Families are a complex part of life. They are the people who know us the best and love us. But, there are also a faction of family that causes us stress. The fact that they are family complicates things. It is hard to cut family members out of your life. The reality is that some times this is what needs to happen. Family feuds happen. This is just a fact of life. Sometimes, they are small and insignificant. Other times, they are huge, epic, blow outs. Either way, they both affect the entire family. That is never a good thing. I try my best to avoid the familiar drama. It is not my thing. And, the reality is, family stays family.
"The family is a haven in a heartless world. - Christopher Lasch
There are some things that I just cannot stand for. Disrespect is high on that list. I will not stand around and let anyone disrespect me or certain family members. That's just not going to happen. I love my family. I am closer to some of them. Those are the ones I will always have their back. I'm not one for fussing and fighting, especially in public. I don't want to be involved in this. I do not like or live for drama. But, I know that there are some that this is their only joy in life. That is sad but true. There are a handful in my own family. For the most part, I avoid and ignore them. I do my best to not invite that negative energy into my space. I do not want that or them no where near me.
"Families are like fudge - mostly sweet with a few nuts." - Author Unknown
The bottom line is this: keep your disrespectful speak to yourself in my presence. It will not bode well. In this scenario, I may come out of my character when faced with it. I am thankful that I am not the same hot head that I was at 21. In general, I am not looking for a fight. I am a 32 year old woman. What would I look like fighting? That's dumb and that isn't me. I will always stand up for myself. I will defend those I love until there isn't any life left in me. That's who I am. Feuding inside one's family is never a good thing. They divide the family. It never ends well. Love your family. Even when all they want to do is fight. Love them regardless.
This sounds like some peaceful ish I would say. Clearly I'm rubbing off on you Sunshine. ;)
ReplyDeleteLol clearly you are!! I'm trying to be more peaceful here. It's working so far.
DeleteIt's funny that I'm reading this today... after [my] yesterday.
ReplyDeleteI just read about it. Crazy right? Family is always interesting. There was a particular incident last weekend that prompted this post. I too was taken out of my element because of a certain family member.
DeleteI eneded up calling this relative the following day to apologize for my response/ reaction which was out of character (especially for our relationship). He had coincidently just read the post I wrote that you read, because my brother couldn't help but inform him, "she wrote about you." It help though (I think). ...I pray that we are really able to bouce back from this (AND lol, that he checks himself next time hahaha - no, just kidding. AND, that I am able to control myself next time).
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