I came across a great post while reading today. It is titled "Why You're Single" by Amanda Crute. I shared it below because I needed to read it and I figured someone else may as well. Get into it.
You’re single because you’re single. It’s not because you texted too much or too little or waited 33 minutes to respond because he took 23. It’s not because you met up with your ex that night at 5 a.m. that no one knows about, or because you kissed another boy after a date with a loser.
You’re not single because you spit food on that date or tripped coming out the the movie theatre. You’re not single because you hurt your first boyfriend really badly when you were 15 or because you have yet, to this day, to apologize. It’s not because you were secretly jealous when your friend got a boyfriend or that a guy you dated for two months now has a really cute girlfriend and looks really happy. And you’re happy for him. But still ill that he found someone before you.
You’re not single because you slept with your ex boyfriend. You’re not single because half the world found out when you didn’t even want to remember it yourself. You’re not single because you think the guy your friend wants to hook you up with is ugly or not tall enough. It’s not because you’re not willing to put up with someone who doesn’t brush their teeth on a regular basis.
You’re not single because your standards are too high. Good for you for having standards. It’s not because you didn’t like that really, really good guy who wanted to take you on a date and you just weren’t feeling it. And it’s not because you like to wear pajama pants as soon as you get home and wash all the makeup off your face. You’re not single because you didn’t learn enough from the past or would rather chill on a Friday night with your blanket and a cold beer than shower, get ready, and go out. You’re not single because something is wrong with you.
You are single because you are single. It’s really as simple as that. You haven’t made the connection with another heart yet. You can get dolled up, dress cute, cut your hair, dye your hair, tweeze your eyebrows, put on lipstick and you may still. be. single. You can go out to a bar hoping to meet the love of your life and not find a damn one in the place attractive. And it’s going to remain that way until it’s time for you to find one. Stop hoping for it. Start living the life that you do have instead of wishing for things that you don’t have. There will come a time you’ll meet a boy and you’ll have to give up some of this single freedom you currently have. Start being more thankful. Start doing that now.
1. Think of the last person who said I love you, do you think they meant it? Yes.
2. Would you date an 18-year-old at the age you are now? Hell No.
3. When’s the last time you were aggravated and happy at the same time? Two days ago.
4. Would you ever smile at a stranger? Yep, it's good manners.
5. Is there someone mad because you’re dating/talking to the person you are? Nope.
6. Do you think your life will change dramatically this year? Here's hoping!
7. Are you a social or an antisocial person? Both. It depends on the situation.
8. Do you care if people talk badly about you? Nope bc that's their opinion. I have my own.
9. Is there a boy who you would do absolutely everything for? Yep; brothers & nephews.
10. Name something you dislike about the day you’re having. My hair is frizzy :-(
11. Does anyone regularly (other than family) tell you they love you? Yep.
12. Who was the last person you talked to before you went to bed last night? Ty, Josh & Matt
13. Have you ever wanted someone you couldn’t have? Right now :-(
14. Do you get a lot of colds? Nope but my allergies are killing me.
15. Where is the shirt you are wearing from? A street vendor in DC.
16. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years? I have no clue.
17. Does anyone hate you? Not that I know of & I don't care.
18. Did you have a dream last night? Yep & it was very odd. Tattoos and exes.
19. When was the last time you told someone you loved them? Earlier today.
20. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? Hopefully.
21. Did you have a good day yesterday? It was better than Thursday so I guess so.
22. Think back 2 months ago; were you in a relationship? Yeah.
23. Name something you have to do tomorrow? Laundry.
24. Has anybody ever given you butterflies? Yesssss!!!
25. How’s your heart? It's still beating which is amazing after all it's been through.
2. How do you express your creativity? °Writing poetry, blogging°
3. Do you believe in luck? °A little bit°
4. When have you felt most alive? °Whenever I am playing with children°
5. What has been troubling you lately? °Lots. Most of it I cannot control but it troubles me still°
6. Do you want to be perfect? °Nah, but I do want to be better°
7. Would you prefer to live? A city? The suburbs? The countryside? The mountains? °It depends: I'd prefer to leave near water or in the suburbs when/if I have kids°
8. Name a movie that you knew would be terrible just from reading the title. °District 9°
9. What holiday do you most look forward to? °Christmas°
10. Do people change? If so, how do you keep a relationship together when both of you start to change? °Yes, we're all changing and growing. You either adapt or you leave.°
11. You’ve got the TV on, but you’re not really watching. What channel is the TV on? °Lately, MSNBC°
12. Do you practice what you preach? °I try my best too°
13. You know at least one person named Michael. Tell me about him. °He's one of my oldest, dearest friends. He's my brother from another mother. He can always make me laugh.°
14. Describe the last time you were very angry at someone. °It was a few weeks ago. Has to do with a family member & things that were said behind my back°
15. If you could pick anywhere to live the rest of your life, where would it be? °Today, I'd want to be somewhere far, far away like Fiji°
16. Are you hard-headed? °Absolutely°
17. Do you drink? Smoke? Do drugs? Why, or why not? °I drink, that's all. Because I want to.°
18. Describe your perfect day. °Waking up near a beach, breakfast picnic, day spent walking the beach, playing in the water. Watching the sun set and drinking champagne°
19. Where was your favorite place to go when you were a little kid? °The library. It's still one of my favorite places°
20. Have you ever laughed uncontrollably when it was socially inappropriate? °Always°
21. What was the last song that was stuck in your head? °Tamar Braxton's "Love & War"°
22. Do you like the type of music your parents listen to? Do your parents like the type of music you listen to? °Yep x 2°
23. What is something you want to change about your current situation? °My location & life style in general°
24. Do you know what makes you happy? °I'm not so sure any more. Maybe I need a new source of happiness°
25. Predict what your life will look like a year from now. °It has to be better, greater than it is today°
26. What do you use more often: your intuition or logical reasoning? °My intuition°
27. Tell me about the last book you read. °"The Dreamgiver" was about following your heart to getting to your dreams°
28. You win a scratch-off lottery game that gives you $2000 a week (after taxes) for the rest of your life. Do you keep your job? °Yes°
29. What part of the past year sticks out in your mind? °Well, December sticks out so far. But none of the reasons are good though°
30. Name a TV series you didn’t enjoy until after it ended. °"That 70's Show"°
31. What is the best TV theme song ever? °Moesha or Living Single or Fresh PRince°
32. What’s your “quirkiest” habit? °I have to have the closed captions on the tv...whether it's muted or not°
33. Give me the story of your life in six words. °It has to get better right?°
1. What is more difficult for you, looking into someones eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someones eyes when they are telling you how they feel? Looking them in the eyes when they are telling me how they feel.
2. Think of the last time you were REALLY angry. WHY were you angry? Do you still feel the same way? I was angry because my SIL is a complete and total dumb ass. I'm not angry anymore, however, she is still in fact a dumb ass.
3. You are on a flight from Honolulu to Chicago non-stop. There is a fire in the back of the plane. You have enough time to make ONE phone call. Who do you call? What do you tell them? I call HIM & tell him how much I love him. And, for him to not grieve too much for me.
4. You are at the doctor’s office and he has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? What do you do with your remaining days? Would you be afraid? I tell the ones closest to me. I enjoy time with them all doing various silly things. I would be afraid at first. Then I would pray and give it to God. Whatever's meant to be, will be.
5. You can have one of the following two things. Which do you choose? Why? Love
and Trust. Love. Because with love comes trust. None of us could exist without love I don't think.
6. You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late even once more, you are fired. Do you take the time to save the dogs life? Why or Why not? I go to work. My job has to do with my well being. I need money to live. I'd feel extremely bad. but, self-preservation is a must.
7. Would you rather be hurt by the one you trust the most or the one you love the most? They are the same person. So, yes.
8. Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?
I would tell him that I understand his feelings and I am flattered. But, I am in love with the only man for me. Furthermore, our friendship means to much to jeopardize it with either of us being in love with the other.
9. Think of the last person who you know that died. You have the chance to give them 1 hour of life back, but you have to give up one year of yours. Do you do it? Why or Why not? I would. Because Mr. Williams was important to me. I think his family would love to have him back for at least an hour. If only to get to say goodbye.
10. Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend? Totally. Fiercely loyal.
11. Does love = sex? No, you can have one without the other. But, the real question is why would you want to?
12.Your boss tells your coworker that they have to let them go because of work shortage, and they are the newest employee. You have been there much longer. Your coworker has a family to support and no other means of income. Do you go to your boss and offer to leave the company? Why or Why not? I don't know if I'm that selfless. In this economy willingly giving up a job is not the move.
13.When was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt regardless of how difficult it was for you to say? Who was it? What did you have to tell the person? It's been a few weeks. It was one of my siblings. It's private though.
14. What would be (or what was) harder for you to tell a member of the opposite sex, you love them or that you do not love them back? I love them.
15. What do you think would be the hardest thing for you to give up? Why would it be hard to lose? Listening to music. Because I live for it.
16. Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them. Who were they to you? Multiple times today. He is my Love.
17. If there was one moment and one time in the last month what would you change and why? Drinking too much wine a few weekends ago when I was out with old friends. Because the hangover was the pits.
18.Imagine it is a dark night, you are alone, it is raining outside, you hear someone walking around outside your window. WHO do you wish was there with you?
My brother because he owns a gun.
19. Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying? Why or Why not?
I don't know how to do give CPR o_O
20.You are holding onto your grandmother’s hand and the hand of a newborn that you do not know as they hang over the edge of a cliff. You have to let one go to save the other. Who do you let fall to their death? What was your rationale for making the decision? My grandmother would want me to chose the newborn so that he/she deserves to have a life. I would follow her wishes.
21. Are you old fashioned? In many ways, I am. I didn't realize this until I hit 30 though.
22. When was the last time you were nice to someone and did NOT expect anything in return for it? Today. Being nice never hurt anyone.
23.Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a broken heart, or never loved at all? Why? I do not like this question. But, true love with the broken heart.
24.If you could do anything or wish anything, what would it be? I would wish that I could have one last conversation with either my Dad or my Uncle Larry.
A. If you could get away with one murder in your lifetime without any legal, social, or emotional repercussions, would you kill someone? No, I'm not that heartless. I couldn't take a life just because.
B. What is your first thought when you receive a message on Tumblr, are you excited for the idea of someone from potentially the other side of the world wanting to talk to you or fearful that someone will criticize you? Excited...because I know that 95% of the time, it's my Love.
C. Have you ever looked down on someone because you thought your religious views were superior? No. That would've be counterproductive to what my God wants.
D. Would you rather know everything the universe has to offer but in exchange lose all emotions or remain the way you are now? Remain the way I am now. I'm one with my emotions. I need them.
E. If you could live and be healthy without sleeping or eating/drinking, which would you cut out of your life? Sleeping. It's overrated.
F. If you could take on the exact body and form of anyone else on Earth, who would it be? There is this dancer but I can't remember her name. Her shape is ridic though.
G. Would you rather burn or freeze to death? Freeze.
H. If it meant it would solve all world hunger, war, disease and bigotry, would you spend the rest of eternity in Hell? Nope. I'm not that selfless yet. I know it would be for the greater good. But, we're talking about my life here.
I. Was the first crush in your life something you had or something someone had on you? He had one me. Kindergarten. His name was Eric & I did not return the affection. He teased me recent less. Called me Kenda Calendar ugh.
J. Could you live without having sex ever (again) in exchange for eternal youth? Hell. No. Why would I?
K. Have you ever watched a full length pornographic movie? Yep. Multiple ones.
L. The Beatles or The Rolling Stones? The Beatles.
M. If you could have the ability to manipulate matter or energy, which would you choose? Matter.
N. What was the worst nightmare you ever had? It was awful. It involved a violent, bloody murder scene.
O. Would you rather spend one year with your one true love just to never see them again or the rest of your life with second best? One year with my true love. Settling for second best is never an option.
P. All the sequels/remakes/adaptations/rip-offs in movies nowadays, good or bad? More bad than good. I'm over it. Would rather originality.
Q. Would you rather be dirt poor and emotionally fulfilled in life or be rich beyond imagination and emotionally dissatisfied for life? Poor & fulfilled. I'd at least be happy.
R. Do you have any (secret) feelings of bigotry to any group of people? I don't think bigger try is the right word.
S. Would you rather be the only person in the world that can read minds or have everyone else in the world be able to read minds except for your own? Only girl in the world with that ability.
T. If everyone in the world would automatically only know one language, which language would you choose? French because it's such a beautiful language.
U. If you were old enough and not in a situation where it would be inappropriate, would you sleep with one of your (past) school teachers/professors? Yes. Mr. Hernandez.
V. A world without religion, good, bad, neutral? Bad. Terrible. Awful.
W. The men's rights movement, legitimate cause or laughable, and why? Laughable and ridiculous. The one group of people who have never been disenfranchised or under represented has been men, especially White men. There is no real movement.
X. You can eliminate one of your five senses to substantially strengthen the others, which one and would you do it? I wouldn't do it. But if I had to chose, I'm going with the sense of smell.
Y. Do looks mean anything to you? Don't lie, could you fall in love with someone you thought was ugly? Looks mean something to everyone. Those who say otherwise are lying through their teeth. I couldn't fall in love with someone I wasn't attracted to.
Z. Can you understand the mindset and logic used by the opposite spiritual opinion? An atheist understanding the belief in a higher power and vice versa. I cannot. I'm perplexed by it. If you do not believe in God, what is this higher being you speak of? That's crazy to me.
1: When you have a container of Neapolitan ice cream, what flavor do you leave for last? Chocolate, always.
2: Would you rather be caught in a thunderstorm without an umbrella or a snowstorm without boots? Snowstorm. Hate to be caught in the rain unprepared.
3: Let's say you have access to a time machine, but it can only go either backward or forward. One or the other. Which do you choose and where do you go? Backwards...if only to have one last conversation with my Dad.
4: If you could choose to have any superpower ever, what would you pick? I would want to read minds. That would be dope.
5: Tomorrow morning, you wake up in the body of a celebrity, like in a '90s body-swap movie. Who is it? How do they react to your life? What do you do when you're "them"? Would you choose to switch back? Beyonce'. My reaction would be utter ridiculousness. I would want to perform in from of millions. I would switch back after a week or so.
6: Any allergies? Penicillin and shrimps unfortunately.
7: What would you be more embarrassed to buy: sex toys or adult diapers? Adult diapers. Ewww...
8: Did you get enough sleep last night?Surprisingly yes, I did.
9: You're the sole witness to a Mafia murder. Witness protection has to set you up with a whole new life in a totally new country. You have to leave everything behind, but you can pick where you move to. Where do you go? Ok, being in Witsec would suck big, hairy monkey balls for many reasons. But, if I was forced to choose either New York (if I had to stay stateside) or Mykonos, Greece (if I could leave the US).
10: If you could star in a biopic about any famous person ever, who would it be?Oprah. Her life story will play well on the big screen.
11: What's the biggest animal you've ever killed? Bugs count. A spider I guess.
12: Would you rather have millions of dollars but always feel nauseous when you go outside, or be dirt poor forever but never get sick again in your life? I would take the money. Because I could build an awesome estate that I'd never have to leave.
13: A wizard offers you immortality in exchange for your two front teeth. Do you take it? Nope. We are not meant to be immortal.
14: Could you win the Hunger Games? I would fight tooth and nail to win. When surviving is your only choice, nothing else matters.
15: What was your favorite Halloween costume as a kid? How about as a teen/adult?As a kid, I was Rainbow Brite. As a teen, I was Chilli of TLC.
16: Do you bite your nails? Yes. Horrible habit to break too.
17: What was the first movie you remember seeing in the theater? "Annie."
18: Do you prefer music with male or female vocalists? I do not have a preference actually. I prefer that they be vocally talented though.
19: You and the love of your life are having a baby, and you get to choose the name! There's only one catch: your partner INSISTS that it be the name of a place, real or fictional. What do you name your baby? Girl: Kashi; Boy: Kingston.
20: If you could reboot or remake any movie, what would it be and who would you cast? I'm not necessarily a fan of remakes. But, I guess I would pick "School Daze." I would cast Tristan Wilds & Kyla Pratt as leads, Idris Elba as the dean of the school.
21: If you could automatically know how to speak any language or play any instrument, which would you choose? Language Italian; Instrument, the piano.
22: For you, would getting amnesia be a good thing? Negative. That would be so horrible.
23: If you curse loudly and then realize that there are children nearby, what is your reaction? I cringe & apologize.
24: Of what animal are you most afraid? Snakes.
25: Pizza or oral sex? Oral sex followed by pizza.Ha!
26: Without looking them up, can you explain the rules of football? How about Quidditch? What do you think that says about you? I'm sure I can since I am a football fan & an avid Harry Potter fan as well. I think it shows how awesome a woman like me is & that I'm highly versed in a variety of topics.
27: You're in the car, switching channels on the radio when you hear a song that makes you go "OH SHIT, THAT'S MY JAM!" What song is it? Jay-Z "I Just Wanna Love You"
28: Have you ever paid to see a Step Up movie? If not, how much would someone have to pay YOU to see a Step Up movie? Nope. Past the first one, someone would have to pay me at least $50 to watch it.
29: If you were being executed tonight, what would you choose for your last meal? Steak, grilled shrimp, loaded potatoes, Strawberry martini, and for dessert vanilla bean cheesecake with chocolate sauce & fresh strawberries.
30: Have you ever bought an item of clothing because it reminded you of something a fictional character would wear? Yes.
31: If you were invisible for a day, what would you do? Spy on people I know & freak them out by moving things.
32: Have you ever been punched in the face? Nope.
33: How do you take your ramen noodles? I don't because I don't eat that.
34: Do you ever rehearse or plan conversations before you actually have them? When I'm emotional about an issue, I do.
35: How much black do you wear on a regular basis (not counting funerals)? A moderate amount.
36: Do you have any tattoos? Do you want any? Yep & I want more.
37: If someone offered you a free pet snake, would you take it? It's not dangerous or really big or anything. They're just moving to a place that doesn't allow pets. Hell. No.
38: Do you know how to pronounce the word "pinochle"? Sure do.
39: Can you think of anything more boring than birdwatching? Golf and baseball.
40: Are you better with numbers or words? Words. Definitely.
41: At the movies, do you stay for the credits? In general, no. But if I need to know the name of an actor or song, I do.
42: Is morality universal or relative? I believe it is more relative because the whole world does not value the same morals.
43: Let's say you're getting married to someone you absolutely adore. The only catch is that you met them through a Craigslist hookup ad that was supposed to be just for one night of casual sex. Would you tell your friends how you and your fiance met? Not at all. Because our story is ours. I don't have to share that with anyone. All they need to know is that I'm in love & getting married.
44: What's the worst name you've ever been called? A bitch.
45: Would you eat human flesh if it had been harvested and prepared humanely? (Say, from someone brain-dead who had marked him or herself down as an organ donor - same difference, right?) Negative.
46: At what age did you stop believing in Santa? Alternately, if you never believed in Santa, did you ever ruin Santa for anyone else? I do not remember my exact age. But, I know I was young and I caught my Mom wrapping gifts. So, the jig was up. I have never ruined it for anyone.
47: Do you get along better with old people or little kids? Both. But since I have to choose, I'll say little kids.
48: If you had to choose, would you rather become a nun/monk or a drug dealer? A nun. Which would suck majorly. For reasons.
49: What's your best bodily feature, objectively speaking? Since both are equally amazing, I'll say it's a tie between my brain and my breasts.
50: Who is your favorite late night talk show host? I don't have one.
1: Apart from blogging, what do you like to do in your spare time? Reading and talking/laughing with my Love & hanging with my family.
2: Name a favorite of each: food, drink, color. Pasta, Strawberry Martini, Cerulean.
3: If you married rich and your spouse gave you $100,000 a week, what would you spend it on? Property...and shoes :)
4: Name a favorite of each: book, movie, tv show. "The Five People You Meet In Heaven," "Brown Sugar," The Wire.
5: If you were given the opportunity to spend 48 hours with absolutely anyone (living or dead), who would you spend it with and what would you do? My Dad & we would just talk and laugh.
6: Name a LEAST favorite of each: food, drink, color. Liver, Jack & Coke, Green.
7: What do you spend most of your money on? My hobbies which include music, reading & shoes.
8: What kind of underwear do you prefer wearing? Boyshorts.
9: Name a LEAST favorite of each: book, movie, tv show. The 50 Shades trilogy, Darkness, House.
10: If you were sat on a plane beside your favorite celebrity, what would you do? After talking myself into a clam state, I would strike up a conversation about their art. Tell him how much I appreciate his work.
11: What is the strangest thing you have in your room? (You are not allowed to explain why you own it.) A Build-A-Bear.
12: What is a weird habit you have, or people have told you have. (Weird, not bad. No nail biting or any of that nonsense.) I prefer to be in the dark.
13: What would you consider to be the biggest insult to yourself? That I'm not intelligent.
14: What are five things you absolutely have to have in your dream house? Open floor plan, spacious master suite, a closet to die for, chef's kitchen, & big backyard.
15: If you could be reincarnated as any animal, which would you chose and why? A hummingbird. Because they are little and cute and can go anywhere whenever they want.
16: Which band (current or past) would you want to go on tour* with? (*Travel with, not preform with.) New Edition.
17: Name a favorite of each: band, album, song. New Edition, "Reasonable Doubt," "Happy Feelings"
18: Why is your favorite band your favorite? I fell for them as a kid. They were adorable little brown boys who could sing. I was sold.
19: How many concerts have you attended? Which was your favorite? Least favorite? If none, who do you want to see live the most? Whew, hard question. Let's say 100 give or take a few. My favorite is a tie between the Watch the Throne tour and Essence the year Lauryn Hill performed. Least fave: was Essence the year MJB was so high and so drunk and she was awful.
20: What is one of your favorite song lyrics? (Who is it by?)"Cause your eyes are the windows to heaven. Your smile could heal a million souls. Your love completes my existence. You're the other half that makes me whole. You're the only other half that makes me whole." - Amel Larrieux "Make Me Whole"
21: Who do you love? My family, my Love, my friends.
22: What band merch do you own? If any, whose is it and when did you get it? If none, whose do you wish you owned? Outside of music, I am not into band merchandise.
23: How big is your heart? The capacity of it is gargantuan.
24: How did you learn of the band that is currently your favorite?Through my Dad.
I love questionnaires and quizzes. I absolutely love when they are particularly unusual. Those are the most interesting to me. When I saw this one, I had to do it and share. I really enjoyed it. Anyway, hope you guys enjoy reading my five things!
1. 5 basic facts about you - I love my family, I live for music, I like fish, I read exceptionally fast & I need more sleep.
2. 5 not-so-basic facts about you - I don't often sleep very well, I need to express myself more, I think too much which makes it hard to sleep at night, my imagination is over active & I still hate the Thriller video.
3. 5 ways you break the ice - Introduce myself, tell a joke, talk about music, ask about the other person, & smile.
4. 5 signs that you’re into someone - I laugh a lot, flirt with him, smile when I think of him, light up when he calls, & cannot wait to hear his voice.
5. 5 signs that you’re NOT into someone - Arms folded, don't flirt, fake smiles, short conversations & I just don't pay attention.
6. 5 things you do when you’re bored - Read, sleep, listen to music, surf the web, watch SATC or The Wire.
7. 5 things that make you hyper - Great conversations, wonderful music, amazing poetry, laughing kids, & HIM.
8. 5 things you’re known for - My wit, my intelligence, being a great listener, giving good advice & (as per my nephews/nieces) great hugs!
9. 5 things you want to do - Travel, write more, learn another language, get married & become a Mom.
10. 5 things you’ll never do - Bungee jump, drink tequila again, get an abortion, vote Republican, & eat sushi.
11. 5 good things about you - (As per my cousin) I'm extremely smart, a great listener, a wonderful writer, I have a pretty smile and the best pair of chi-chi'cs in America (lol).
12. 5 bad things about you - I worry a lot, I hate to cry especially in front of people, I am very hard on myself, I have high expectations of people, & I can be bossy.
13. 5 ways to make you cry - Talk about my Dad, attack me personally, those stupid Sarah Maclahan ASPCA commercials, sappy movies & beautiful words.
14. 5 ways to win your heart - Be funny, be intelligent, love your family, love music & be socially aware!
15. 5 things you need to say - "Baby, I love you," "Get your tubes tied, Idiot," "I don't care," "I can't wait to kiss you," & "I wish you would get some help.
I am a talker. I love words and conversations. But sometimes it's hard to find the words and formulate the sentences. It's not because I don't know what I want to say or ask. It has more to do with the fact that I know that once it's said it can't be unsaid. Once I speak, I give power to my words. It's taken me a long time to truly grasp that concept. I'm more careful with my words.
I've also learned that the "Hardest thing to say is usually worth saying." (via @KarenCivil) It's very true. We've all had those difficult conversations filled with questions who's answers could crush us. When your heart's involved, the words carry much weight. I am also a worrywart. I think and rethink about what I want to say and how I want to say it before I ever do. It's just very important to me.
I also believe that all these difficult conversations can lead to better, more fulfilled lives. People have to get through them to get through life. It's never easy during the process. But the end result is always worth it. Because, at least, now you know. Now, you can decide what comes next. For some that means to stay and fight. For others, it means to cut your loses and run. Either way, a decision can be made. Difficult situations are a part of life. How you respond to them determines who you are. For that reason alone, I take them on. I need to grow. This is the only way, by going through.
It's a Tag game. I saw this on another blog. It looked very interesting. So I wanted to try it here.
So, here are the rules:
You must post the rules.
Post eleven fun facts about yourself on the blog post.
Answer the questions the tagger set for you in their post, and then create eleven new questions to ask the people you've been tagged.
Comment below to let me know of you're going to participate in this Tag game! Ok here goes:
*11 Facts About Me*
1. I'm so bossy. I'm the oldest so it comes with the territory.
2. I love chocolate. Like for real.
3. I hate my nose. I blame my Dad, it's his nose. Lol.
4. Until I was about 29, the thought of childbirth freaked me out completely.
5. I have extra bones in my foot. It's hereditary.
6. I am lightweight obsessed with the letter K, the color purple and the number 3.
7. I love grapes but hate grape flavored food.
8. I want to go to San Fran just to ride the streetcars up & down the hills.
9. I have a strange sense of humor but it works.
10. I love to use the close captions on the tv. I'd rather read than watch tv.
11. I find myself somewhat consumed by one person and that makes me a little anti-social. But I'm more than ok with that.
*Ariel's Questions*
1. What CD is currently in your CD Player? "Watch The Throne"
2. When was the last time you cried and why? This past weekend. And, sometimes you just need to release some tears.
3. What is your favorite book? "The Enormous Egg"
4. Where is your favorite place to shop online? Amazon.
5. What is your astrological sign? Sagittarius.
6. What is your dream job? Writer.
7. If you could live anywhere, where would it be? San Diego.
8. Name five of your favorite make up products (brand, color, etc). I don't wear a lot of makeup, but I dig shadows by Mac, mascara by CoverGirl, lip glosses by Avon, & liners by Sephora.
9. What is your favorite running shoe? Nike
10. What is your current workout regimen? I need to find some motivation & join a gym. Seriously.
11. What is your favorite reality TV show? I love Bethenny.
*Michelle's Questions*
1. Where did you grow up? New Orleans, La.
2. What was your favorite subject in school? English, Spanish & Yearbook.
3. Do you have an emergency savings fund? Yep.
4. What’s your favorite way to spend free time? Spending it with HIM.
5. MTV or BET? IF I have to choose, BET just for The Game.
6. Do you live in a house or an apartment? Apartment (for now).
7. What’s your favorite snack? Chocolate Covered Pretzels.
8. Potatoes or rice? Potatoes
9. What’s your favorite type of shoe? Flats & platforms.
10. Whose your favorite actress or female actor? Julia Roberts & Sanaa Lathan.
11. Favorite male actor? Nicholas Cage & John Travolta.
*Kiki J's Questions*
1. What is the name of your favorite restaurant? *
2. First celebrity crush?
3. Worst subject in high school? Math
4. You have one hour before an event and you have everything you need but shoes, what is your last minute go-to shoe store? Shoe-nami.
5. Hoops, studs or big bold earrings? Hoops.
6. Spring or Fall? Fall.
7. What is the first thing you notice about the opposite sex? Eyes/arms.
8. You have the weekend all to yourself, what are your plans? Spa pedicure, read, write, nap.
9. You've won an all expense paid vacation for one, where would you go? Santorini, Greece.
10. If you had the choice to choose to go back to school for free or travel the world for free, which would you take? Travel the world.
11. Last but not least, what is your dream job? Writing novels while being a stay at home mom.
And, here are my questions. Enjoy.
1. Something you do when you're alone.
2. Your favorite article of clothing.
3. Where do you see yourself 5 years from now?
4. What was your favorite movie as a kid?
5. Are you living the life you envisioned for yourself as a child?
6. Is there something you want to say to someone but are afraid of the outcome? If yes, tell me.
7. Worst movie you've seen this year?
8. Who do you think will win the GOP nomination, Santorum, Romney, Gingrich, or Paul?
9. Can you survive a day without your cell? If so, is it torturous?
10. Tell me about your best date.
11. What do you love about blogging?
66. If you could meet anyone on this earth, alive or dead, who would it be? *
Malcolm X"
67. What do you think about most? *My future.*
68. What does your latest received text message from say? *"Hurry up and go home baby.*
69. Ever had a poem or song written about you? *Yep.*
70. Do you prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it? *In front of ;-) *
71. What does your URL mean? *I stay in my head a lot. Loads of random thoughts so, in between them, I blog.*
72. Do you have a collection of anything? *Cd's and keychains.*
73. Are you happy with the person you've become? *Yes but there's so much more for me to become.*
74. Choose: East Coast or West Coast? *That's hard. I'm torn. West Coast to the weather, East Coast for the scenery.*
75. Define: Art. *It is the beautiful and the ugliness that makes us feel something.*
76. Long distance relationships? *Only to this man I love :-) *
77. Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you? *My Kindle case is hot pink.*
78. If you could choose any era to live in what would it be and why? *The 40's seem interesting.*
79. Do you believe in heaven/hell? *Sure do.*
80. What's a song that always makes you happy when you hear it? *Anything by New Edition.*
81. In your opinion, what makes a great relationship? *Communication is key. Everything else will flow from there.*
82. What would you want to be written on your tombstone? *The woman who loved hard, laughed harder and wrote the things we all were thinking. Beloved Wife, Mother, Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Friend.*
83. What is your favorite word? *Euphonious.*
84. Give me the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word: heart. *Love.*
85. What is a saying you say a lot? *You know?*
86. Basic question: what's your favorite color/colors? *Cerulean and Lilac*
87. One night you wake up because you heard a noise. You turn on the light to find that you are surrounded by MUMMIES. The mummies aren't really doing anything, they're just standing around your bed. What do you do? *I scream, then run like hell.*
88. You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what's even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What is that power? *Read minds.*
89. You can re-live any point of time in your life. The time-span can only be a half-hour, though. What half-hour of your past would you like to experience again? *Oooh. August 14, 2003.*
90. You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be? *I would def erase the entire summer of 2005.*
91. You have the opportunity to meet the music-celebrity of your choice. Who would it be? *Easy choice, Jay-Z.*
92. You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere. You have to depart right now. Where are you gonna go? *Fiji with HIM.*
93. Do you have any relatives in jail? *None I can think of at the moment.*
94. Have you ever thrown up in the car? *Ugh yes.*
95. Ever been on a plane? Longest plane ride ever? *Yes and about 4 hours.*
96. If the whole world were listening to you right now, what would you say? *Read more books, watch less reality tv, live life more outside than inside and love each other better.*
97. What is/are your favorite quote/s? *Too many to name.*
98. You are at the doctor’s office and she has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. a) Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? b) What do you do with your remaining days? c) Would you be afraid?
*a) Yes I would. b) I spent it with my loved ones. c) I'd be a little afraid but I would pray and give it to God.*
99. Best feeling ever? *Being told "I Love You."*
100. Favorite cartoon as an adult? *Daría hands down.*
46. Name something you have to do tomorrow? *Laundry.*
47. Last person you cried in front of? *My Mom.*
48. Is there someone you will never forget? *Yes.*
49. Do you think the person you have feelings for is protective of you? *I know he is.*
50. If the person you wish to be with were with you, what would you be doing right now? *Def not this quiz! Laying in his arms, kissing him.*
51. Are you over your past? *Thankfully yes.*
52. If your first true love knocked on your door with apology and presents, would you accept? *Apology: yes. Gifts: no.*
53. Have you ever liked someone who your friends hated? *Lol yes.*
54. Don’t tell me lies, is the last person you texted attractive? *Of course.*
55. Who do you have texts from? *My Love, brother, cousin, sisters, Mom, Aunt, Best Friends.*
56. If the person you like says they like someone else, what would you say? *His loss cause she could never be me.*
57. Have you ever kissed someone older than you? *Sure.*
58. Who’s in your profile picture with you? *Just Moi.*
59. Ever kissed under fireworks? *Yes.*
60. Were you happy with the person you liked in March? *Yep.*
61. Are you more like your mom or your dad? *I think more like my Dad.*
62. What is your favorite season? *Autumn.*
63. Do you ever want to get married? *Yes.*
64. Are you an introvert or an extrovert? *An interesting mix of both.*
65. Do you believe in aliens or life on other planets? *Life on other planets is a def.*
26. Who was the last person you talked to before you went to bed last night? *My Man!*
27. Do you get a lot of colds? *Sinus*
28. Where is the shirt you are wearing from? *I think Target.*
29. Does anyone hate you? *I hope not.*
30. Do you have any empty alcohol bottles hidden somewhere in your room? *Nope.*
31. Do you like watching scary movies? *Negative.*
32. Do you want your tongue pierced? *Nope...but I do want other body parts pierced.*
33. If you had to delete one year of your life completely, which would it be? *1998 was rough.*
34. Did you have a dream last night? *Yes, a very weird one.*
35. When was the last time you told someone you loved them? *This morning.*
36. Do you think you’ll be married in 5 years? *Yes.*
37. Do you think someone has feelings for you? *The only person who matters...yes, my Love.*
38. Do you think someone is thinking about you right now? *He better be! Ha!*
39. Did you wake up cranky? *I most definitely did not.*
40. Do you replay things that have happened in your head? *All the time...especially the really good things.*
41. Are you good at hiding your feelings? *When I want/need to.*
42. How’s your heart? *It's beautiful and secure and protected and loving and beating strongly.*
43. Is there something that happened in your past that you hate talking about? *Ugh, yes.*
44. Are your toenails painted pink? *Yes. Hot pink...well magenta to be exact.*
45. How do you look right now? *Cute.*
I like to know things. I love to learn and be informed. I'm a Sagittarius so by nature I'm inquisitive. I always have questions running rampant in my mind. Most I tend to answer on my own. We're human so questioning everything is in our DNA. I am always questioning something. Usually in my head. I also tend to write down questions about things I do not understand. I will investigate any and every thing. I love to know things.
Sometimes, there are questions we are afraid to ask. Because the answer scares the hell out of us. But, if a question is heavy on your mind and in your heart, it's impossible to not ask it. Or, maybe it's just me. The outcome could be the exact answer I was looking for which would be awesome. Or it could be something that would hurt me. I'd rather know either way. When I get the answer, I'll know how to proceed.
And, sometimes, I get an even better answer than the one I was hoping for. It's so very easy to expect the worst in people. Sometimes, people can shock you, in a good way. I absolutely love when that happens. It's the best thing ever. I question everyone and everything. It's the only way I know how to function. Now, I'm gonna go back to think about some more questions.
Aspirations: a strong desire to achieve something high or great; an object of such desire
I aspire to be:
* a great writer
* a great poet
* a more creative being
* a wife
* a mother
* an informed person
* a better woman than I was yesterday
* a loving, kind woman of God.
These are all on my simple list of things to achieve.
