How We Attract Love

What makes us love someone? In a lifetime, we meet many people. We like them, are attracted to them, fall in lust with them and love them. But, what makes us fall for the one? They say opposites attract but I don't agree. I think we attract the best part of ourselves. It's the similarities that draw me in. There are some attractions that are impossible to fight. It's a losing war from the beginning, so to speak. Magnets cannot help but be attracted to each other. It's the same thing with soul mates.

Perfect example: boy and girl meet and are instantly attracted to each other. Their personalities match and mesh. Physically they like what they see. Intellectually, they find each other mental stimulating and deep. The two are just right for each other. But, both are in situations. They flirt but keep things at a respectable distance. Time passes, the two somehow keep in contact. Their situations fall apart and they are led right back to each other. It can only be described as fate. There is no other word for it. That fate led them to love. It's like two magnets being pulled towards each other. The attraction is too strong. One cannot fight that. It was kismet.

We've all loved and lost. But, when you find the one who is your soul mate, you just know. There is no denying that spark that you feel when you meet him/her. It's just a different feeling. It consumes your whole being. When you meet someone who you connect with instantly, you cannot shake them or that connection. Two people whose hearts have somehow attached them to each other are meant to be together. No time, space, distance, or situation can alter that. They will find their way back to each other. It's like going home. It's like walking into yourself. You just know that it is. Your heart has found its mate.

I don't know why we fall in love with the people we do. But, I know when it's real. When it feels unlike anything else you've ever felt, then you'll know as well. When the connection is that deep, there is no way around it. It's basically a force of nature. Two magnets that pulled the other back to the center. It's undeniable. What attracts us keeps us. It's just simply called love. What's your take on the subject? What made you love the one you're with? Let's talk about it.

Made To Be Together

While listening to Trey Songz' "Made To Be Together," I started thinking about the title. It also reminded me of the art piece to the right, which is entitled "Made For Each Other" by WAK. I love both the song and the art piece. The idea of soul mates is where I ended up while thinking of these two.

What does that mean? Does it fall into the whole idea of soul mates? The definition of a soul mate is "a person with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality, and/or compatibility." That is one deep connection. I remember reading in Greek mythology that Aristophanes in Plato's Symposium, said that humans originally consisted of four arms, four legs, and a single head made of two faces. But, Zeus feared their power and split them all in half. Thus, condemning them to spend their lives searching for the other half to complete them: their soul mate. I really like that explanation of soul mates.

My personal opinion is that your soul mate is the person who fits the best with you and what you're about. The person who gets and accepts you for you. I do not believe that anyone is perfect. Nor should the search for a soul mate take one on a journey for perfection. That will just end up with you being alone. And, if you're really, really lucky, you'll find yours and be able to spend the rest of your life happily with this person. That's obviously the romantic in me speaking...loudly!! :)