Words Mean Things

 

You know what really grinds my gears?!? People who use words without knowing their real definitions and/or those who use words in the wrong manner. You know the type, loud and wrong. Or, even worse, the ones that use it so completely wrong with the proudest look on their faces. I am a woman who loves words. They are just about my favorite thing. As a kid, I used to read the dictionary for fun. I like learning the etymology of a word, the synonyms and antonyms of it. I just like to know all I can about a word. I do not use them to impress people. I use them to impress myself if I'm being perfectly honest. No one is more appreciative of my intelligence than I am. So, this is why I cannot stand for a person to use words wrong in front of me. I have learned how to NOT be the grammar police. Even though it's all I want to do. That reeks of a know-it-all and I don't want to be that woman. People need to book up more books and dictionaries and learn some things. Mainly that words do indeed mean things. They absolutely do. Words are precious and should be treated as such. Respect the words that come out of your mouth. Please. Ok, rant over. :)



By Submission Too

A few days ago, I discussed the word submit and the Bible. Today I want to delve a little into the sexual nature of it. "Submission" is big business in sex. There is a whole lifestyle dedicated to it. I do not know a lot about it because it's not my life. The act of submitting to someone does entice me. IT speaks to a place inside of me that I can readily identify now. I did not know what it was before I was like 28/29. I had no name for it because it was not fed. Now, I have identified it now. I have accepted it. Now, I wan t to discuss it.

When you are a strong woman day in and day out, sometimes all you want is someone else to handle things once in a while. I am spoiled and bossy and have to be in control. This comes with being the oldest child. It's the role I am most familiar with. When it comes to certain aspects in life, I just want to relinquish control. I don't want to make all the decisions. I don't want to be the one who wears the pants. This has a lot to do with my uber traditional morals. I have no shame in writing this. It's a part of who I am. It's kind of a no-brainer that I could be submissive. I'm not into the whole BDSM lifestyle. I have no real taste for it. But, I have no issue with the right man taking total control in the bedroom.

I'm not going to go into full detail of what works for me. But, I just know that it makes perfect sense for me to be this way. My personality is big and bossy. That does not translate into all arenas in my life. I am more than ok with that. Some days, I just want to be the quiet one. I just want to be held in his arms as we block the rest of the wayward world the hell out. That is my idea of euphoria. No, I don't need some one to take care of me. But, I need someone who is able to do this for me. I can't admit this. Can you?

By Submission

The word "Submit" brings two things to my mind. One is from the Word, the other is sexual. I want to tackle the Word first. To submit means "To give over or to yield to the power or authority of another; to subject to some kind of treatment or influence; to present for the approval, consideration, or decision of another; to state or urge with deference; suggest or propose; to yield oneself to the power of authority; to allow oneself to be subjected to some kind of treatment; to defer to another's judgement, opinion, decision." Definitions of words are very subjective. People tend to run wild with their own perceptions of the word. Submitting means a lot to most people. The word conjures up negative images for some.

I believe that too many women are adamantly against the idea of "submission." They think that it is negative by definition. I've heard women say that they "aren't submitting to any man." Submission does not automatically mean giving away all you r power or doing whatever a man says. That is not what I get from the Bible verses or the actual definition of the word. Submitting in a relationship, to me, means letting a man be the head of the household. That is what the Bible teaches.

"Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." (Ephesians 5:22-25)

I have no issue with the word "submit." I know that I have to hang up my single self if/when I get married. For the right man, submitting won't even be any issue. The right man will not take advantage of the word or of me. He will not degrade me while using the Bible as his reasoning. I wouldn't allow it. I've been in in too many situations that were wrong so I know right when I see it, feel it. It will be the natural order of things in my household. That is what I believe in my heart. I Are you willing to lose out on your soul mate because of a word? Let's discuss submission Biblically.

Day 5: What is Love??

My definition of love varies. Love is a verb…an action word. So it means that ones actions need to line up with ones words. It's the butterflies in the stomach and the happiness in the voice when you see that person. It's when you care about that person's well being more than anything. It's the knowing that your life would be a lot dimmer without them in it. Love is a roller coaster…the highs are incredible…the lows are the worst…but all of it is worth the ride. I can’t tell you what love is, but I know it when I’m in it and when I feel it. It’s like air. I just know.