Rant: Let the Father's Have Their Day!

Announcement: Father's Day is for Fathers. Yes, you read that right. The day is to celebrate all Dads. It is not a holiday to celebrate single moms. I think it is selfish for Moms to want to claim it as theirs as well. I grew up in a single parent home. Mom was it. But, the reality is she was not Mom and Dad. She was, however, a Super Mom in my eyes. But, she was not my Dad. She could not teach me lessons that only a Dad can. I cannot take this seriously. Why is this the trend? I will not tell any woman "Happy Father's Day" because it is not their day. By definition of the word father, mothers are totally exempt.

I've noticed on multiple social media sites that single moms cannot wait to take the credit for being both parents. It was literally 12:05 on Twitter when the anti-Father's day tweets started flying. I think its sad that fathers, especially in the Black community, cannot even have their day. This doesn't happen on Mother's Day. I have never seen men try to take credit for being both parents, even though this happens as well. In my opinion, it comes across as bitter. Moms are celebrated and exalted all year long. Dads seems to get a bad rep. And, I don't think its fair or warranted. There is another issue at hand here. But, as a woman without kids, I refuse to dive into it. So, let's just let the Fathers have their day. Let's try this out next year.

It's Father's Day!

Happy Father's Day to all the Dads out there! In all honesty, this day doesn't mean a whole lot to me currently. My Dad is deceased & I don't have kids. I would like to be more optimistic about today's holiday. And, in the future, I'm sure I will be. I will spend today the way I have for the last 14 years: reminiscing about my Dad, Kenneth. This holiday just makes me miss him even more. I wish he was still here. Wish I could be having a conversation with him. No tears today though. I will not allow them. I'm going to think happy thoughts and remember the good times. Dads are pretty important people. Today is their day. So, make sure you let the Dads in your life know how much they are loved & appreciated. Happy Father's Day!


In the picture: my Dad Kenneth Sr, me,
my brother Kendrick, and my sister Matika.
Circa January 1997.

Happy Father's Day

For years, this day has not meant much to me. My Dad has been gone for almost 13 years. But, I've realized that instead of being sad about that, I should celebrate the great men who are fathers in my life. I know some wonderful fathers who deserve all the praise they get. My brother is an awesome father of four. He is exceptional with his kids. Seeing him with my niece and nephews warm my heart. I feel proud because I helped raise him. My friends Mike, Charles, and Dom also fall into this category. I've watched them all grow from young boys to grown men. I also would like to wish a very happy Father's Day to one of the best father's I know, Kristopher. I just want to take a moment to shine a light on the great fathers I know. So Happy Father's Day to all those I mentioned as well as all the rest that I know. So please enjoy your day, Father's!!