Rant: Attention Seeking Folks

I have never needed to be the center of attention. I've never done anything just to get people to look at me or pay attention to me. That's never been my thing. I'm not overly dramatic or am I a drama queen. So being the true definition of an attention where has never fit me. For that reason alone, I cannot truly understand people who are that way.

To me, attention seekers are the people with theoretical self esteem. They are the ones who are constantly looking for validation via others. It's a sad personality trait. It's one I'm thankful that I never possessed. And, what's even crazier is that the validation they're seeking will never be enough, it will never fill that empty space inside of them. One cannot look to others for their self esteem. Seeking in others what one lacks in their own person is a trap. It will always be this endless cycle.

Attention seekers have to be the life of the party. It's just who they are. I try to ignore people like that. I can't get into them. They are too much work all of the time. I am always conscious of allowing them into my life. Their energy always conflicts with mine. I don't seek attention from anyone. Because the reality is whatever is meant for me will be mine. I don't have to knock anothers shine to get mine. Besides, I garner enough genuine attention from the right folks on my own. And, there is nothing better than that!

Over The Passive Aggressives

I hate to be ignored. Like seriously. It bothers by entire being. I find the act very passive aggressive in nature. I'm not that type of person. I either confront my issues with the person or deal with my feelings alone. Because honestly, sometimes my issues with people are entirely of my own doing. Only then will I ignore them. This is because the issue has been stated. And they have apparently decided not to correct it.

Ignoring me is quite possibly the easiest way to piss me off. Especially if I did not do anything to you consciously. If I do not know what it is I did, I cannot ever fix this problem. So what exactly does ignoring me accomplish?? I feel all it does is create unnecessary tension and stress. I don't cut people off without warrant. But game playing is a quick ticket out of my good graces. The bottom line is this:if anyone has a problem with me, address me. We could clear the air quickly. Or if it's that serious we can encourage the friendship as well. Anything is better than being passive aggressive. That's the absolute worst thing. So do not ignore me. Unless getting on my bad side is what you're aiming for. It's not a big thing to many but it is to me. It just reeks of a personality traits that is so opposite to me.

The passive aggressives are a unique, weird group. They aren't my cup of tea. I truly can't deal with it. I don't think it's a quality that I do not see in myself. I just wish the people in my life who do fall into this category would find another way to deal. It would cut down on confusion in all of our lives. I am trying my best to cut these people out of my life. Or at least, limit my exposure to them. I don't need them in my life. I am working on being a better person. Keeping my cool is a great part of that. Passive aggressives are draining to my spirit. Do any of you have these kind of people in their lives? How do you deal with them? Are you yourself a passive aggressive? Do you even know it?

Valentine's Hangover

It's the day after Valentine's. The love hangover has now begun. The national holiday for lovers and love is officially over. Today in stores, you can find that candy, those roses and cards all on sale for 50% off. The world that was high off love yesterday is returning to normal. What I witnessed yesterday was fairly weird to me. I noticed the oddest trend about my "friends" on Facebook. Facebook, it seems, is full of people who hate Valentine's day. I mean really despise the notion and holiday. I never knew how bitter a day could make a person. I've never given that much weight to the day, regardless of if I was in or out of a relationship. In the aftermath of this epiphany, these same people seem to have a Valentine's Day hangover.

I have had my fair share of awful and disappointing Valentine's Days. The worst being back in 2002. It was like the season of the terrible breakups. I had just gotten some heartbreaking news. My girls wouldn't let me wallow though. My friends and I (minus one) had all just come out of situations. And, none of us were feeling the love this particular V day. So, we decided to boycott it. Valentine's Day 2002 was, in the words of Jay-Z, an "all black everything" sort of affair. We went out and had drinks and enjoyed each other's company. It was a good day because of my friends. At the end of the day, I survived my anti-Valentine's Day.


This picture describes the way I think the anti-Valentine's people on Facebook felt yesterday.


What I do not get is the bitterness. The bitterness that I saw on Facebook that was spewed at people in love or celebrating Vday. It was very disheartening and actually kind of sad. There were also numerous posts attempting to put people on blast about their "love." I read "love should be shown every day of the year" more than once. While I wholeheartedly agree with the statement, the tone and vein it was stated was lost on me. Who are we to judge any one's relationship? That isn't my place or yours. I believe people do indulge heavily in Valentine's day when they are in love. It's their right.

Too many bitter Betty's and Bob's on Facebook for me. I found it rather comical though. I have never been big on boasting about anything about me. Who I am is not defined by what I have or received. Those who need to know anything about me knows it already. Everyone has their own definition of love. We express it and feel it in different ways. Whether you indulge in the utter commercialization of the day or not is definitely a personal choice. But, no one has the right to rain all over someone else's Valentine's Day parade. Love is love. If there is no one in your life to love you on Valentine's Day, love yourself. Trust me, this too shall pass.

Day 4: Seven People Who Inspire You?

07) Shawn Carter
06) Nikki Giovanni
05) Barack Obama
04) Myself :)
03) My nieces & nephews
02) My Aunt Gina
01) My Mom

Day 2: Nine People/Places/Things You Can’t Live Without

09) My great sense of humor :)
08) Right now, the guy who's always on the other end of the line & text messages :))
07) Spa pedicures.
06) My personality & individual beliefs & morals.
05) My love of the arts (music, poetry, literature, paintings).
04) My ability to express myself through words.
03) My friends.
02) My family.
01) Most importantly, my relationship & faith in God.