Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Shacking Up

I have a confession to make. I'm 32 and I've never lived with a man. Never. If you haven't noticed, I am very traditional about a lot of things. Cohabitating is high on that list. I've just never been big on that. So, theoretically, the only man I will live with will be my husband. I don't judge anyone who has done this or is presently doing this. I'm just set in my own ways about some unchangeable things. And, since I've never done it before, I may as well stick to what I believe in.

I've had roommates so I know I can live with people. I'm excited about the possibilities of sharing a space with the man I love. It's new and different. It's also strange that I've never been in a place where this was even an option. I've just always known it wasn't an option for me if marriage didn't proceed it. I was more than ok with that. I knew that if I didn't ever get married, I would always live alone. I never wanted to shack up with a man. I think people get too complacent when they are living together. I don't want to be a forever girlfriend or fiancée. So if marriage isn't the end game, why would I continue to play? I know what works for me and my values and morals.

For me, it's one of those things that I can only share with my "husband." I think it will be awesome to explore this uncharted territory with him. I'm sure it will be full if surprises. I wonder what habits I have that I'm not even aware of. Being single and living alone for a while has me spoiled beyond belief. I like things a certain way. Can't Stand clutter but I'm not anal about it. Cohabitating is definitely an unknown area of expertise for me. But, like everything I do, I'm positive I can conquer it. I know that we will be just fine when that time comes. Any unmarried cohabitators out there? Tell me the good, the bad and the ugly. How have you adjusted? Let's dish.


  1. I like this post, it made me smile and caused me to reflect on my life/ living with Mr. B. We have lived together for three years at this point - my how time flies! You may have read about our living together on my blog lol... it's a trip/ journey, can be both beautiful and ugly, but is certainly wonderful. I've learned a lot about myself. // I appreciate your valuing waiting until you have found your lifelong partner and husband. It is certainly something I never considered but something I can dig. The excitement I have for you is overwhelming in this moment. Ooh the stories you will have to tell..

  2. Thanks. I didn't realize how traditional my values were until my late 20's. I am excited about this adventure. Living with my guy will be a new chapter in my book. Especially since he's never lived with someone as well.

  3. He hasn't either? Can I just pitch this to a television network now?! ;) ...Sometimes I wish I had hidden camera's in my home - it would be too funny.

  4. Lol. We both laughed at your comment. Too funny. Nope, he hasn't either. He & I are seriously two peas in a pod.