I was reading Madame Noire the other day. I ran across an
this article that made me think. It was an open letter from a 23 year old virgin to her future husband. It was an eloquent letter that spoke to me. She spoke of her wanting to wait and how she made a vow in front of her church. It was an amazing read. I felt her story and her journey. It's different for all women. Some things in her letter did spark some thoughts in me.
I began to wonder. Is it wrong that I didn't wait? Or is it better that I followed my first mind and my heart? If I hadn't, I would currently be a 32 year old virgin. Her letter did spark a twinge if jealousy. It only lasted a second. But it was there. I can honestly say that I regret who I shared my virginity with. He didn't deserve it. That is the truth. After thinking about, I came to the conclusion that I made the right choice for me. It is was what I wanted at that time. I try to live my life with no regrets. Why would I? It's a horrible way to live. Everything I have done in my life has led me to this moment, has made this woman. And, I happen to love every bit of her. My choice was right for me.
I feel that every woman has the right to chose. I made a choice years ago that I have to live with. It is one I cannot redo. I think there is something to be said about gaining experience and learning what works for your body. I do believe that one's virginity is a precious gift. I think the woman's letter was a beautiful testament to her life. I am not her. I actually never thought that way about virginity. I gave my virginity away willing because I was curious. I wanted to know. And, the reality is, it was a long time after that before I really knew. But, hey, that's life. We all have the freedom of choice. Choose wisely for you.