There once was a time when I lived for a nightclub. From the age of about 16 to the age of about 27, I was a club-hopper. Meaning I loved to be in a club, drinking and dancing. There was nothing I enjoyed more. A great DJ in a cool location was always my destination. I just loved being out and about. There was nothing better than me and my girls hitting whatever club was hot back then. I literally planned my life around when and where I was going to go out. I was that into the scene. I was also more social back then too. I am not as much these days.
I feel as if the club scene is so over. I've done it. Consistently. And, with great passion. It was my hobby. I loved every second of it. I can actually count on one hand the times I've been in a club in the last few years. There aren't very many reasons that I will go to a club. I've always invited to parties at clubs. I always decline. It's not that I don't want to celebrate with my family or friends. I just don't want to be in that environment anymore. It's not my cup of tea. The music that is popular in New Orleans clubs is not what I want to hear. I don't care for this new age bounce music or 90% of today's club themed Hip-Hop. I cannot take much of it.
Now, I prefer to stay home. I am cool with sitting at home, watching a good movie or reading a great book. I don't feel like I'm missing a thing. So, yes, I am a homebody and proud of it. I've been in too many clubs where stupid things have occurred. I know I'm safe at home. I don't have to worry about anything happening to me here. I don't mind going to a bar or a lounge for a drink or catching dinner or a movie with friends. I guess that comes with age. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to deal with a club full of people. Staying home is relaxing to me. when you've spent the better part of your 20's partying, your 30's are for resting. So that's what I'll do.
We've all heard the saying "age ain't nothing but a number" but is it? Do you agree with that? When it comes to dating (assuming everyone is of legal age), does age really matter?? It is an age old question. My answer has changed drastically since I was 16. I preferred guys my age in high school. That was the norm.. I wasn't into older guys until college. I've realized that age isn't as important as maturity level. That is the determining factor.
I have dated younger (twice), my age (most of the time) and older (a few times). What I have realized is age really doesn't matter. Younger guys can be more mature than guys my age. Older guys can be much more immature than they should be. I know its been said that women mature faster than men. I think that is a case by case situation as well. Maturity never presents itself in the same way. I prefer to be able to have conversations with a man on a myriad of topics. A mature man who is fully aware of the world around him makes me smile.
Many factors should be considered when it comes to dating. The attraction comes first. During the initial conversations, other factors will be fleshed out. Age comes up as well as occupation and kids. All of the pieces matter. I think the answer to the age old question depends on the person. I'm totally opposed to dating younger. Older seems to suit me much better. I think its because I am an old soul. You're only as old or young as you feel. I know what works for me and what I prefer. What about you guys? Weigh in!
There has been a topic that keeps popping up on my Twitter timeline. It's the issue of porn and whether watching it is considered cheating. I find that assessment ri-damn-diculous. There are many answers to what cheating is. Porn never crosses my mind when I think of cheating. I mean, unless dude is cheating with an actual porn star. Other than that, my answer is a resounding "NO!" The conversation on Twitter was interesting because I can tell by the answers which age group people fell in. When you're older, you know more or you should. The ideas I had at 22 are so far removed from the ones I have now at 32. With age comes wisdom.
I don't think my significant other watching porn is cheating. It's just dumb to me to think that. Porn is fantasy. Sometimes the most outlandish things one could imagine sexually. I have no issue with porn. I'm a grown woman and I've watched it from time to time. I have no issue with my man watching it either. It's just porn. Now, my only issue with porn would be if he was addicted to it. Meaning he HAD to watch it all the time, or if he was neglecting me for it. That's an major issue.
Porn, to me, is like an appetizer. It can be used to learn some things or get some things going. It's never a replacement for sex and intimacy. Everyone has to decide for themselves where they stand on the issue. But I do believe that a couple should feel similiarly on it. I do think that if I hated porn and he loved it then it would become a point of discontent. That again goes to the fact that couples should have some things in common. I know it's said that opposites attract. I respectfully disagree. The things that connect people are stronger than the things that don't.
Porn is just another thing in life. Not to sound conceited, but I'll be damned if I get my panties in a bunch behind a chick on the screen. I'm confident enough in myself to know what I'm about. I know he doesn't mind at all that I watch porn. And, clearly I have no issue with him doing the same. But hey, that's just us. Maturity also plays a huge part in this. We're both old enough to know better. As couples, people have to find what works for them. Porn may not be everyone's cup of tea. I know there are certain genres of porn that my eyes refuse to view. I also know which ones I like and which ones he likes as well. As I should since he's mine. Is porn cheating? Or is that going too far?
