I feel as if the club scene is so over. I've done it. Consistently. And, with great passion. It was my hobby. I loved every second of it. I can actually count on one hand the times I've been in a club in the last few years. There aren't very many reasons that I will go to a club. I've always invited to parties at clubs. I always decline. It's not that I don't want to celebrate with my family or friends. I just don't want to be in that environment anymore. It's not my cup of tea. The music that is popular in New Orleans clubs is not what I want to hear. I don't care for this new age bounce music or 90% of today's club themed Hip-Hop. I cannot take much of it.
Now, I prefer to stay home. I am cool with sitting at home, watching a good movie or reading a great book. I don't feel like I'm missing a thing. So, yes, I am a homebody and proud of it. I've been in too many clubs where stupid things have occurred. I know I'm safe at home. I don't have to worry about anything happening to me here. I don't mind going to a bar or a lounge for a drink or catching dinner or a movie with friends. I guess that comes with age. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to deal with a club full of people. Staying home is relaxing to me. when you've spent the better part of your 20's partying, your 30's are for resting. So that's what I'll do.
There has been a topic that keeps popping up on my Twitter timeline. It's the issue of porn and whether watching it is considered cheating. I find that assessment ri-damn-diculous. There are many answers to what cheating is. Porn never crosses my mind when I think of cheating. I mean, unless dude is cheating with an actual porn star. Other than that, my answer is a resounding "NO!" The conversation on Twitter was interesting because I can tell by the answers which age group people fell in. When you're older, you know more or you should. The ideas I had at 22 are so far removed from the ones I have now at 32. With age comes wisdom.
I don't think my significant other watching porn is cheating. It's just dumb to me to think that. Porn is fantasy. Sometimes the most outlandish things one could imagine sexually. I have no issue with porn. I'm a grown woman and I've watched it from time to time. I have no issue with my man watching it either. It's just porn. Now, my only issue with porn would be if he was addicted to it. Meaning he HAD to watch it all the time, or if he was neglecting me for it. That's an major issue.
Porn, to me, is like an appetizer. It can be used to learn some things or get some things going. It's never a replacement for sex and intimacy. Everyone has to decide for themselves where they stand on the issue. But I do believe that a couple should feel similiarly on it. I do think that if I hated porn and he loved it then it would become a point of discontent. That again goes to the fact that couples should have some things in common. I know it's said that opposites attract. I respectfully disagree. The things that connect people are stronger than the things that don't.
Porn is just another thing in life. Not to sound conceited, but I'll be damned if I get my panties in a bunch behind a chick on the screen. I'm confident enough in myself to know what I'm about. I know he doesn't mind at all that I watch porn. And, clearly I have no issue with him doing the same. But hey, that's just us. Maturity also plays a huge part in this. We're both old enough to know better. As couples, people have to find what works for them. Porn may not be everyone's cup of tea. I know there are certain genres of porn that my eyes refuse to view. I also know which ones I like and which ones he likes as well. As I should since he's mine. Is porn cheating? Or is that going too far?
Today is November 11th, 2011. Numerically, it is 11/11/11. Ever since I was a kid, the time 11:11 has always symbolized something magical. I would always make a wish at this time. I do not know where this came from. I cannot remember who told me this. But,it has always stuck with me. There are many people who believe that today's date is lucky. At 11:11:11 on 11/11/11 it will be the perfect palindrome date and the only double-figure palindromic date. Also 11/11/11 won't return again for another 100 years. I like the repentance of the number 11. I don't fully believe that something great or not so great will happen. I will keep my eyes open though. And, just for the sake of continuity I am posting this at 11:11 am on 11/11/11. How's that for a magical number? What do you guys think? Is it a special date? Or just a fact of life? Tell me about.
To live is so startling it leaves little time for anything else.
Emily Dickinson
The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.
Henry David Thoreau
Where there is love there is life.
Indira Gandhi
To succeed in life, you need three things: a wishbone, a backbone and a funnybone.
Reba McEntire
Life is nothing without friendship.
Marcus Tullius Cicero
Have a heart that never hardens, a temper that never tires, a touch that never hurts.
Charles Dickens
Just living is not enough. One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.
Hans Christian Andersen
A thousand words will not leave so deep an impression as one deed.
Henrik Ibsen
If you cannot be a poet, be the poem.
David Carradine
In the book of life, the answers aren't in the back.
Charlie Brown
Everything has been figured out, except how to live.
Jean-Paul Sartre
Life is a foreign language; all men mispronounce it.
Christopher Morley
Life is what happens to you While you're busy making other plans.
John Lennon
