Really Random

* Me and sleep have not been the best of friends lately. This needs to change and quickly!

* This little bit of winter weather we have going on is good. But I hate that my allergies always wanna act the fool as soon as the wind blows. #planleaveneworleansisinfulleffect

* The internet is a funny, crazy, wonderful, scary place. You can literally find out anything about anyone. Even when you aren't really trying to. Real talk.

* Sometimes I wonder about the most random things. Things that I really do not need or even really want to know. But, yet, these questions invade my thoughts some nights.

* I've decided this year I will make a more conscious effort to avoid shrimps like the plague they are. I'm allergic but I love them. But, it's really time I start taking care of me better.

* A friend sent me info on a Royal Caribbean Mediterranean cruise on . That sounds like a great trip that I really need to look into. The cruise ports in Italy and Spain I think.

* This shooting in Arizona really has me upset. A 9 year old girl was killed. And, for what? Praying that Rep Giffords makes it.

* Being stuck on things in your past only prevents one from getting to their future. I know this to be inherently true. Just thought that I'd share this tidbit.

* Back on my Bible reading game after a holiday hiatus. I'm just starting First Corinthians. So far, so really good.

* My dreams of babies are getting to be a nightly thing. I cannot wait to met these babies that I keep dreaming about.

* My Mini-Me (nephew Kameran) literally cracks me up. We just had the best 15 minute conversation about his school and education. He loves school, just like his Teedy Kenda!

* One of favorite shows return to tv tomorrow after an almost 2 year hiatus. "The Game" is back on BET. I cannot wait to see what this season holds for the cast.

Get Into It: J. Cole

By now, its evident that I L-O-V-E music. It is my thing. I am currently enthralled with J. Cole. He is a rapper from North Carolina and is the first artist signed to Jay-Z's RocNation. That co-sign alone is everything in my book. It is the reason why I gave J. Cole a listen. I was sold from the first time I heard his voice and delivery. His latest mixtape "Friday Night Lights" and it is as great as a debut cd. I love every track. I've included some of my favorite J. Cole tracks. He has that thing. I have a feeling that he will be very big. This is his year. He is currently on tour in Europe with one of my other favorite rappers, Drake. Below are some of my favorite J. Cole tracks.

Get Into It: Jazmine Sullivan's "Love Me Back"

I just got Jazmine Sullivan's "Love Me Back" yesterday. The MP3 download is currently $3.99 on Amazon.com. Before I could get halfway through it, I came across "Excuse Me" and declared her cd a success in my eyes. This song is the truth. Point blank period. The poet in me fell for the lyrics before I fell for the beat. This is the song a woman sings/plays for her man when she finally gets it. He is it for her. I did listen to the whole thing and I love it. Her voice is awesome and seems to be filled with so much passion. Jazmine actually tweeted that she was leaving the music business last week. I hope she reconsiders. Her voice is needed.

My Poetry Corner III: "Intellectual Intercourse"

i wanna have an intelligent conversation with your intellect
spend hours in the deepest corners of your mind
wrapped up in your thoughts draping myself in your opinions
want to romance you with metaphors
impress your psyche with my silly similes
smother your body with amor
this is more than a physical thing
I'm pursuing the idea of being intimate with your inner being
plan on caressing your doubts
in order to put your soul at ease
gotta intertwine your words
with the ones in my mind
so that we can create our own secret exchange
you must lay down your beliefs on top of mine
and maybe you and I could mother-father a new off-spring
been having dreams of incorporating your feelings into my brain
thus, becoming one with you
hope I can erase your insecurities and replace them with faith
I would love to touch the inner-most part of you
wanna pull you so deep within me
need to feel your heart beat in sync with mine
wanna connect with you on every level
wanna speak a language that only you can decipher
play the music that only we know the lyrics to
I wanna speak to you with only my eyes
breathe deep of your essence massage your worries away
and maybe, for now, you and I can live here
in this utopia of true intelligence in your mind
intellectually stimulating each other!

Q&A

I like to know things. I love to learn and be informed. I'm a Sagittarius so by nature I'm inquisitive. I always have questions running rampant in my mind. Most I tend to answer on my own. We're human so questioning everything is in our DNA. I am always questioning something. Usually in my head. I also tend to write down questions about things I do not understand. I will investigate any and every thing. I love to know things.

Sometimes, there are questions we are afraid to ask. Because the answer scares the hell out of us. But, if a question is heavy on your mind and in your heart, it's impossible to not ask it. Or, maybe it's just me. The outcome could be the exact answer I was looking for which would be awesome. Or it could be something that would hurt me. I'd rather know either way. When I get the answer, I'll know how to proceed.

And, sometimes, I get an even better answer than the one I was hoping for. It's so very easy to expect the worst in people. Sometimes, people can shock you, in a good way. I absolutely love when that happens. It's the best thing ever. I question everyone and everything. It's the only way I know how to function. Now, I'm gonna go back to think about some more questions.

My Poetry Corner II: "Altered Reality"

I wanna love you
a little
wanna hold you close
and keep you warm
maybe if only just for a little while
we could pretend that I was yours
and you were mines
that this right here
right now
is the gospel truth
wish we could exist here
in this world
where nothing matters but
the two of us
the place where
we never let the outside in
if only for a moment
if only for a minute
me loving you would be good
would be fine
would be right
cause in here
we are one
we are it
we are love
but this is all a
fallacy of my imagination
the thing I dream when
I close my eyes
when I hear your voice
feel your touch
but in my bed
in the dark
alone with my thoughts & you
we are what I dreamed
and for that short period of time
I grasp hold to this
altered reality

~Kenda Calandra circa 2005

Just Say No To Reality TV

Hello. My name is Kenda and I am addicted to reality tv. I was a reluctant viewer at first. But now, I am deeply immersed in it. I've come to the conclusion that my intelligence is really being insulted by this dumbing down of American television. I need an exit strategy asap. So, in this very beginning of this new year, I feel the need to ween myself off of it.

The first causalities of this year has been "Brandy & Ray J Family Business." This was an easy decision because Ray J is beyond wack. This is further made obvious by the fact that he has no clue that he thinks he is so cool. This show comes off very scripted and just forced. So, I'm clearly saying bye-bye to the Norwoods. Another one that has to go is Teen mom and 16 & Pregnant. These two shows only make me mad.

Now, there are shows that will be much harder for me to let go off. I am a fanatic behind the Real Housewives franchise. I am currently watching the Atlanta and Beverly Hills seasons. I will finish these seasons and be done with them. The New York and Orange County women will be back on the scene soon. I will not even get back into those franchises. I am a Big Brother, Four Weddings, Bridezilla, Jersey Shore, Top Chef, Say Yes To The Dress, Te Real World, and America's Next Top Model fan as well. These shows will not be watched anymore. I just cannot do it. I am beginning to feel dumber by the day for watching such cleverly disguised trash. I am over it in 2011.

I think I need to spend more time feeding my intelligence. I have to be more conscious of what I take in. I think I need to read more or watch more things on the History Channel. The reality tv explosion does not seem as if it's going anywhere any time soon. I am just respectfully declining from participating. I need more from entertainment. I deserve more for me and my mind in 2011. And, I'm going get it, by any means necessary!

Am I Dreaming?

I have the most vividly realistic dreams. I have for as long as I can remember. I don't know anyone else who dreams like I do. It usually takes me a while to get my mind to settle down enough for my body to go to sleep. My dreams are always so grand and of epic proportions.

My dreams are usually to the point. I dream whole scenes. I love that. Those dreams give me deeper insight into things in my life. I am an admitted over-thinker. I believe my dreams are my way of simplifying things. It's just easier to solve things when my mind isn't contemplating 8360 scenarios. Sometimes I'm confused by the details of my dreams. Mostly, I'm pleasantly surprised by them. I love the ones that seem to play out my future. Those are the best ones.

I'm beginning to believe that me being a writer and creative being plays a part in my dreams. In the past, I never shared my dreams with anyone. But that's changed recently. I almost always tell HIM my dreams. He's always amazed by the details of them. I dream a lot. I think that is a really great thing. Some nights I can't wait to make it to my dreams. I never know what will happened or who will show up. Dream a little dream, people.

Hello 2011!!!

Happy New Year's!!! 2010 is so far gone! Hello and good morning to 2011. I believe that it will be a great year. I am speaking it into existence right now!!

My Year in Preview: Looking Ahead to 2011

It's time to say goodbye to 2010. It was quite a year. I am hopeful, determined, and clearly excited about the new year. Going into 2011, I am the most optimistic that I've ever been. My mind is so clear and fully focused. I know what I want and that I will get it all. I know now that what God has for me is for me. I will meet my future face to face. I plan on moving in the direction of where my future lies. I will continue to nurture and develop my relationship with HIM. I've finally voiced my intense desire to get married and have kids. I want the whole all American family; husband, kids, dog/cat, and a house with a white picket fence (ok maybe not the fence lol). I cannot wait to be pregnant & give birth to my own kids. Specifically, two girls and a boy. I will further my education. I will def be changing career paths. I need to do something fulfilling with my life. I'm sure that writing is it. I will smile more while worrying less. I'm a firm believer in speaking it with your mouth & believing it with your heart. We give life to everything we put out into the universe. I'm finally ready to live my life. I'm excited about my future and all that it entails. I am finally on the road to my destiny. There is no better gift than that for me in 2011. So au revoir & adios to 2010 and bonjour & hola to 2011. I plan on making this year a great one!

The Reverb Project - Day 17 - 31

This is the second half of my Reverb10 Project.

December 17th - Lesson Learned - What was the best thing you learned about yourself this past year? And how will you apply that lesson going forward?

The most important thing I learned about myself this year is that I can allow myself to be open again. For almost a year and a half, I was very closed off. I was not in the mood or position to let someone into my life or into my heart. I just didn’t want to deal with that. But, I’m in a much better place now. My heart is def open now. I will continue to follow this path of openness, of allowing myself to feel. That is all I can do. And, I know that it will be the best thing ever.

December 18th - Try - What do you wanna try next year? Is there something you wanted to try in 2010? What happened when you did or didn’t go for it?

In the following year, I would like to try to write something every day. I am committed to writing because in the words of dream hampton, “writers write.” I wanted to try a few things in 2010. Some of them worked out really well, others not so much. But, either way, I’m thankful for the experience.

December 19th - Healing - What healed you this year? Was it sudden or a drip-by-drip evolution? How would you like to be healed in 2011?

I realized that there was still hope. I had lost that feeling for a while. So, in a way, I was healed by the possibility of hope. It was def a drip-by-drip evolution. It was a slow and steady process. It was def needed in my life this year. In 2011, I would like to be healed of any negative thoughts or actions. I would love to eliminate them totally. that would be quite great to me.

December 20th - Beyond Avoidance - What should you have done this year but didn’t because you were too scared, worried, unsure, busy or otherwise deterred from doing? Bonus: Will you do it?

The one thing I should’ve done was just to go. Take the trip I have to take. I was stopped by my fear. I will do it and soon. Because I know its the pathway to my future.

December 21st - Letter To Your Future Self - I blogged about this already here

December 22nd -Travel - How did you travel in 2010? How and/or where would you like to travel next year?

In 2010, I did not travel enough. That was not the highlight of 2010. I need to travel internationally. It’s a definite must for 2011. I am craving an island vacation, somewhere exotic though. There are a few places I would to vacation in the next year. Mykonos Island, Greece; Fiji; Belize; Turks and Caicos; Dubai, Ochos Rios, Jamaica; Capri, Italy; and St. Thomas just to name a few. I’ve also never been to NYC or Miami or Vegas. So they are on my must see list as well. I’m just ready to go.

December 23rd - New Name - Let’s meet again, for the first time. If you could introduce yourself to strangers by another name for just one day, what would it be and why?

If I had to pick a new name, of would be Kelsi. I’ve been in love with this name for a while now. When I have a daughter, I’m sure this will be her name. I think its a very cute name. And, I just really like it

December 24th - Everything’s OK - What was the best moment that could serve as proof that everything is going to be alright? And how will you incorporate that discovery into the year ahead?

The best moment that I can think is New Year’s Day. I just kinda had an epiphany while talking to some family members. I felt lighter as if the weight of the world had been lifted off my shoulders. I just knew that I would be just fine. That my life was changing. I’ve used that feeling to drive me through this year and will continue to use it in 2011

December 25th – Photo – A present to yourself. Sift through all the photos of you from the past year. Choose one that best captures you; either who you are, or who you strive to be. Find the shot of you that is worth a thousand words. Share the image, who shot it, where, and what it best reveals about you.

This picture best captures who I am. This was snapped on my way to my best friends wedding. It was taken by my cousin. It best reveals about me that I am genuinely happy about my life & those that I love. This was a very wonderful day.

December 26th - Soul Food -What did you eat this year that you will never forget? What went into your mouth & touched your soul?

The one meal that I remember the most was crab cakes and salad from Semolinas. It has become my new favorite dish. I need to get the recipe. I can’t say it touched my soul though.

December 27th - Ordinary Joy - Our most profound joy is often experienced during ordinary moments. What was one of your most joyful ordinary moments this year?

Simply seeing my youngest nephew Kole light up when he sees me. He is very attached to his parents and very spoiled. But finally he has warmed up to other people and his recognition and acknowledgement of me was my one joyful ordinary moment of this year.

December 28th - Achieve - What’s the thing you most want to achieve next year? How do you imagine you’ll feel when you get it? Write that feeling down. Then, brainstorm 10things you can do, or 10 new thoughts you can think, in order to experience that feeling today.

The one thing I want to achieve the most next year is conquering my fear and living the life I love and deserve. I’m sure I will feel happy and free and loved and complete and totally blissful. I know the steps I need to take to get me to there. It’s all about stepping out on faith which is huge. But I see my destiny within my grasp.

December 29th - Defining Moment - Describe a defining moment that has affected your life this year.

At the beginning of the year, while having lunch with my cousin and my brother, I had a lightbulb moment. I felt whatever had been wearing me down lift off me. I just knew that everything that I was carrying from 2009 was over. That I would be perfectly fine. And, I was so right. Things I never expected have transpired this year. 30 was a good look.

December 30th - Gift - This month, gifts and gift-giving can seem inescapable. What’s the most memorable gift, tangible or emotional, you received this year?

The best and most unexpected gift I received this year had to be love. You cannot measure it or quantify it or see it. But, I feel it deep inside of me. It was a gift because I didn't know I needed it, deserved it, desired it until it presented itself to me. Isn't that the ultimate gifft?

December 31st - Core Story - What central story is at the core of you, and how do you share it with the world?.

I think my core story is one of love. Because when I love, I love hard and with every thing in me. This is a no brained when it comes to my family. But, what I've realized is that this is also true about me when it comes to the people I let into my life. Once you're in my heart, you're in. This year, I found myself in a situation where I had no choice but to open my heart. Love has a way of doing that. I didn't know I needed it, wasn't even looking for it. I cannot wait to see how my core story grows in the new year.

The Reverb Project - Day 1 - 16

Reverb 10 (#reverb10) is now an annual event, an inspired response to (and evolution of) #best09. It’s an open online initiative that encourages participants to reflect on this year and manifest what’s next. It’s an opportunity to retreat and consider the reverberations of your year past, and those that you’d like to create in the year ahead.

December 1st - One Word - Encapsulate the year 2010 in one word. Explain why you’re choosing that word. Now, imagine it’s one year from today, what would you like the word to be that captures 2011 for you.

My word is “brand-new.” I am choosing this word because it fully explains this year. I’ve experienced some brand-new feelings and thoughts this year. I’m more than happy about that. One year from today, I would love for the word to be “blissful.” I’m def working towards that.

December 2nd - Writing - What do you do each day that doesn’t contribute to your writing — and can you eliminate it?

The thing I do most that doesn’t contribute to my writing is procrastinating. I freewrite alot. But, I never really write with focus. I can def eliminate this. I just have to work on it.

December 3rd - Moment - Pick one moment during which you felt most alive this year. Describe it in vivid detail (texture, smells, voices, noises, colors).

This is actually an easy question to answer. A week ago, I had the deepest, most emotional and adult conversation with literally the best man I know. I have never been that open and honest with a man about the way I feel. And, I’ve never had a man be so free with me. I felt every word that he spoke. They made me feel all pink and extremely girly. I was delighted and amazed. I was overcome with emotion. But, I was never afraid or ashamed of that. This is only because of him. His voice speaking those words are still on a constant loop in my mind.

December 4th - Wonder - How did you cultivate a sense of wonder in your life this year.

Wonder is not an easy thing to capture. But, somehow, I did. In every phone call and email and text from HIM, I held a small piece of wonderful in my hands and in my heart.

December 5th - Let Go - What (or whom) did you let go off this year? Why?

I let go off a girl I used to be the best of friends with. I outgrew the friendship. It was just that’s simple. We’re still cool but I wouldn’t call her my friend. Hey, it is what it is.

December 6th - Make - What was the last thing you made? What materials did you use? Is there something that you want to make, but you need to clear some time for it?

I haven’t made anything in a while. I would love to sit and create a Jackson Pollack-inspired painting one day when I’m free. He’s one of my favorite artists. I will use bright paint colors and a nice sized piece of drawing paper.

December 7th - Community - Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010? What community would you like to join, create, or more deeply connect with in 2011?

The place that I’ve found community in 2010 has been on Twitter and Tumblr. I’ve had the funniest, thought provoking and funny conversations on these two sites. In 2011, I think I need to focus on an actual community.

December 8th - Beautifully Different - Think about what makes you different and what you do that lights people up. Reflect on the things that make you different - you’ll find that they are what make you beautiful.

What makes me different? I am a nurturer. I love to take care of people.I’m a great listener and have been told that I give great advice. I tend to remember very specific things about people and always remember birthdays. I think its the little things that count when it comes to family and friends. My heart makes me beautifully different.

December 9th - Party - What social gathering rocked your socks off in 2010? Describe the people, music, food, drinks, clothes and shenanigans.

My little cousins high school graduation party in May. It was filled with family and friends. There was bbq and a seafood boil. We (the of age people) drank daiquiri’s and Grey Goose. The weather was sunny and then rainy and back to sunny in a 6 hour period. It was hot, very hot. There was some music from the radio. I enjoyed seeing everyone. We laughed all day. It was a great celebration

December 10th - Wisdom - What was the wisest decision you made this year and how did it play out for you?

The wisest decision I made this year was to allow myself to feel. That’s a huge deal to me because I’d put up this wall. It has played out in many unexpected ways, all incredible positive. I am so full and happy :)

December 11th - Things - What are 11 things your life doesn’t need in 2011? How will you go about eliminating them? How will getting rid of these 11 things change your life?

My 11 things are fear, loss, procrastination, drama, despair, sadness, heartbreak, anti-social attitude, distance, emo moments, and anger.

I am making a conscious effort to stay away from these elements. I try not to engage in or succumb to them. I believe that with prayer, I can continue down this path. Getting rid of these things will ultimately lead me to my own idea of contentment.

December 12th - Body Integration - This year, when did you feel the most integrated with your body? Did you have a moment where there wasn’t mind and body, but simply a cohesive YOU, alive and present?

I always feel most integrated with my body. I’m very conscious of my body & my self image. I have been this way since I was about 17. I went from being very thin to very curvy. I like me and that is the next thing ever.

December 13th - Action - When it comes to aspirations, its not about ideas. It’s about making ideas happen. What’s your next step?

My next step is actually writing this book. I mean sitting still long enough to flesh out my ideas and bring these characters to life. My procrastinating has to end.

December 14th (MY BDAY)- Appreciate - What’s the one thing/person you have come to appreciate most in the past year? How do you express gratitude about it?

The one person that I’ve come to appreciate most in 2010 has to be KJB. There is nothing or no one who has meant more to me in the past year. I express my gratitude to him with my words. I let him know how much I appreciate him all the time with my laughter, conversations, texts, words (spoken & written) amongst other things. I’m sure he knows exactly where I stand at this point ;)

December 15th - 5 Minutes - Imagine you will completely lose your memory of 2010 in 5minutes. Set an alarm and capture the things you most want to remember about 2010.

I want to remember my growth this year. And all of the heart to hearts I had with each of my siblings separately this year. I would record any time I hung out with my fave cousin. I def would record the Saints epic Superbowl win and the party that I was @ when it happened. And, hanging with my other fam that weekend in March. I wanna remember the moment that he came back into my life. I def wanna remember the most important conversation and best birthday present from yesterday. All of the conversations I’ve had with my nephews and nieces, my Mom’s 50th birthday and all of the great music and literature that I’ve discovered this year. I think that about fills up my 5 minutes.

December 16th - Friendship - How has a friend changed you or your perspective on the world this year? Was this change gradual, or a sudden burst?

I was given a little more insight into the life of a Muslim woman in Saudi Arabia by a friend. It really opened my eyes. This was a gradual change.

My Year in Review: Life

“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” - Soren Kierkegaard

That quote personifies how I've felt about the past year. It's the end of the year & its always a time of reflection. 2010 was a pretty good year. Especially compared to the colossal downpour that 2009 was. I am hopeful looking ahead to 2011. That is the word that I'm using going forward.

Life has a funny way of giving you just what you need when you aren't even looking for it. This let's me know that God has an ill sense of humor. I spent most of 2009 being very introspective. I was trying to get down to the very essence of who I was. Beginning in 2010, I decided that I was ok. That I was lovable. Situations in 2008 made me doubt myself.

In 2010, I got myself back. I lost sight of who I truly was for a while. This year, I laughed more, stressed less, and made a conscious effort to just live life. I'm not exactly where I want to be yet. I feel like I'm well on my way there. I weeded out some bad friends and tightened my friendships with some great people. I'm writing more which is a great thing. I've found more ways to making my own happiness. That has been the key. I embarked on a personal religious journey to get a better, deeper understanding of the Bible. I've read books that are of a more varied genres.

Life has been quite extraordinary this year. I believe that it will get even better going forward. I am trying to turn myself from an often pessimist to a daily optimist. It's not easy but by changing the way I think, I will change the way I see things. Life in 2010 was one for the books. I have no doubt that 2011 will be as well.

Get Into It: The iPad

I like gadgets. And, the iPad is the ultimate gadget. What doesn't it do? It's a great toy. There will be a new 2.0 version of the iPad availiable in April 2011. Retails for $499.00. Get Into It!

My Year in Review: Family

Family for me can easily defined by blood and the people you surround yourself with. I love my family. No, we aren't perfect, but we always love. In the past year, my family has been a huge part of who I am.

I grew closer to my sisters this year. That was the best thing ever. My relationship with my brother changed. I strengthen my relationship with my cousins. I stayed out of the drama that family some time causes. I've learned that I do not have to engage in every family issue. I plan on continuing this in the future. I will fight for them when they need me to. I am here for support for all of them and vice versa. There is nothing better than that love.

At the end of the day, family is what really matters. No, we aren't perfect. And, I wouldn't change that or them. I love these people. They are the backbone to who I am. That is love.

Ms K From A-Z

A - Asshole: Sometimes *shrugs*
B - Best Friend: Ty, Chuck, Niaga, Tell.
C - Cant Tolerate: Ignorance.
D - Determined: To NEVER settle.
E - Easiest Person To Talk To: Kristopher.
F - Favorite Food: Pasta.
G - Gangsta: Far from it.
H - Hate: Beans.
I - Instrument: Piano.
J - Job: On To The Next One.
K - Kids: Most def...in the next few years.
L - Longest Car Ride: Shrewsbury to Galveston, Katrina evacuation.
M - Milk Flavor: Strawberry.
N - Number Of Siblings: Five.
O - One Wish: Seeing my dreams become reality.
P - Phobias: Spiders & snakes.
Q - Quote: Sometimes, its not the destination but the journey that makes it worthwhile.
R - Reason To Smile: I woke up this morning to his voice :)
S - Song You Last Heard: "Young Love" - Teena Marie
T - Time You Woke Up: 6: 50 am.
U - Unknown Fact About Me: I prefer to sit in a dark house.
V - Vegetable: Carrots.
W - Worst Habits: Sarcasm.
X - X-Rays You’ve Had: Right Foot, Left Knee, Breasts.
Y - Your Favorite Pastime: Music, Reading & talking to HIM.
Z - Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius (I'm such a Sag!!)

My Year in Review: Love

"I am ready for love" - India.Aire

Love was the absolute last thing on my mind and in my heart at the beginning of the year. It was not even an option for me. I was working on me. I was finally over the last heartbreak when this year began. I was focused and it wasn't love. I didn't think I would be able to love again. Or that a man would love me again. Yes, I was down on everything related to love.

But, as the old saying goes, love finds you when you least expect it. That is clearly what happened to me. I woke up one day in love. Just like that. Simple but true. Ok, not that simple. I met a man who was basically the ying to my yang. From the beginning, we were fast friends. We bonded over music and poetry, two of my favorite things. There was light flirting between us. But he was dealing with a situation as was I. He was my friend. Life happened and we stopped talking for a while. And then just as quickly, he was back in my life.

This time was different. It was as if this was meant to be. It began slowly with texts and all night conversations. I had my friend back. I was beyond ecstatic about that. The flirting was at 100 this time around. We were actively pursuing each other. We had the best conversations about everything. His intellect matches mine. His sense of humor and quick wit were in line with my own. I was shocked at how much we had in common. He complements me and vice versa. He makes me think and laugh and blush. My voice becomes so light and sweet when I'm speaking to him. He just does something to me.

I started to fall for him. I was cautious though. I didn't wanna fall without knowing if he'd be there to catch me. He was under my skin and deep inside my heart. There aren't enough words for me to describe how I feel about him.This man's voice makes my heart smile. His laughter makes me happy. When my cell rings & it plays India.Aire's "The Truth" or Algebra Blesett's "At This Time," I light up because I know that its him calling. I've never been loved like this. This is something totally new. I think this is what poets mean when they write about true love. I just love KJB so much. This is the way love has presented itself to me in 2010. If 2011 is anything like this year, I know that I will be loved like never before. I'm ready for that.

Remembering My Favorite Singer, Teena Marie

I was so saddened to hear that my favorite singer, Teena Marie, passed yesterday. This woman's voice is pure silk. I have been a fan since I was a little girl. My Dad introduced me to her. These are just a few of my favorite songs by her. R.I.P. LAdy T, you will be missed.

My Year In Review: Spirituality

I used to be big on church. That has not been the case lately. I've become disillusioned with organized religion. I deceided to take things into my own hands for a while. This year I've been exploring my spirituality on my own. It has been a rather interesting journey thus far.

I've taken on the task of reading the Bible. I invested in a study Bible that has been a great help. I've been able to garner a deeper understanding of the words and stories in the Bible. I would like to think that reading these words have given me some patience and peace. It's amazing how much I've retained from childhood sermons. I love when I get to a story I know in the Bible. It really touches me.

So far, Matthew and Romans are by far my two favorite books. I've been enthralled by the story aspects of these books. I will not say that I read the Bible everyday. But, I am reading it alot more than I ever have before. Some chapters are more interesting than others. This makes for fast reading for me.

I am completely committed to reading all of it. I'm no where near completing the Bible. And, for the first time when it comes to reading, I'm not on a rush to finish it either. I'm enjoying this process and can't wait to continue it into the new year.

My Year in Review: Myself

This has been a very interesting year. I can say that I'm better at the end of it than I was at the beginning of it. It was a learning year for me. 30 was a wonderful age for me.

I've become comfortable enough to voice my true feelings about certain things. Things I never have admitted to anyone before. I used to be very guarded before this year. I made myself believe that I was guarding my heart from any impending pain or hurt. In actuality, I was stopping myself from feeling anything. That part of the story is over.

I did not cut my hair once this year. That's a big deal for me. I am usually changing my hair style and color constantly. I let that go this year. My hair has grown to about shoulder-length and its still jet black. I can't say that this will be the case in 2011. It probably will be cut soon. But, the jet black will be here to stay. I love it a lot.

I've learned to let go and worry less in the latter half of 2010. Taking on the worries of others is something I've done all my life. I decided that it will not be a part of my future. I read so many great books this year. And, from them I learned so much. I think that is when I'm at my best, when I'm learning. I love to learn.

I let go of some toxic and dead friendships. Friends grow and that's what happened. I re-established some major friendships as well. I will not dwell on those who've lost me. I'm focused on strengthening the friendships that I hold dear to my heart. That's what's important to me. It's what I've learned this year. Life is for the living. And, I plan on living every moment to the fullest from here on out. This is my introspective year in review.

Interesting Information

* The “you are here” arrow on maps is called an "ideo locator."

* Four is the only number that has the same amount of letters as its actual value.

* When you french kiss someone, you both use all the muscles in your face!

* In New York it was once against the law to flirt. The penalty was $25 fine.

* Your brain is more active when you're sleeping.

* Singing keeps you healthy, exercises your heart and lungs, & releases endorphins that make you feel good!

* Monday is named after & pays tribute to the MOON. (Origin Moons-day).

* In 1907, Oklahoma became the last US state to declare Christmas a legal holiday.

* "Dysania" is the state of finding it hard to get out of bed in the morning.

* Every time you speak, you use 75 muscles within your body.

* A person takes over 23,000 breaths everyday.

* The twists ties on your bread have a meaning! The color of the tie indicates the day it was delivered.

~ via www.twitter.com/iTweetFacts

Moment of Music: My Fave Christmas Songs

A little holiday cheer! Enjoy!

Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas from me to you!

My Year in Review: Favorite Songs of the 2010

Here are a few favorite songs from this year.

Get Into It: Nikon CoolPix P7000

I am in love with this camera. I love to take pictures but am by no means a photographer. A great camera can change all of that. I will be watching this one for a while. It's just so nice. It retails for about $500 but seems to be well worth the cash. These are the specs of the camera as well. Get into it, people!

10.1 megapixels
7.1X Zoom
3" Display
HD movie 720p

In Hindsight

There are always things and situations which I sit and ponder the what ifs. I don't do it often. Because I try to live my life with no real regrets. But, in hindsight, aren't things so much clear than they were when you were going through it? I sometimes let my feelings for someone or something cloud my thinking. It's a small character flaw.

I had a conversation with someone that led me to this topic. It's funny how two people in the same situation can remember things totally different. The years may have distorted both of our memories. Both parties involved were hurt in the end. Neither of us willing to stand up for our own wrong doings. That was years ago. It was finally time to just let go of it all. The resentment, the hurt, the pain, the guilt and the disdain. I apologized for the hurt I caused. And I finally got an apology as well. I didn't realize I still needed it. It was time to close that chapter of my life. It's all in my past now. In hindsight, maybe it wasn't all bad. There were some good things that came from this situation.

I try to be as objective as I can be when it comes to my life. But I can't help but sit and wonder sometimes. I'm not perfect nor do I claim to be. I'm not without fault. I try to be the best me I can be. Try not to do wrong to anyone because I'm a give believer in karma. But I haven't always been so enlightened. I've done wrong. I've prayed about my past as I forge my way into my future. All I can do is continue to be a better me. And hopefully, in hindsight, I'll see myself clearly.

Quite Randomly...

* I'm not big on long hair. It just doesn't phase me much. That being said, I am ready to cut my shoulder length hair. I don't know how short. I just know I'm over it.

* There is still something about old school shows that make me happy. The Cosby Show, A Different World, Martin, Living Single, NY Undercover, and The Fresh Prince will never get old. I watch the reruns whenever I catch them.

* I finally copped my white HTC Evo 4g and I couldn't be happier. I love it!! Love, love, love it.

* I'm not in the holiday spirit at all. This has become a trend in the last few years of my life. I don't know if I will ever get that feeling back.

* My favorite makeup essential, Burt's Bee's Strawberry Lip Gloss, is becoming harder and harder to find. This makes me sad. It's been my stable beauty product & secret for almost 10 years. Now, I'm on the hunt for a new gloss.

* I'm 31 now. I still feel like I'm 25. Turning 31 was easier than turning 30. Approaching 30, I was apprehensive and freaked out. 31 was met with enthusiasm and hope. I guess I finally realized that what God has for me is for me. No one can take what belongs to me away from me. It's my destiny, no one else's.

* I've been really anti-social this year. I think I just needed me back. It gets to be a bit much when you're always giving yourself to everyone around with no reciprocity in sight. I rectified that to some degree this year.

* Music has def been the soundtrack of my life lately. Well, even more so than usual. Great music makes my soul happy.

* Some days, I don't wanna be bothered. Some days I just miss my father. I just need ten minutes alone...

* I've read some pretty awesome books lately. They've all put a lot of things on my mind. I love to think so this is a great thing.

* LAst night I cried tears of blissful joy. I received some words designed specifically for me. They touched my heart so deeply. This man makes me smile with my heart.

* I'm excited about a plethora of things. I don't think I've smiled this much in a very long time. It feels really good :)

Traces of My Lipstick

I've been thinking alot about kisses. I'm not sure why but this has been the theme of my not so random thoughts for a few days now. Especially first kisses. The anticipation, the initial feeling of his lips pressed against mine, the butterflies in my tummy, that undeniable spark. Kissing is just about the best thing. There is nothing better than leaving the traces of one's lipstick on the cheek and mouth of the one you love. Kisses are a woman's signature.

"When you kiss me, without uttering a word,
you speak to my soul." ~ Unknown

"For twas not into my ear you whispered
But into my heart
Twas not my lips you kissed
But my soul." ~ Judy Garland

"Kiss: The anatomical juxtaposition
of two orbicularis oris muscles in
a state of contraction." ~ Henry Gibbons

Letter to My Future Self (5 years from today)

The task - Imagine yourself five years from now. What advice would you give your current self for the year ahead? Write a note to yourself 10 years ago. What would you tell your younger self?

Dear Me,

In 2011, you will have a year like no other. You opened your heart & will receive the love & life you deserve. Be prepared to reach your idea of total contentment. By December 2015, your life will be complete. By then, your dream of writing that book will have been realized. You will be married to your best friend, your partner, the love of your life. The two of you will be the parents of a son, two girls and you will be pregnant again. Happiness is found for you in the family and life you've created. Life, in general, will be good for you. This all comes to fruition because you let down your walls and let go of fear to embrace your destiny. Enjoy the ride because its about to get to the good part. Love, live, and laugh more than you ever have. These are the times that memories are made. I love the woman you are and the woman you will be on five years.

Love always,
Kenda Calandra!

This Reader's Review: Part I "Decoded," "Chasing Harry Winston," "Platinum," & "Getting to Happy"

There is just something about books that makes me happy. It could be the fact that I love words. Or that a great journey in a book can take me far. Or it could just be my love for libraries as well. A good day will always involve a great book for me. It's my happy place. I read really fast. As if I'm in a rush to live through it. I get a rush from reading, same feeling I get when I write. There is nothing that comes close to that feeling. I just love books. They are just about my favorite thing since I am big on words. I've read some really great books this year. thought I would share them with you. Enjoy!

* "Decoded" - Jay-Z & dream hampton

An amazingly in depth look at Jay-Z's lyrics and aspects of his life. I love the way dream was able to pull such intimate stories from Jay. The book is a great read. It made me a bigger fan of Jay as an artist and as a man. dream worded the book wonderfully. This is a must read for any true Hip-Hop fan such as myself.

* "Chasing Harry Winston" - Lauren Weisberger

This was a whimsical tale of a group of women trying to get to their happily ever afters. It is witty and comical and honest. I love the author's point of view of the characters and their individual stories. I am a fan of Lauren's work. Her books always make me happy though from beginning to end.

* "Platinum" - Aliya S. King

Probably the best peek behind the Hip-Hop elite's curtains. Aliya spins a great tale of these great Hip-Hop artists and the women who love and put up with them. The author has a way of writing that makes you root for even the most awful of characters. I saw a lot of characteristics of real life big time artists within the pages of this novel. The viewpoint of this novel is that of the wives, girlfriends, fiancees, and side chicks. She is currently working on the follow up to this novel. It is entitled "Diamond Life" and its written from the viewpoint of the men in the first book. I cannot wait to catch up with these characters that I love.

* "Getting to Happy" - Terry McMillan

This is the follow up to "Waiting to Exhale." We get to see what has become of our favorite women. There is a lot of bitterness and sadness in this book. It was a great read but I felt conflicted. In a book entitled "Getting to Happy," one would think that there would be a whole lot of happiness in it. That is not the race for the most part. It was nice to find out what happen after WTE and there is supposedly a movie in the works. I will go see it.

This is just a short review of the things that I have read recently. Peep them out. Let me know what you think as well.