sure that you've paid any taxes in years. He definitely hasn't paid his fair share if any. I read a headline that this recording will cost him the election. I hope so. The man is antiquated and out of touch. He does not see the same future for all Americans. His only concern are the very rich. That is not the quality of person I want running this country. In this day & age, politicians have to know that nothing is private or secret. And, what's worse is that his response to the video is that his words were "inelegant" not that he was dead wrong. I was mad on Monday. Today, I'm taking this for what it is: a gift. November 6th can't get here fast enough. Vote or die.


Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Rounding Out The Randoms



° I had a major case of writer's block tonight. It makes bogging daily a struggle. I'm hopeful that I'll shake it off by mañana.

°I'm so glad that the Fall shows have started. We're loving "The Voice" & "X-Factor" so far.

°Last month's #30in30 challenge showed me a lot about myself. I know now that I can write about whatever is placed in front of me. That makes me happy.

° There is good & bad reality tv. I'm pulling myself away from the bad slowly while enjoying the good. Loving "Tia & Tamera," "R&B Divas," & "The Braxtons" a lot.

° I think I'm addicted to oranges (they have to be cold though) & baked fish. I've eaten a ton of it lately.

° I've also been taken by white nail polish. It's the only thing I've worn for weeks now.

° After finishing the "Left Behind" series, I find myself lost as to what to read next. Any suggestions?

° Mitt Romney is clearly an idiot. There is nothing else I can say about him. Vote people!

° The VMA's were not that good this year. Kevin Hart was good. But it was just missing something. I'm not sure what it was.

° I'm still working on my story. Trying to figure out where I want these characters to go. So much brainstorming to do here. But, I will not quit until I'm satisfied.

Monday, September 17, 2012

Celebrity Pass


It's normal to develop crushes on people especially celebs. I have a few. So does my guy. We've discussed them in depth. While having a conversation with my HIM today, an interesting topic came up. That idea if the day ever arrived that he met his crush, he would have a "pass." For those who aren't familiar, a pass is like me giving my ok for him to be with this actress. What followed was an hilarious conversation about limits, rules and regulations. There was a lot of laughing during this conversation. I began to think about how I truly, deeply felt about the idea. I came to an interesting conclusion.

He has a thing for a few celebs but this one certain actress in particular. I know this. If I see pictures of her, I post them on Tumblr for him. So, you can say, in a way I indulge his crush. I think it's cute. I told him that for this particular actress, I would have to give him a pass. For those that don't know, a pass is like me giving my ok for him to be with this actress. He said that I wouldn't be ok with it. That I would be hurt if by some chance he meet her & had sex with her. I said it for one reason and one reason alone. The probability of him meeting her is slim to none. I would love to believe that I'm so evolved that I would be able to handle a situation like this.

The truth of the matter is I think he's right. I'm too selfish and spoiled. He's mine. Not in the "I own him" kind of way but more in the "he's mine." I know myself well enough to know that even the thought of him being with someone else makes me see red. I cannot even comprehend that. Even if the woman is a celeb. She is still a woman. And, I don't want any woman with my man but me. It's funny because when I gave him the "pass" I believed I could do it. But I was wrong. He made it perfectly clear that he would not be giving me a pass for either of the two actors I have a crush on. He did not laugh at all. His jealousy is cute. He is just like me. We do not want to share. I'm more than ok with that.

Clearly, there will be no passes given in this relationship. Neither of us are ok with it. Let me just say that if I ever meet one Idris Elba, I will refrain from flirting with him. I'll try my best not to get caught up in his sexy accent. I wouldn't want HIM to give me the cold shoulder. I know that celebs are just human beings like the rest of them. Why would I want to mess up my great thing for one night? That question alone puts it all into perspective for me. Passes may be cool for some. But we aren't in that number. Has anyone ever being given a pass? Would you give one? Let's discuss.

Sunday, September 16, 2012

Shining Star



I'm going to tell you a story. It's an all actual factual tale of something that has been following me for almost fourteen years now. On September 23, 1998, my father, Kenneth J. Hawkins Sr. was brutally murdered. I've touched on this subject here, here, and here. Because I've discussed it significantly in the past, this post is not about that. It's about something that happened the night of his murder. That Wednesday was a blur of people, places, and things. I remember walking from my house to my Grandmother's house. she lived around the corner from me. I was angry, confused and on edge. People were talking to me, giving me their condolences. I, however, was out of it. It was all a lot of white noise. I responded automatically to the questions. I was literally having an out of body experience. I kept walking from my house to my Grandmother's house. It was on one of these walks that night that I noticed this extremely bright twinkling star in the sky. It was very weird because besides this one star the sky was perfectly clear. It was there the entire time I was outside that night.

This could have been a fluke. Except that Thursday night, it was back. Friday night it was there again. In a strange way, the presence of this star calmed me. I was a bundle of emotions and nerves but this star quieted all of this. That Saturday, we buried my Dad. It was one of the worst days of my life. That day made it real to me. And, all I wanted to do was crumble. But, that was a luxury I could not afford at the moment. My brother, three cousins, and a cousin in law were sitting/laying in the bed of an uncle's truck that night. I was staring at this star that was brighter than it had been all week. I closed my eyes and prayed to God that I would always feel my Dad's spirit around me. Directly after I finished this prayer, that star twinkled really fast and then it started raining. Everybody got up to run inside. I took my time. This is big because anyone who knows me knows I hate to get caught in the rain. I cannot explain what I felt but the rain wasn't bothering me. I finally felt the need to tell someone what I suspected. I chose my brother Kendrick. And, to my surprise, he noticed it too. I was relieved that I wasn't losing it. We talked about this a lot over the years.

I still see this star sometimes. I know scientific minds will say that this isn't possible. That there is no way that a star is the spirit of my Dad. But, I know what my heart feels. I know that I still see this brightly twinkling star, especially when I'm feeling down. It could be nothing or it could be everything. I just know what I feel. I also know that there are so many things that aren't logical in this world. This is one of those things for me. Up until this moment, Kendrick is the only other person who knew this. I saw this star the other night. It made me smile. I feel like my Dad is still watching over me, his first born. I needed that thought then, I still need it now. It's ironic, my Dad was a star in his own right while he was here. So, why shouldn't he be a star in his afterlife?

Saturday, September 15, 2012

Ladies Love Lyrics: The Sexy Edition

This edition of "Ladies Love Lyrics" is different. I still focused on lyrics, but I also had a theme. I have been a particular mood the last few days and these songs helped me. The 7 songs below are sexy and sexual and have the right mix of sultry best and intimate lyrics. These songs will forever be on my "In The Mood" playlist. They never fail to make me feel a certain way. Io love the power that words and music have on me. So, I wanted to share a few songs that you guys may not know of. None of these songs were released as singles. They were all hidden gems on official releases or mix tapes. I am thankful that they exist and that I have had the pleasure of discovering them. Listen & enjoy!!

01) Jill Scott "Crown Royal On Ice"

"Your hands on my hips pull me
right back to you,
I catch that thrust
give it right back to you,
you’re in so deep
I’m breathing for you,you
Grab my braids
arch my back high for you
you're Diesel engine,
I’m squirting mad oil ah
Down on the floor til my speaker
starts to boil
I flip shit
Quick slip
Hip dip
And I’m twisted
In your hands
and your lips
and your tongue tricks
and you’re so thick
and you’re so thick
and you’re so
Crown Royal on ice
Crown Royal on ice (On Ice)
Crown Royal on ice
Crown Royal on ice (On Ice)"



02) Anthony Hamilton "Float"

"Could it be your nice silky tone
Ohh..that makes me want you girl
Distant nights spent love on the phone
As I touch myself
How I want you more
The mood evokes
Incense smoke and I'm burning up in temperature
Ready to explode
Come take a toke
Let's float
Baby on higher ground

Baby come, float with me
Let me take
You to a place on higher honey
Baby come, float with me
Face to face
Build a body of fire honey"



03) Syleena Johnson "Slowly"

"When he first walked through the door
I had this feeling that I never felt before
He was the finest thing I ever seen.
He had me trembling just cause he smiled at me
then he kissed me softly on my cheek
said to me "you smell good enough to eat"
girl I swear my heart must have skipped a beat.
He's got me feelin' like I did when I was seventeen
and I couldn't wait for him to put his hands all over me.

So I let him know that I was ready
for him to make love to me, but slowly,
then slowly he undressed me,
then slowly he laid me down,
he pulled my panties down,
then slowly he went down on me,
then slowly we made love"



04) Raheem Devaughn "Microphone"

"She is the passion
She is my melody
And I amplify, amplify her sexuality
When the lights go out
My bed is the stage
Her body is the pole
And we just lose control
And let nature take its course
Just like that I'm in the palm of her hand
Like a mike in the stand
Turn us up if yall don't hear me

Like the greatest show on earth known to man
Mic check one two
Mic check one two two
Like the whole world inside the palm of her hand
Mic check one two
Mic check one two
Like the perfect song in the key of love
Mic check one two
Mic check one two two
We gone repeat the love cause I can't get enough
When she's all on my microphone
Oooh oh oh ohhh when she's all on my microphone"



05) Tyrese "On Top Of Me"

"It's 3 o'clock in the morning
and theres only one thing to do
girl yo bodies crazy layin next to mine
I try my best to keep my cool
but the tempertures steady risin
cause I'm all alone with you
and your sexy ways are so inviting
damn I wanna give it to ya

Baby come and take my hand
I just wanna freak you
Girl I got what you want now
it's time for you, climb up on top of me
Girl I want you on top of me
I got what your body needs
Girl I want you on top of me
I got what your body needs"



06)Trey Songz "Scratching Me Up"

"Pose for the camera while it flash (flash flash flash)
Take pictures while we kiss I grab yo ass (ass ass ass)
Nasty love passion love give it up
From beginning to the end the way we get it in

Can't another couple compete when we in the sheets
Breakfast in bed love the way I eat
I love the way it beat we a couple freaks
Rockin to the rhythm and the rhythm of the beat
It's yo body on my body
Clap clap clap when it back back back smack smack smack
When I act like that she react right back...
Pulling on...
The sheets the pillows the dresser
The covers the mattress the passion
Making love girl you scratching me up
But it's cool cause I love when we touchin
I love when we kissing
Sexin you be scratching me up."



07)Jill Scott "All I" 9My favorite song in this group!!)

"I been a goody daddy
but I don't have to be if you don't want me to
I'll be your nasty baby

No time for games
no rules just play
Hope you been thinking about the same thing

I'm just sayin'what's on my mind
It's been good,but now it's time
To show love what we made of

No time for games,no rules just play
I hope you want me in the same way

Every time I close my eyes
all I dream about is making love
I can't even sleep at night
all I dream about is making love
It's just all the things I see
when you're inside of me
that keeps my mind going crazy
I can't even think at night
all I dream about is
making love...to you"

Friday, September 14, 2012

Places I Must Visit: Jamaica



Jamaica. This island has got to be on everyone's wish list. It seems to be the perfect vacation getaway spot. It's on my list for many reasons: the land, the food, the people and the overall experience. I remember reading an Urban Lit book a long time ago where the main characters took a trip to Ocho Rios, Jamaica. Ever since then, I have wanted to got there. Ocho Rios means "eight rivers" in Spanish. I remember being enthralled with the description of this place in that book. There are a few places in Jamaica I would want to go. Negril, Montego Bay, and Kingston are all on the list. I would, of course want to do the tourist thing. But, I would want to experience the native Jamaica as well. I want to eat at the local spots that have the best Jamaican food. The places that most tourists would never venture off in to. I want an authentic Jamaican experience. Yes, I want to stay in a nice hotel with a great room. But, I would also want all that Jamaica has to offer. The pictures that I've seen of this island look warm and inviting. Also, Jamaica has been on my list since "Stella Got Her Groove Back." That movie made Jamaica seem like this mythical, magical hidden treasure. I want to discover it on my own.


Thursday, September 13, 2012

Guilty Pleasures



A guilty pleasure is something one enjoys and considers pleasurable despite feeling guilt for enjoying it. The "guilt" involved is sometimes simply fear of others discovering one's lowbrow or otherwise embarrassing tastes.

We all have them. Some we share openly because they aren't that bad. Others we covet for fear of anyone finding out we like/do a certain thing. I know I used to have a few that would make be so embarrassed if anyone knew. They were my special things. Tv shows, songs, movies, books and the like that I would only enjoy in private. I have no problem sharing things about myself but these things were my own. I didn't want to be judges or looked at differently for liking such things. It's funny in hindsight because I am not that guarded anymore. I like what I like. I don't really care what others think of my tastes. I love it. So, I decided to share a few of my guilty pleasures with my readers. Here goes:

01) I am a fan of "The Real Housewives" franchise. I watch the OC, Atl, NJ, and Beverly Hills religiously. The NYC one has lost a lot so I don't watch anymore. The DC season was boring and I've never seen Miami. I have a love/hate relationship with reality tv. Some of it is really good and wholesome (i.e. "Tia & Tamera" & "Mary, Mary") and others are straight trash (i.e. "Jersey Shore" & "Keeping Up With The Kardashians"). But, I cannot seem to quit the Housewives franchise cold turkey.

02) I go to Wendy's for two specific reasons. Their chocolate Frosty and fries. I eat them together. Like I stick my hot, salty fried into my cold frosty. I use the fries as a utensil. This satisfies my sweet/salty craving all the time. I've been told that this sounds like a pregnant woman's craving. I do not care. It is god. Try it before you knock it. It's awesomeness in my mouth.

03)Up until very recently, I was a Nicki Minaj fan. Her latest work leaves much to be desired. I also feel too old/mature/intelligent to listen to the music she is putting out. But, pre-YMCMB, pre-Wayne, mixtape Nicki had a fan in me. I still listen to "Itty Bitty Piggy" & "Still I Rise" because that's when she was great to me.

04)When I am reading a book, I completely immerse myself in that world. To me, these characters are real while I'm reading. If one gets hurt or dies, it upsets me. I think it's because I'm very sensitive and a writer also.

05) I LOVE Mariah Carey's "Glitter" movie. Yes, I know it was badly written and poorly acted. Yes, it's cheesy and overly done. I still love it and will watch it any time I catch it.



These are guilty pleasures that I feel no guilt about sharing. I'm sure I have more that I hold close. I just cannot think of anything right now. I also think I am more comfortable sharing this because I have already accepted the fact that I am weird. I am comfortable in my weirdness. I'm just me, flaws and all plus quirks and idiosyncrasies. I wonder if anyone else shares my guilty pleasures. You guys know you can tell me anything. If you are still gun shy about it, tell me anonymously. I won't tell a soul.

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

"The Wire" Turns Ten



I remember the first time I saw "The Wire." I was instantly hooked from season 1, episode 1. This past Monday marks the ten year reunion of the revolutionary show. Everything about this show captured my attention. From the unique opening song to the cast of characters, "The Wire" was a hit. I had never been to Baltimore but the street/hood life lives in every urban city. Everyone was talking about this new show. It was unlike anything I had ever seen on tv before. MTV interviews a few Hip-Hop artists about the effect the show had on them. The show developed a cult following. Even now ten years later, I can watch all five seasons as if they were new.

My favorite season is a tie between 3 and 4. My least favorite has to be season 2. At the time, I didn't realize what the producers/writers were doing. Season 2 is drastically different from season 1. I can say that years later I can enjoy season 2 as an integral part of "The Wire's" story. Season 3 was the demise of one of my favorite characters, Russell "Stringer" Bell. I was upset for a long time about his death. The genius of this show is that I loved all the characters, good or bad. I rooted for everyone, the cops, the politicians, and the dealers. From Avon Barksdale to Omar Little, from Clay Davis to Thomas Carcetti, from Michael Lee to Snoop, every character on this show represented the good and evil in all of us. No character is 100% anything. I rooted for the good in them as well as disliked the bad in them. But, all of the characters of this show were well thought, 3 dimensional and all too real. These characters reminded me of people I knew. These characters were all of us.



I am not sure if I have a definitive favorite character. I was a fan of Stringer, Avon, Bodie, Michael, Kima, Bubs, McNulty, just to name a few. There was just something redeeming about every character. That's the unique aspect of "The Wire." The characters are written in such a way that you cannot hate them. I may have disliked their actions but not the character. There are two other very important "Characters." They are the city of Baltimore and the soundtrack. The theme song, which was song by different people every season, is classic. If you watched the show, then you know the "you gotta keep the devil down in the hole" lyrics. I loved that the music was current. As you can tell, I am a fan. this show changed my outlook on a lot of things. I've never been into that world but this show gave me insight into something unknown. I loved the way that it heighten my love of politics and journalism. I think I was the intended audience for this particular show. If you're a fan, tell me who's your favorite character, favorite season. If you've never seen it, you should check it out. Now, I feel like watching season 4 again. I cannot believe that this show premiered ten years ago. It does not seem like it was that long ago. Good shows never go out of style.

*One of my favorite seasons has to be the opening of season 4.*

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

September 11th



We'll always remember 9/11.
God bless all those who lost their lives this day
and all the first responders.
Never forget.




I wrote this about the anniversary of 9/11 last year. I mentioned it here as well. I do not think I can say anything more about a national tragedy than I've already said.

Monday, September 10, 2012

Get Into It: Samsung Galaxy S III



I am eligible for an upgrade with Sprint. Although I am not really in the market for a new phone because my HTC Evo 3D is awesome, I had the opportunity to test out the new Samsung Galaxy S III. I was slightly interested in this cell when I first heard of it. But, after playing around with it this weekend, I am sold. The screen is amazingly vibrant. It is an AMOLED screen. My Evo does not have this. The Galaxy is up to date with the Android 4.0 operating system. Which to me is a plus because it is what I am used to with my current cell. Everything moves really fast and efficiently. I've literally being playing with this cell all day. I like new phones. Love to figure them out. This one has made my Saturday afternoon very enjoyable.



This phone is very slim. It's thinner than my cell. It is also wider too. It's so light that I forgot that I was holding it. It fits comfortably in the palm of my hand. I love that aspect of it. The stock apps were the same as the ones I have. There isn't much difference outside of look and feel. Everything else on the Galaxy are things that I am accustomed to with the Evo. I am an Android fan. If I do decide to upgrade, this is the phone I will begetting. I love HTC but change is good. So, if you are in the market for a new Android, get into the Samsung Galaxy S III.

Sunday, September 09, 2012

The Scenario: Facebook Status

*STATUS JACKED* Females, lets be clear....and REAL....a man isn't cheating with you because you are so good at being the other woman....he's cheating with you because you aren't good enough to be THE woman. I laugh at women that brag about being the "go to" woman when the man gets bored at home, & you try to put down a submissive woman for being who God designed her to be. Learn what submission really means. A submissive woman is far from weak, because a true submissive woman knows how to carry the load for him and her both without him even having to know it. She knows how to speak to his spirit & not his lusts. She knows how to push him to his dreams instead of pulling him to destruction. She knows how to pray with him and not play with him. She knows how to be quiet even when her flesh wants to speak. She knows the value of his hard work & not just his dollar. A submissive woman is his "LIFETIME" but you are just a "GOOD TIME"...and that's all you will ever be. He knows that he can throw a few dollars & material possessions your way & that's all you will ever expect. The other woman makes it easy for a man, the submissive woman makes it easy for herself by making him EARN & not buy her. You are the O.T.H.E.R. woman...an Overplayed Toy He Eventually Releases.....#YOUAREOFFICIALLY RELEASED

The above is a Facebook status that has popped up over my timeline for about a week now. It is, in my opinion, one of the stupidest things I've seen on Facebook. And, I have seen some foolish things on that site. When I first read this, I thought to myself "How ridiculous is this?" I didn't give it another thought...until 2 days later, when this same status popped up again and again. Now, I am not a married woman but I have common sense. I am also a woman who's been cheated on and I grew up in a house where my Father cheated. So, I think I have a really good grasp of the situation from a few standpoints. My conclusion is that the "wife" who proclaimed the above is a sad woman. That's all I was thinking while reading it.

In an attempt to put "the other woman" in her place, "the wife" exposes her insecurities and what's going on in her marriage. I do not condone cheating ever. But, as a woman, I do not fall in line with the thought that addressing the other woman fixes the problem. If my husband was cheating on me, he is who I will address. He is the one who violated our vows. He is the only guilty party in my mind since he is the one I married. The status above spends a lot of time trying to talk down to the other woman instead of facing the real issue. The real issue is her husband cheated. For whatever reason, he decided to step outside of the marriage. Everything about that status irks me. There is nothing noble, good or right about being a man's #1 woman, especially if there are other women in his life, standing in line behind you. I have to be the ONLY woman in a man's life. I do not play well with others when it comes to my relationship. I'm not into sharing a man.

My response: There is so much wrong with this post. This is a woman's insane attempt at "reading" her HUSBAND's side chick. The problem is that her husband is cheating on her. No matter how wrong the other woman is (and yes she is dead wrong) the person she should be handling is her husband, you know the guy who made vows to her. This does not make the wife look good. It makes all parties involved look stupid.

If the other woman is nothing more than a play thing, then why did this woman feel the need to post this? I would never put my intimate business on Facebook and I cannot understand those that do. What good would that do? What really bothers me about this is the way it spread like wildfire. There were women and men alike were posting this like it was the golden gospel. I was literally speechless at this. I mean, these are intelligent people. And, most of them agreed with this nonsense. I could not be quiet about it. It was stupid and I surely said so. Marriages are between two people. If one of them decides to bring a 3rd in, that is an issue that a husband and wife need to work out. It is not fodder for a social network. It's not something that everyone needs to discuss. Private things need to be kept private. We have become a community of people who are living our private lives publicly. This is a sad state of affairs. I know waaaaayyy too much about certain people. I do not like this. Bottom line, it is never a good idea to invite others opinions into your relationship in any capacity. We, as a whole, need to get back to the days of keeping our private lives private.

Saturday, September 08, 2012

Lend Me Your Ears





This statement is so true to me. I am what you would call a music elitist or a music snob. I totally (albeit silently) judge people on their musical tastes. I do. I can admit that. I am not hear for this trash that the music industry is attempting to shove down our throats. I crave real talent, great beats and awesome lyrics. And, if an artist cannot give me those three things, I cannot get with it. I love Hip-Hop but there is something missing from most of the current artist. R&B is on life support. I am not here for this Euro-dance pop trash either. I need R&B singers to sing that genre of music and nothing else. The snob in me desires this. You are definitely what you listen to . So, forgive me if I am not into 2 Chainz, Future, and the like. They do nothing for me. They don't even move me to dance. Snobbish, yes. But, it's who I am.



I can not truly listen to and enjoy local radio stations. They play popular music but most of it has no substance to it. I cannot stomach it. So, I do not deal. I feel music so deeply. I do not know why I identify with it so much. It's just a part of my DNA makeup, I believe. If someone tells me that Lil Wayne is a better rapper than Jay-Z, I cannot fathom this. Statements like that makes me side eye a person. If your musical taste is suspect, we can't truly see eye to eye. Because, you see, music means as much to me as reading and writing. Radio stations play the same "hot" songs over and over. If you love a song, the radio will make you hate it. I avoid the radio at all costs. Call me a snob but my musical palette wants, craves, desires more. IT isn't fed by what's hot in the streets. I don't need a dj or a blog to tell me what's good music. My ears work impeccably. What are your ears hearing? Tell me about.

Friday, September 07, 2012

The 2012 DNC Review

On the first night of the DNC, the crowd was hyped and the speakers were ecstatic. After last week's Republican National Convention, the Democrats were up to bat. And, they did not disappoint at all. The Democratic speeches were aimed at firing up their base and swaying undecided voters to their side. They did just that. It started on Tuesday night with a bunch of upcoming stars. The speakers tonight are the future of the party, their names are ones I will be watching for. Newark Mayor Cory Booker gave a rousing speech. I like Booker. He seems to be a Mayor of the people. He is known for getting out and doing the job himself. His speech was mesmerizing. Another stand out speaker was San Antonio Mayor Julian Castro. He is being pegged as the next big Democratic star to watch. His speech was filled with the promise of what's to come. I'll be watching him. This was all a set up for the wonderful speech our First Lady would give. She would not disappoint.



First Lady Michelle Obama was the star of this night. From her Tracy Reese dress to her perfectly placed hair, she was shining from the moment she walked on stage. Her speech was not political nor was it demeaning to the Republicans. She focused on Barack the man. Her speech was personal and touching. I loved hearing about their live behind closed doors. I could feel how much she truly loves and believes in her husband. She is his biggest supporter. One of my favorite moments from her speech was when she answered this question: “So when people ask me whether being in the White House has changed my husband, I can honestly say that when it comes to his character, and his convictions, and his heart, Barack Obama is still the same man I fell in love with all those years ago.” The First Lady was poised throughout her speech. She talked about their humble beginnings, similar upbringing and eventual success. What I loved most about her speech is the fact that I could tell that her words were genuine. It didn't feel scripted. I loved this quote about her husband as well. "I have seen firsthand that being president doesn’t change who you are. No, it reveals who you are.” & "We were so young, so in love and...so in debt." The First Lady's speech was a glowing endorsement of the man she still believes in. There were no negative attacks on the Republicans or the other candidates. She focused solely on the man she married. Also, she closed her speech speaking of their kids by saying "At the end,f the day, my most important job is still Mom-in-Chief."



Tonight was a great start to the Democratic National Convention. The President is setting out his platform on a national level. Day two was just as invigorating as day one. Outstanding speakers were plentiful. Sandra Fluke, who became famous in the most ridiculous way this year, gave one of the best speeches. Birth control is her passion. She said "Access to birth control that is controlled by people who will never use it." Women's reproductive rights are a hot button issue. Where the Democrats seem to stand up for women, the Republicans seem to turn their backs on women. Massachusetts Senate Candidate Elizabeth Warren also gave a rousing speech. President Clinton closed out the night. He was the definitive star. His speech was rather long but full of statistics and facts. He gave an embattled speech that touched on everything. He hit the Republicans on issues that they have not passed in Congress, on issues that they have talked about the President on. He went after the records of Romney & Ryan. He told everyone what the President has accomplished, tried to do and will do. One great line from his speech was "The Republicans left a huge mess for Obama, then they say he didn't clean it up fast enough and now they want to be voted back in because of that." Clinton was one part politician and one part Southern Baptist preacher on stage. His speech fired up everyone in the stadium, on Twitter as well as those watching at home. After he was done, Obama walked out on stage and embraced him. That was the money shot. Two great Presidents standing side by side.





The last night of the DNC was full of heavy hitters. Gabrielle Giffords spoke as did Eva Longoria. Both women gave speeches that touched me. I especially enjoyed Longoria's "The Eva Longoria who worked at Wendy's flipping burgers, she needed a tax break. But the Eva Longoria who works on movie sets does not." This line touched me. John Kerry also spoke on the fact that Romney flip flops on issues. Which in itself is hilarious because 8 years ago, the Republicans said the same thing about Kerry. His speech was hard hitting and full of facts. He took Romney and the Republicans to task for their lack of actual plans. He said "They (GOP) oppose everything that has made America exceptional in the first place." Vice President Joe Biden was up next. He spoke on the work ethic of Obama, on what the Republicans cannot/will not do. He stayed on track which is something he doesn't always do. But, tonight was different. Tonight was important. "You didn't give up, you got up...you didn't quit on America and you deserve a president who will never quit on you." Biden spoke on everything that Obama has done and all that he will do. The crowd loved it.



Finally, the man of the hour took the stage. President Obama was his usual charming self. He started his speech by thanking his wife and children. His family is always addressed first, which I think is an endearing quality. He was fiery in his rhetoric. Statements like this "You did not elect me to tell you what you wanted to hear. You elected me to tell you the truth" were sprinkled throughout his speech. There was a little air of cockiness as well. And, there should have been. He's earned that right. "I am no longer the candidate, I am the PRESIDENT." was the pinnacle statement of the President's speech. This speech was reminiscent of the 08 campaign speeches. He touched on so many issues while staying true to his base. He made his plea to those undecided voters while reminding his supporters of his record. The President was an excellent orator last night. This was a great acceptance speech. He has been our President and wants to continue to be that. This is his job and he wants to finish what he started. I love the theme of moving America forward as opposed to going backwards with the GOP. In my eyes, the President and the DNC did exactly what they were supposed to. The base was solidified and the undecideds were appealed to. This was as successful DNC as the 2008 one was. I cannot wait to cast my vote in November for Obama/Biden again. I'm excited and ready to do. Are you?

Thursday, September 06, 2012

50 Shades of "K"



Let's dive right into it. Kinky Questions, Kinkier Answers. Ok maybe not really. Either or, they were asked, so I answered. Enjoy this peek at another side of me.

1: Kitchen Counter, Couch, or on top of the dryer? Kitchen Counter

2: A fictional person that you think would be good in bed: Russell Stringer Bell

3: If you had a penis for a day, what are five things you would do? Grab it, stroke it, pee, have sex and look at it

4: Something that never fails to make you horny: Him calling my name in THAT WAY.

5: Where is one place you would never have sex: In a Church

6: The most awkward moment during a sexual experience was when ______________ Dude couldn't keep an erection. Ummm it was mad awkward.

7: How would you feel about taking someones virginity? Do. Not. Want. Ever.

8: What is the best way to sexually bind someone: Handcuffs, Rope, or Other [if other please explain]: I chose other. Scarfs are sexier and silkier. And aren't too binding.

9: How do you feel about tattoos on someone you are interested in? LOVE. Tattoos on brown skin are so sexy to me

10: What was your reaction the first time you saw a penis/vagina? I am sure I was amazed that a penis was so different than a vagina.

11: Have you ever been called a freak? Why? Yes. Because I know what I like done to me and what I like to do.

12: Is one orgasm enough? Are multiple orgasms necessary? One really great orgasm could be enough. But, why would anyone deny themselves multiples if they can achieve it?

13: Something that you have hidden in your room that you don’t want anyone to find:The only thing I have that I wouldn't want a specific someone to find is my bullet.

14: What is one thing that NEVER makes you horny? Corny pick up lines from dudes I have no interest in.

15: Two things you like about oral sex: Like: The contact of his tongue on me and the pleasure that it provides

16: Weirdest sexual act some has performed [or tried to perform] on/with you: Tongue kissing my toes. Eww

17: Do you feel comfortable going "commando"? Sure do

18: Is it ever okay to not use a condom: Only when married

19: Morning, Noon, or Night? Technically any time but since I have to choose :Morning

20: A food that you would like to use during a sexual experience: Strawberries, whipped cream

21: How big is too big: If it hurts in a bad way, then it's too big

22: One sexual thing you would never do: Using a strap on a man

23: Biggest turn on: The right thing said in the right way, nice arms, great smile

24: Three spots that drive you insane: Breasts, under ears, hips

25: Worst possible time to get horny: Anytime having sex is not an option

26: Do you like it when your sexual partner moans: Si, por favor

27: Worst sexual idea you ever had: An elevator

28: How much fapping is too much fapping: If you prefer it to actual sex, it's way too much

29: Bald, landing strip, Jumanji: Landing strip

30: Would you be offended if your significant other suggested you get plastic surgery? Tremendously

31: Is it good sex if you don’t nut: It definitely can be

32: Fill in the blank: "If he ____________, we are fuckin": If he looks at me like that one more time, we are fuckin

33: What your favorite part of your body: Breasts

34: Favorite foreplay activities: Sexual teasing conversation, light touches that aren't neccessarily sexual, kissing

35: Love (>,<, or =) Sex For those of us who don’t remember our math thats “greater than, less than, or equal to]: Love trumps sex. And, sex with someone you love is always better

36: Do you own any sex toys? (what is it? (how long have you had it?) Yes. A bullet, about a year or so.

37: If you were a stripper, what would your name be? Per this chart Roxie Jugs ha!

38: Is there anything you do on Tumblr/Twitter that you would not like your significant other to see? Nope. He follows me there, so he sees all. I'm more than ok with that.

39: Have you ever had sex outside? Yep

40: Booty or Boobs? Boobs

41: Have/would you ever had a threesome? Haven't but would

42: Do you watch gay/lesbian porn? why/why not? Gay, no. Lesbian, yes. Because it's so different from my life.

43: Have/would you ever have sex on a plane? Haven't. Must do.

44: What is one song you’d like to have sex to? It's a tie between Anthony Hamilton's "Float" & Jill Scott "All I"

45: What is something nonsexual that makes you horny? Hearing HIM talk about things that excite him

46: How small is too small? If dude has to ask, it's too small IMO

47: Have you/would you sex in/on a car? I have. On & in.

48: Sex in front of an audience, Yay or nay? Depends on the circumstance.

49: Do you think you're too sexual, not sexual enough, or average? More than average but never too sexual

50: What is too kinky for you? Anything involving kids, animals, peeing, and sadistic acts.

Wednesday, September 05, 2012

Classic Music: Destiny's Child "Destiny Fulfilled"



Destiny's Child is one of my favorite groups of all time. I loved them from their first single "No, No, No (Part 1)." I was sold. I was sad to hear that "Destiny Fulfilled" would be their last group effort. But, what wasn't sad was the music. The music was some of their best. The singles were great. "Lose My Breath" was a club hit. The beat was insane and made me dance every single time it was played. Truth be told, it still does. I just heard it and it inspired a dance break and this entire post. "Soldier" is still tied as one of my favorite singles. It was very street but still sexy. Loved the fact that all three ladies sang a verse. I also loved the T.I. & Wayne features. Just a really great choice for a single. "Girl" was my least favorite single. I just wasn't feeling it and I'm still not here for it. "Cater 2 U" was also one of my favorites. This song is still very sexy. The lyrics play to that submissive, traditional side of me. I also love to hear this song performed live. Beyonce' killed this song live. Her vocals were everything @ Essence that year.

As great as the singles were, the rest of the tracks are just as great. "T-Shirt" is the song that will always be on any playlist I make. Sleeping in your man's t-shirt is a woman's mo. We all do it. This song is love and sex personified. "If" & "Is She The Reason" are the epitome of a relationship being on its last leg. They bring back some memories I'd clearly avoid. But, the lyrics are great. I think every woman can relate to them. "Through With Love " and "Bad Habit" also follow the bad relationship vibe. Great beats, great lyrics will always make a great song even better in my books. "Love" is the song every woman sings loudly, especially when they are in love. "Free" is the song I play when I'm feeling great. There is nothing like truly being free within yourself. This song has nothing to do with a man. It's about fostering the most important relationship in life: the one with yourself. Well said and sung, Destiny's Child. This cd gets constant play in my spot. It's that classic, timeless music that I love. Enjoy DC3!!


















Tuesday, September 04, 2012

The "B" Word



Bitch. This word has been a topic of discussion for as long as I can remember. I've had a love/hate relationship with the word. I've arrived at a place where I can't stand for women refer to themselves as bad bitches. What is the true definition of that? Who decided that his is all we can be? I want to talk to that man because I'm sure that's where it originated. Being called a bitch doesn't warm my soul, doesn't make me smile and nor does it make sense. Yes, I know that in this Hip-Hop influenced world we live, that bad means good. But there is nothing good about being a bitch. When and if I use the word, I mean it in the most disrespectful way. I



My girls & I went through an era where we used it as a term of endearment. We were young & reckless. They were my bitches. I was their bitch. It was just what we did. We saw nothing wrong with it. In hindsight, I know that was uninformed ignorance. I wasn't offended by the word if it came from my girls. But, on the flip side of this, I was not keen on being called it by a man. I found that was disrespectful. I was not having that. It would be am argument if it happened. Disrespecting me is never a good look. That's why I like the message in Lupe Fiasco's "Bitch Bad." If you haven't heard it, please take a listen below. I live the chorus which says "bitch bad, woman good, lady better." Young women need to know that being a bitch is not a career goal and neither is being a bad one either. People seem to forget how much power that words carry. Bitch being hurled at you in an aggressive tone should have the same affect as if someone says it in a nice way. It's not a compliment. It never has been. We've gotten the message mixed up.



Music, specifically Hip-Hop, has ushered in this idea of a Bad Bitch. This is better than being a regular bitch. Honestly, I can rap every line to Webbie's "Bad Bitch." The track is very catchy. I've never referred to myself as that. That cones with age. I don't want to be called a bitch nor will I call myself that. I'm a woman, a lady, and respectful. Nothing about the word defines me. Being a bad bitch isn't something I aspire to. I think that's a young dumb woman's aspirations. I am none of that. I'm also not defined by a Hip-Hop song. I never have been. As much as I love the genre, almost 75% of the lyrics are completely foreign to my life. I just enjoy the music.
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We have to stop embracing derogatory terms. Every bad word isn't meant to be flipped into something good. I am determined to erase "bitch" in all terms out of my vocabulary. I can't speak for everyone but I need to rid myself of negative words, thoughts, and people. When you accept negativity in any form into your life, it has the power to alter you. I'm already a work in progress. I do not need any negative vibes in my cipher. That's just me though. So, if you see me, feel free to NOT address me or slander me with the word bitch. I am many things. But, I'm no man's bad bitch. And neither are none of you. We are women. Let's act accordingly & make people treat us as such. In closing, remember this "bitch bad, woman good, lady better."