I was doing my daily perusing of websites two days ago when I came across an article that truly made me angry. It was on ForHarriet and it was about DL Hughley. Let me first say that I am not a fan of his. I do not find him funny or entertaining. To me, he was the least funny comic on the "Kings of Comedy" movie. I was not here for his short lived television show nor can I tell you any movie he's been in. In the last few years, he has become more synonymous with sticking his proverbial foot in his mouth. Do you remember when he said that Don Imus was not wrong to call the women's basketball team "nappy headed hoes?" If not, just know that he did say it. And, no he wasn't trying to be funny when he did it. He has a new book out that I won't mention the name of because I'm sure that it is full of more crap like his quote. He appeared on NPR and when asked his thoughts on Black women, he said,
"I've never met an angrier group of people."
This quote was followed by this gem:
"Being a dad to daughters is very different from being a dad to sons. The dangers are different and the way they listen to you is different. I'm sure every father feels the same way that I do about his daughters. I love them, but I don't like them. Who likes women?" "I don't like the way they process - no, I don't. I enjoy their company. I do not like the way that they reason. You can't understand them."
No, your eyes are not deceiving you. This is a real quote from comedian DL Hughley. This being said by a Black man is disheartening. It's sad and grotesque. The fact that the Black man who wrote this has been married to a Black woman for 26 years, who has also raised 2 Black female children, who is from a Black woman is not lost on me. I am sick of the media and everyone always continually dumping on Black women. This man is an idiot. Plain and simple. And, I wonder how his wife, daughters and mother feel about this? It could not be me. It's one thing to have a husband who is an idiot, it's another thing for the whole free world to know it. This comes across as a self loathing, self hating Black man. I'm surprised he's been with a Black woman so long.
I want everyone, especially Black men, to stop speaking on and for Black women. We have a voice. We know how to use it. As Black women, we have been taught how to be strong because the world is never going to make it easy for us. I am so glad that I do not know, associate or love any Black men who feel this way. And, if I do, they better keep this ridiculous opinion to themselves. Because I will never be ok with anyone generalizing about everything I am. If any of you are interested, you can read the transcript of the interview here. I am completely done. If you are was appalled as I am, do me a favor and ignore Hughley's book. It does not deserve to sell any units. I am completely disgusted and done.